What makes girls intimidating in America but also many other Western English-speaking nations is because many girls just reject most guys from my own opinion. I've never been in a relationship with an actual American girl born in America. It's intimidating because of the rejections, not wanting to be considered a creep, and if a girl doesn't like a guy it's possible the girl could say that the guy was sexually harassing her. I wouldn't be intimidated by any girl except girls in the English-speaking West: North America (US and Canada), UK, Australia, and NZ. When I went to Europe for a two month summer vacation, I met a girl from Belarus that was also on her summer break. We hung out a lot and if I actually lived in Europe I would have been able to actually get her as my girlfriend. She's the type of girl that people in America would say would be "way out of my league." She had long blonde hair with some little waviness past her shoulders, grey eyes, and was way beyond hot. She did a lot of sports from a young age so she was toned. It might be wrong to think but if I approached a girl similar to her in America, I wouldn't have any chance because I think it's true that in America any beautiful American girl would be "way out of my league" not because I believe that but because she would believe it and reject me because I'm not the dream guy portrayed in Hollywood and TV, and because I am not what society in general has programmed most American girls to think are the only types of American guys that are worth dating. It's just the way things are now in America so guys act from experience. In America guys learn to know what American girls are out of their leagues from experience and if they can't get a girl they desire, then they probably go overseas to try to get a girl they would find acceptable that has a difference culture that doesn't have the "in my league, out of my league" thing but instead values other things too like responsibility, wanting a real "no games" relationship, and who date with the intention for the possibility of it becoming marriage. In the West many times dating is mostly for fun and not actually marriage until people reach their mid or late 30s and know time is running out to start a family. That's my opinion on what makes approaching cute or hot girls (in America) intimidating.
Why do you get to judge a boy upon his bravery or lack thereof when you exhibit none of that yourself? Do you ever approach boys you find cute? It is constantly shoved down our throats that women don't want to be approached and want their privacy. What do you expect will happen when you find guys who actually respect those demands?
With feminism, it is now up to women to also take the initiative. This is not something that males are obligated to do anymore. Female empowerment teaches you to go after what you want, so take advantage of that and go after what you want. Boys are not taught the same by society growing up so you might find plenty of them lacking the confidence. If you want him to know you're interested then sometimes you just have to approach him yourself. Any guy who is interested in you will then initiate from then onward. Don't look for ways to show you're interested, most boys might not notice it. Just start a conversation with them and let your interest be known.
Yes give ur opinionšand i have mines and yes many girls think of this simply because we are girls but you can't blame us for thinking that we were kinda raised to think that way and i respect your opinion so dont disrespect my opinion too because then thats when you know that youve not only disrespected my opinion but me as a person.
OHMYGOSHH SORRY broā¤ļøi read the top part and didn't read the whole thing!! THANKS FOR the advice literally and im glad u didn't take offense what i saiddšso your saying guys like girls when they just go for what they want?
Guys like an outgoing girl just as much as girls like an outgoing guy, you'll find that what you expect out of a boy isn't all that different from what a boy will expect out of you. Boys are just confused at a young age because they really don't know what girls want, what they like, and what will be appreciated. Many boys are fearful of rejection. Any guy can find you attractive but if he doesn't think he is that attractive himself, it's unlikely he will approach you. Girls are often told how pretty they are but boys usually are not given the same compliments which does impact confidence between genders. It simply isn't fair to obligate him to "man up" and approach you while you get to sit back and relax and judge him is what I was saying. You shouldn't hold people to specific standards that you won't hold yourself to.
I think that if a girl wanted a boyfriend, the only thing stopping her from getting one is simply herself.
Girl is intimidating if she has a mean look on her face or looks unapproachable. Your body language and dressing sense says a lot. Like me for example, I get approached by guys a lot because I have a calm and friendly look on my face and I seem approachable.
This is not rocket science.
Acting like a colossal bitch is intimidating from what I hear. I'd know.
What does colossal mean
Very big.
Like popular?
No like a BIG BITCH, like a mega asshole, a very, very supreme cunt.
Thats not being intimidating i would hit tf of a celile bitch
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A girl is intimidating when I'm interested in her. When I'm not interested in someone or not attracted to them I'm not very shy. But I can be quite shy with girls I find attractive. It's like I suddenly don't know what to say anymore. I have a tendency to just be friendly and not show interest even if I'm interested. I guess flirting is not my strongest side. It just feels very weird and unnatural for me to do.
I usually show my interest on distance with eye contact and smiling. I want to approach but the stakes always make it feel not worth it which I know is very illogical haha.
What if she sends mixed signals?šand like she looks at you a lot but she doesn't tlak to you? Or act like she's uninterested would u just like move on? And are u likeee introverted around people u dont know but loud with people u do know?
