What makes girls intimidating in America but also many other Western English-speaking nations is because many girls just reject most guys from my own opinion. I've never been in a relationship with an actual American girl born in America. It's intimidating because of the rejections, not wanting to be considered a creep, and if a girl doesn't like a guy it's possible the girl could say that the guy was sexually harassing her. I wouldn't be intimidated by any girl except girls in the English-speaking West: North America (US and Canada), UK, Australia, and NZ. When I went to Europe for a two month summer vacation, I met a girl from Belarus that was also on her summer break. We hung out a lot and if I actually lived in Europe I would have been able to actually get her as my girlfriend. She's the type of girl that people in America would say would be "way out of my league." She had long blonde hair with some little waviness past her shoulders, grey eyes, and was way beyond hot. She did a lot of sports from a young age so she was toned. It might be wrong to think but if I approached a girl similar to her in America, I wouldn't have any chance because I think it's true that in America any beautiful American girl would be "way out of my league" not because I believe that but because she would believe it and reject me because I'm not the dream guy portrayed in Hollywood and TV, and because I am not what society in general has programmed most American girls to think are the only types of American guys that are worth dating. It's just the way things are now in America so guys act from experience. In America guys learn to know what American girls are out of their leagues from experience and if they can't get a girl they desire, then they probably go overseas to try to get a girl they would find acceptable that has a difference culture that doesn't have the "in my league, out of my league" thing but instead values other things too like responsibility, wanting a real "no games" relationship, and who date with the intention for the possibility of it becoming marriage. In the West many times dating is mostly for fun and not actually marriage until people reach their mid or late 30s and know time is running out to start a family. That's my opinion on what makes approaching cute or hot girls (in America) intimidating.
Why do you get to judge a boy upon his bravery or lack thereof when you exhibit none of that yourself? Do you ever approach boys you find cute? It is constantly shoved down our throats that women don't want to be approached and want their privacy. What do you expect will happen when you find guys who actually respect those demands?
With feminism, it is now up to women to also take the initiative. This is not something that males are obligated to do anymore. Female empowerment teaches you to go after what you want, so take advantage of that and go after what you want. Boys are not taught the same by society growing up so you might find plenty of them lacking the confidence. If you want him to know you're interested then sometimes you just have to approach him yourself. Any guy who is interested in you will then initiate from then onward. Don't look for ways to show you're interested, most boys might not notice it. Just start a conversation with them and let your interest be known.
Girl is intimidating if she has a mean look on her face or looks unapproachable. Your body language and dressing sense says a lot. Like me for example, I get approached by guys a lot because I have a calm and friendly look on my face and I seem approachable.
This is not rocket science.
Acting like a colossal bitch is intimidating from what I hear. I'd know.
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A girl is intimidating when I'm interested in her. When I'm not interested in someone or not attracted to them I'm not very shy. But I can be quite shy with girls I find attractive. It's like I suddenly don't know what to say anymore. I have a tendency to just be friendly and not show interest even if I'm interested. I guess flirting is not my strongest side. It just feels very weird and unnatural for me to do.
I usually show my interest on distance with eye contact and smiling. I want to approach but the stakes always make it feel not worth it which I know is very illogical haha.
To me, a girl is super intimidating if they are just way too hot. I consider myself to be at least a 6 or 7.(just off looks), but at most a 8. I actually had a conversation with a friend about this the other day. I was telling her how, I don't approach girls that are "9s" or "10s" at the risk of looking like I am only interested in looks. I have the confidence in my people skills to get someone to like me, but I don't have the confidence to approach a girl who hasn't shown any signs of being interested. I just don't want to come off as a pervert, especially in this day and age.
Signs that I personally prefer are extremely direct. I don't like any ambiguity, but if I catch a cute girl smiling at me constantly I will make my move.
