Why do guys keep approaching me?

[Anonymous]

Ok this is going to sound conceited and I’m like full of myself but like this is becoming a real problem and making me feel uncomfortable. First this guy at work asks me out and I reject him and yet he keeps coming back to order food from me at the restaurant and chatting me up and I told him I had a boyfriend which I didn’t. And then I went on this date with someone last night this other guy I work with who I’ve been friends for a few months. We decided to try going on a date, we went to the lounge/restaurant at work and he was going on about how he feels different with me and he’s never felt this way before and I’m just so strikingly beautiful that he just like stutters when he’s around me. And then WHILE I’m on this date, this guy at the lounge comes up at close and starts trying to touch me and tell me I’m the most beautiful employee there and the server had to get him to leave because he wouldn’t stop trying to talk to me and she told me he was crying when I left? I have no idea what is going on here I have never had this problem before. When I wake up and look in the mirror I see like dark circles and messed hair and a flat chest and all the guys are telling me the opposite and it’s so confusing? I didn’t know I had this effect on men? when I was in High school I was bullied and I was pretty ugly tbh like more than now and I don’t feel like I look THAT different but I don't know what to do. I had to leave to the bathroom a few times because of those guys last night I felt so overwhelmed and uncomfortable :(

[seandisinsky]

Men don't look at you the way you look at yourself in the mirror. Men are suppose to be the ones that take initiative and ask the girl out (according to society standards) which is why you will have men come up and approach you and try to ask you out. What the guy did touching you is creepy and is not acceptable. But in general you will get men randomly trying to ask you out because that is what they're suppose to do. Believe me I wish I could just sit around wait for a girl to approach me and ask me out even though that's very unlikely, so I have to take the initiative and approach a girl and ask them out. You may hate it but try to understand from a males perspective, the best way for a male to get a date is to approach women and ask them out.

[Arslan99]

First of all, you must be really attractive. Nevertheless, most guys usually stop chasing after you've told them that you have a boyfriend'. I would suggest, in your case, talking to the guy who keeps constantly chasing you and telling him/them that you have a serious relationship and even though this is all 'flattering' he/they should stop wasting his/their time. If this doesn't work, I suggest reporting this to your employer if you all work in the same organization. If you had/have a boyfriend, he would have taken these matters into his own hands if you would have told him. Other than that, you should get used to constantly being approached. Anyways, those are the challenges of being attractive.

[ReaRose14]

Imma gonna ayo you must be really attractive, and pretty

[Metaanio]

You are probably really good looking, and that is why guys approaches you, but those guys just couldn't handle rejection and/or didn't respect your choices and boundaries.

Some people says that if guy keeps trying, girl thinks it's hot (and some of them might, but not all), and this creates creepy, scary and annoying situations for women when they really aren't interested.

[FashGordon]

Hard to say, men in Utah often have this problem , the girls there are weird I've seen them practically running to keep up with guys they were following around hitting on. Edward Abby supposedly wrote about the phenomena. Could be the aria you're in is just full of weird oversexed guys or full of not very attractive girls. I've noticed I get a lot of attention when I go into places where the men are generally inbred alcoholics and it stops cold as soon as I'm in a normal aria.

[Steffen]

You should check out how to use your body language to say no, and then check out how to confront people to make them stop. I recomend charisma on command, on youtube

[SnapTsch]

People don't see you the way you see yourself.

You are probably prettier than you think, the only problem. is that it is attracting attention from the wrong people

[hellacray]

How long have your been working there?

Maybe it's time to work in a restaurant that doesn't have a bar.

[zagor]

A lot of people have no idea how they look to others, or even what it is about them that people find attractive.

[Anonymous]

Wear a prosthetic nose and glasses, maybe shave your head, something drastic. You have no choice really, you need to do exactly what I said to throw the guys before escalation, it could escalate

[kdhingra307]

bcz u are approachable and u dont show much of ego

also people like u simple...

[tylermason]

Be a bitch. This will make them run away

[Asker]

Tried it