I enjoy eye flirting even if nothing happens so I would continue. I'm most often not the loudest which is how I like it, I don't speak if I can't contribute to the conversation. I usually stay rather quiet in the beginning when meeting new to learn how they think and if think they are interesting or not. I analyze the situation first before I speak.
Sadly I can't see your whole reply after "loud with" because it won't let me press that button...
Ohh i said like are u quiet with people u dont know but loud people u do know
No I'm generally quiet but I have moments when I talk a lot. Sometimes I'm very curious about a subject and I can have many thoughts about it. Usually it's my father who receives this torture of a million questions also because he is very educated.
Usually I enjoy to just jump in on jokes or make a comment. I try to contribute. But I enjoy listening to others, you can learn a lot about people when listening.
To me, a girl is super intimidating if they are just way too hot. I consider myself to be at least a 6 or 7.(just off looks), but at most a 8. I actually had a conversation with a friend about this the other day. I was telling her how, I don't approach girls that are "9s" or "10s" at the risk of looking like I am only interested in looks. I have the confidence in my people skills to get someone to like me, but I don't have the confidence to approach a girl who hasn't shown any signs of being interested. I just don't want to come off as a pervert, especially in this day and age.
Signs that I personally prefer are extremely direct. I don't like any ambiguity, but if I catch a cute girl smiling at me constantly I will make my move.
Ohhhh so like smiling at him will like make him make a move? What if u start a convo?
In my opinion yes, unless the guy is extremely insecure or introverted. Every guy is different, but smiles are definitely a big sign of interest to me.
Maybe it has nothing to do with being intimidating, maybe guys just can't be bothered. I used to approach any woman I found attractive, almost anywhere. I'd be walking down the street, see a girl sitting at a Bus stop, sit next to her and engage. I approached girls in groups and talked to all of them, asked girls on dates after noticing a nice one in a shop... you get the idea.
But nowadays, I cannot be bothered because it's a waste of time, and there is no benefit. It has nothing to do with being intimidated, it's just not worth the trouble. The irony is, a woman approached me after I smiled at her.
If that's you in the picture, there is not really any emotion on your face so if you look like that... less approaches. Also, it could be the energy you give off too.
Most girls are tired of guys approaching them every day and give the impression they are annoyed and uninterested before the guy comes up to them. so even though u cute and might be different ill avoid approaching you to save the embarrassment. On the other hand some girls show their intrest but when guys approach them they act up
Dating is just confusingš
Probably just being young and too inexperienced. A young guy may put a woman on a pedestal and see her as some perfect being and not just another person, terrified of looking foolish or being rejected. That usually goes away with some life experience.
Well I'm going to judge you pretty fucking harshly because you kind of come off as a complete bitch in this like what the fuck "your a guy like don't be a pussy and man up" first off wrong usage if your should be you're second off I fucking hate that phrase dudes are allowed to have insecurities they are allowed to feel worthless and like they are not good enough to go up to a cute girl I hope that they don't feel this way but it's people like you that make them feel worse because you brush off mental illness because you say they're dudes so they should just get over it and that's not fucking ok. You know what a great way to show you're interested is? It's to walk up and fucking start talking to them yourself because that are not required to be the ones starting conversation. You are literally the worst type of person.
I get that everybody has insecurities but im just saying man up I've never said that your worthless as i was saying i was pissed at the time so dont be bootyickled about it its just the way a lot of girls think and its not about insecurities we just want them to just man up and make a move like no need to be madšš»
Sorry may have gone a bit hard but really that's a thing that makes guys feel like shit is that they have this mental block that makes them tell themselves they are worthless and then because they are guys they aren't helped they are just told to man the fuck up because they are supposed to be tough and aren't allowed to have feelings. Mental health is an issue that's very close to my heart. And the problem is you just did it again it is about insecurities it is about feeling worthless it is about the fact that they feel like it would not be worth the effort due to the fact that they aren't good enough if you got some head issues going on all those thoughts play through your mind before you talk to a girl. I know I had issues with it for years which I just recently got over.
Girls aren't intimidating, there is not a single girl who I find intimidating. I have no problem approaching women.
However a lot of guys are shy, nervous or afraid of rejection and that's why they don't approach. Overcoming that fear is not easy so why don't you approach them instead of complaining like a self entitled moron.
Smiling, initiating conversation, especially over text. Also intentionally directing your talks into romantic/sexual areas helps a ton. Touching his shoulder or hand a lot is good, that's a clear way to show attraction. Eventually you should be able to just tell him and force his hand, so to speak.
Be warm and bubbly towards them, when it comes to signals guys are more often then not completely blind. Like guys and girls are on two different wavelengths of thought especially while younger. You pretty much have to scream it in there face before we comprehend.
