I’m probably classified as an “emotionally guarded women” but it’s also because I have little to no experience when it comes to dating. If I feel like you’re worth the effort and that the feelings are mutual... I definitely don’t mind sharing my feelings but I do have difficulty expressing myself physically. A lot of guys from my past thought I wasn’t affectionate enough when really I just wasn’t comfortable around them yet being we’d only hung out once or twice. I have yet to get the chance of fully expressing myself to a guy. It’s frustrating because most guys are used to girls who are automatically affectionate and they usually feel like i’m work
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Great question, I wonder the same because guys seem to run for the hills from me 😂😂
I use to be very open and clingy but that also seemed to scare guys away so I became distant. I wasn't trying to play hard to get, I just didn't wanna get hurt again so I began to guard myself. I never want to get close then have them leave.
Nowadays when they leave I doesn't feel hurt because I never let them get close enough to really know me... Sometimes I wish I were open again because I want a relationship but ehhh seems too risky
I am married and I was and am emotionally guarded towards other people, I’m scared of getting hurt and cheat on I’m scared to get close if it comes down to it. My husband has accepted me fror being emotionally guarded and he knows I will open up to him, as I have
Any woman who thinks men want a "challenge" when it comes to chasing down women or like the "hard to get" thing has been lied to way too many times by television. Men are simple. We like things to be simple. If you make things complicated, you automatically lose hotness points. I have no interest walking on egg shells for a woman. The entire point of having a lover is that you can let your guard down and be yourself around them. If I don't feel like I can do that with you then I'll drop kick your ass to the curb so fast you'd think it was Wrestlemania. I want a girl I can relax with. Not one I have to pry open like a coconut.
To your question, it’s totally cool and not a turn off at all. And I think with the sex side of things since you sound less guarded there, you can see and feel that guy all out. You can tell a lot from his loving side. If he’s about paying attention to your needs and not himself for example, you might be more inclined to open up more and let your guard down some? It takes time. But if he’s selfless in bed for example you can see his love and attentions toward you. That will tell you if you want to open up more to him and trust him.
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I find those women difficult. Whether I'm feeling connected to her depends on whether she's feeling connected to me. And if she's always guarded then I just feel like I don't matter to her and that I'm wasting my time. Its kind of a shitty feeling. Also, if the sex side of things comes easily then that's kind of worrisome because it means she can engage in casual sex fairly easily which is definitely something I don't want in a woman. I have a difficult time separating emotions from sex so I need both the emotional and physical sides of the intimacy. If she can only give me one, then I just feel unwanted and like a temporary fixture in her life.
yes one of my exes was like this it's one of the reasons we broke up
it was also because I spent 10ish years being a ho I left me empty and also with the inability to have an erection ( with a women ) if I don't trust my SO so for me this is a huge turn off, but to be fair I have baggage in this area. at the end of the day for me no sex without a relationship firstYa I am like that too but I'm usually like that to everyone other than guys. If a guy has the right kind of vibe, I don't mind opening up my book to them. Due to past bad experiences (got suspended at my school for posting an insulting comment about my teacher), I'm very guarded about who I speak to/open up to at school.
I think it should be the other way, you shouldn't be having sex with someone until you are comfortable with them and can open up to them. Having sex with someone you aren't really 100 with can lead to children. Then you are forced to have them in your life.
Use your brain please, I'm tired of seeing so many women make this mistake.I'm an emotionally guarded woman. Pretty much a ninja with my emotions. Someone comes around, I'm just like WACHAAAAAAAAAAA. Karate chop em before they get too close. And then you have those guys who are more skilled in the art of ninjaing. Those are the ones who get past.
I can relate. After enough bad experiences, you can become emotionally guarded very easily.
Although with age, you can realize what matters to be guarded about, and what does not matter.It’s something that should be worked through before entering into a relationship. I’m guarded as well and it’s caused a lot of problems in my relationships. I’ve come to realize that I need to learn to be more emotionally vulnerable, first.
I guess it depends on the situation but the most part you have to respect that and in a certain way it's kind of special because you know she's smart and she doesn't want to be hurt again
My ex girlfriend was Asian and culturally she was much more emotionally guarded.
It was nice at first because she wasn't going ballistic over every little thing. However, I was doing things to turn her off and I didn't even know it. She ended up completely ghosting me after 9 months of dating with no warning.
I like to know where I stand with women (as long as they don't nag).My experience they are toxic to a relationship... Until they sort out their issues, dont bother. They will drain you.
I tend to come off as emotionally guarded, cold or stand off-ish. I guess i can be with some things, but i do let my emotions out and vocalize my feelings when need be.
As long as she spreads her legs for me, she can stay as "guarded" as she wants to be.
Not a turn off but not someone I would put any effort into getting to know better. More of a short term relationship, in my opinion.
I seem to be attracted to this sort unfortunately. To be honest its an emotional drain.
I'm also emotionally guarded. I'm fine with it, as long as she DOES finally open up.
Eh... I can't say I'm a huge fan. I need a woman to make my life warm and pleasant not cold and icy.
It can be interesting but on the right amount because a girl that is too guarded up ends up being a boomer
I dont have a problem as long as she thinks we are a couple
I like emotional woman who tells directly when they have fears or sorrows. I would rather not having sex than not knowing her problems
I like those kinds of girls. As long as they actually open up instead of just consistently finding reasons not to.
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