Maybe it has nothing to do with being intimidating, maybe guys just can't be bothered. I used to approach any woman I found attractive, almost anywhere. I'd be walking down the street, see a girl sitting at a Bus stop, sit next to her and engage. I approached girls in groups and talked to all of them, asked girls on dates after noticing a nice one in a shop... you get the idea.
But nowadays, I cannot be bothered because it's a waste of time, and there is no benefit. It has nothing to do with being intimidated, it's just not worth the trouble. The irony is, a woman approached me after I smiled at her.
If that's you in the picture, there is not really any emotion on your face so if you look like that... less approaches. Also, it could be the energy you give off too.
Most girls are tired of guys approaching them every day and give the impression they are annoyed and uninterested before the guy comes up to them. so even though u cute and might be different ill avoid approaching you to save the embarrassment. On the other hand some girls show their intrest but when guys approach them they act up
Probably just being young and too inexperienced. A young guy may put a woman on a pedestal and see her as some perfect being and not just another person, terrified of looking foolish or being rejected. That usually goes away with some life experience.
Well I'm going to judge you pretty fucking harshly because you kind of come off as a complete bitch in this like what the fuck "your a guy like don't be a pussy and man up" first off wrong usage if your should be you're second off I fucking hate that phrase dudes are allowed to have insecurities they are allowed to feel worthless and like they are not good enough to go up to a cute girl I hope that they don't feel this way but it's people like you that make them feel worse because you brush off mental illness because you say they're dudes so they should just get over it and that's not fucking ok. You know what a great way to show you're interested is? It's to walk up and fucking start talking to them yourself because that are not required to be the ones starting conversation. You are literally the worst type of person.
Girls aren't intimidating, there is not a single girl who I find intimidating. I have no problem approaching women.
However a lot of guys are shy, nervous or afraid of rejection and that's why they don't approach. Overcoming that fear is not easy so why don't you approach them instead of complaining like a self entitled moron.
Smiling, initiating conversation, especially over text. Also intentionally directing your talks into romantic/sexual areas helps a ton. Touching his shoulder or hand a lot is good, that's a clear way to show attraction. Eventually you should be able to just tell him and force his hand, so to speak.
Be warm and bubbly towards them, when it comes to signals guys are more often then not completely blind. Like guys and girls are on two different wavelengths of thought especially while younger. You pretty much have to scream it in there face before we comprehend.
Why don't you "man up"? lol Seriously. This "expectation" placed on guys to be the ones to approach is ridiculous. We have ALL the same thoughts, feelings and insecurities YOU do about approaching, yet, you get a pass from that? Just because you're a woman?
Not sure... if I like her, am attracted, I'll approach her and start talking
That statement right there. That's the shit that will never get a guy's attention, not positive anyway. Who the fuck are you to tell any guy to "man up". Did you just have your own balls cut off just recently or do you subscribe to the bullshit feminist channel of "women know what it's like to be a guy better then guys do"?
I’m reasonably attractive. If I see an attractive girl I’ll look at her. But sometimes I don’t want to go up to her. Also I tend to assume she’s taken, or is shallow which is wrong I know.
I am an anxious person too. I’ve had girls approach me, but I just become anxious. Telling me to man up really won’t help me.
Part of me also likes being single. I can focus on things more important like my future etc... before a girl. Hopefully by which time I will be more confident and ditch the anxiety.
Who is much more likely to accuse the other side with harassment, I wonder. :)
Women always say they're independent now and they want their equality but when it comes down to it they're just as scared as guys at making the first move
Why must the guy approach? Plus cute is just cute. It has nothing to do with whatever. Keep walking and live your life.
The fear of rejection but most importantly, the feeling of... shit, what if she kicks me in the balls with those damn boots on. I think all guys can relate to that.
honestly, women don´t "intimidate" me. unless they are some kind of muscle beast, threatening to beat me up xD but i never had that happen in my life.
You are probably not that hot, that's why guys don't approach you. Hot girls get approached all the time. So you'd better woman up and start approaching guys instead.
If you're making eye contact with a smile that should be enough for the hombre
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