But if you make yourself look interseted isn't that like a turn offš
Different guys different attitudes. Personally id probably like it. Is it a specific person you are refering too
Like he's quiet to everybody eh doesn't know like in class but with his close friends he's hella loud
Have you ever talked to him one on one
No well he's asked about hw
Try talking to him ask how he is going with things
Maybe after talking a little ask if he is seeing anyone
Why don't you "man up"? lol Seriously. This "expectation" placed on guys to be the ones to approach is ridiculous. We have ALL the same thoughts, feelings and insecurities YOU do about approaching, yet, you get a pass from that? Just because you're a woman?
Well its sad but thats what most girls think:))))) and im trying to woman up myself too so dont get salty bro
Not sure... if I like her, am attracted, I'll approach her and start talking
Even if like she rejected every guy that tried?
I like the positivity brošÆšÆšÆšÆšÆšÆ
ššhow bout when u were younger
That statement right there. That's the shit that will never get a guy's attention, not positive anyway. Who the fuck are you to tell any guy to "man up". Did you just have your own balls cut off just recently or do you subscribe to the bullshit feminist channel of "women know what it's like to be a guy better then guys do"?
It was an expression man up. I dont get why you took it in a negative way i was just asking a question but that was i was wondering. Why can't guys just man up and talk to the girls they like? Man up. That was my question how is that offensive im not trying to make you feel butthurt or anything because ur a guy i was just expressing my frustration so dont get bootytickled
That's one of the most offensive things a woman can say to a guy under the circumstances. What do you risk if a guy talks to you? Nothing. A guy risks total social suicide not to mention a huge blow to his ego and sense of self. Why is this so difficult for a woman to understand.
Maybe you should "woman-up" and put on your big girl panties and make yourself a little more available and approachable.
Damn i didn't know it was that big. I was being chill about it and i never said that NEVER said that to a man im telling you its what most girls think of like why can't they just man up? Its not meant to take in any negative way and most guys dont take it negatively but put some positivity in your life man
Positivity. Wow, you are special. You are of the opinion that it's everyone else's job to make your life easier, most especially men. I'm not the one who needs positivity. I'm positive you are a self-important, arrogant young woman and I don't blame the guys around you for not approaching you.
Lets just say most girls think its the man who shoild make a move and one including me and if that opinion bothers u im sorry because i remmeber the only thing that bothers u is my thoughts that guys should make the first move and its my opinion im not calling guys offensive or generalizing them names
And damn now your offensing me? Damn i never mad offense of you as a person and thats what sucks more. Its my opinion and if u think that guys shouldn't man up then its ok why did u not only have to make fun of my situation but also for me having an opinion? Bruh u need to take a chill pill and not take things too seriously. Ayy ain't my fault that you have no girlfriend. How do i know that? Uhhhhhhhh its obviousššpositivityššššš»šš»
@hshsjsjdhdhsxh Wow, you are so childish. We are living in the 21th century and men don't owe you shit! I repeat: you are not entitled to anything from men. If they don't approach you then it's probably because you are not that hot and it has nothing to do with intimidation.
@TheGreatSodini It's how women are raised these days.
Okay, I will apologize, my emotions got the better of me under the circumstances and I will try harder to be more agreeable in the discussion going forward.
Iām reasonably attractive. If I see an attractive girl Iāll look at her. But sometimes I donāt want to go up to her. Also I tend to assume sheās taken, or is shallow which is wrong I know.
I am an anxious person too. Iāve had girls approach me, but I just become anxious. Telling me to man up really wonāt help me.
Part of me also likes being single. I can focus on things more important like my future etc... before a girl. Hopefully by which time I will be more confident and ditch the anxiety.
So does it help if the girl just approaches you first? And if a lot of guys are interested in her and they just turn them down like would that be an immediate no to you?
No itās great. It shows she goes after what she wants, and that she is geninely interested. It would flatter any man to be honest.
When a girl approaches me I really respect it. Itās really confident and brave, because a woman is ignoring the norm of men approaching.
Donāt think that it makes you desperate. it really doesnāt.
Who is much more likely to accuse the other side with harassment, I wonder. :)
But approaching a girl isn't harassmentš
Damn what type of girls have u met
Women always say they're independent now and they want their equality but when it comes down to it they're just as scared as guys at making the first move
This is so trueee but like thats a guys job so man up
You intimidate me I'm in the corner crying in the fetal position boohoo
Ahahahhaha ohmygosh but like seriouslyš do guys just want girls to make the first move then?
I don't really think it's about the first move I think it's more about society as a whole doesn't like to be rejected so it's kind of hard for someone to as you would say man up
Ughhh but like if the girl is hella cute and you are attracted u still wouldn't approach her unless forsure she's ingerested?
Did u really say Hella is that still a thing but just ask a friend to drop a hint to him and if that doesn't work ask urself
Bruhh your 41šyes its a thing and coo thanks bro
Why must the guy approach? Plus cute is just cute. It has nothing to do with whatever. Keep walking and live your life.
The fear of rejection but most importantly, the feeling of... shit, what if she kicks me in the balls with those damn boots on. I think all guys can relate to that.
honestly, women don´t "intimidate" me. unless they are some kind of muscle beast, threatening to beat me up xD but i never had that happen in my life.
Like youve never found any girl hard to approach?
well yeah but i think "intimidating" is the wrong word, cause approaching is always kind of risky due to the emotional pain of rejection xD so i usually just donĀ“t want to approach them. i never really had a big interest in girls that seem hard to approach.
isn't hard to approach and intimidating the same thing? So u won't really approach the girl unless forsure she is attracted?
do you not touch a stove top, cause it would be stupid to touch it as it would burn your hands or are you "intimidated" by the stove top and thatĀ“s why you actually donĀ“t touch it? :D thatĀ“s the kind of logic for me.
if i see a very high chance of getting burned, then i wonĀ“t touch it.
Ayyyyyy thats smartšÆ
Guys are just confusing in general to meš
i mean for me with every girl i fall for, itĀ“s intimidating to not know if they want me. but that can only happen at a point where i'm actually sure there is a chance to begin with. i'm intimidated by the gamble that his mostly turns out to be xD not so much by the person it's about.
itĀ“s actually not that confusing xD i mean what would go through your head if you had to approach people, cause you can be sure they donĀ“t approach you? :P
You are probably not that hot, that's why guys don't approach you. Hot girls get approached all the time. So you'd better woman up and start approaching guys instead.
Uhhhh thats not true btwš
Yes it is. Stop coping, you are not hot.
Hot girls intimdate a lot of guys tho. Im not saying im cute damn chill like im myself and yeah:)) wait before u judge my face can i see how ur face looks first?š§
This question is not about me, it is about you, so I don't understand what my looks have to do with our conversation. I am not a bad looking guy though.
And you haven't really posted your face either.
Same to you bššÆ
If you're making eye contact with a smile that should be enough for the hombre
Wdym?š©
lol if you look friendly, you shouldn't have to do anything else
I heard that its hard to approach cute outgoing girls
Welll in the type of girl that likes playing games lets say like hard to get so likee im doing this to a guy whose quiet in class but very loud with his friends
So that could mean he's introverted so I don't know if hard to get will work for him. You might have to make that move lol
Damnnnn i hate making a move that makes my pride so low eewwww
lol sorry some guys just don't go for it. Laugh extra hard at his jokes? I mean I've never felt intimidated going up to a girl so I might be biased
Why are you intimidated when you notice a super cute male? That should answer your question.
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Ayyyy true
Just remain yourself, and the guys who are suited well for you will approach you...
Its not you who has to take the rejection. Some women are rude when they reject guys.
Probably the way you carry yourself, your attitude, etc
Men have died and killed for the opportunity to evenbe at the side of certain women. This fanaticism... This is the answer.
i've always approached but was shot down for fourteen years. i don't see the point.
No one ever comes up to you because you're a fucking bitch
I have a hard time trying to talk to females but I still say hello
Approaching girls in what location?
Like school and stuff
Or like a girl in ur class
Haha look up
Wym?
Age? I'm 21 I don't go to school.
No duhh i mean when u were youngerš
Wym u dont go to schooll ughhhh college?
Duh? They'd be a lot of people still in school on here. I don't go to college
Nothing. She farts and poops like everyone else.
Im deadš
You slick look just like my brother girlfriend.
Someoneās attitude can make her intimidating
Maybe you're not attractive.
Ouchhh probably huh?;)
Actually. They are usually boring !
Women? Are boring? Damnn never heard of thatttššššššš
Damnnn u must like to play with women huh?~_~
Your insecurities lol
Thats stupid
It isn't. If u are confidence enough nobody is going ti intimidate u xd
No like girls that have insecurities intimidate you? Like every girl has insecurities tho
No lol. What im saying is if a girl intimidates me is because im insecure. Not because she is it
Ohh lol you shouldve said thatššši was gonna press you about hating a girls insecuritiesšā¤ļø
No wtf that makes no sensešā¤ā¤
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I don't find women intimidating
Like i mean hard to approach
So you just approach any girl u think is cute?
Damn okayy confidence is key brošš»
Atty every guy should be like youuušš
Im tryin to hype u up bro but like seriously guys need to just amke a move
Don't wear makeup you'll look intimidating as fuck
Shyness intimidates them
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