Would you give up meat for your vegetarian boyfriend if it was a deal breaker? (Page 2)
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doesn't Indian vegetarianism allow eggs and dairy?
in any case, and I'm sure I'll be downvoted for this but I'll say it anyway: I think you should convince your boyfriend to eat some meat/seafood.
From my anecdotal experience, most of the people who TURN vegetarian are women. Most of the people who LEAVE vegetarianism are men. This is because men build more muscle, and need more protein, so they naturally crave protein dense foods.
If he's Indian, then leave out the beef and maybe the pork. But try to get him to try chicken, lamb, various shellfish, fish, etc. I can't imagine that there are any men who can resist all of these foods.
Personally, I wouldn't stay with someone who doesn't accept me for who I am. Forcing someone to change for you is wrong. They're telling you there is something about you they don't like. But if they truly love you, they'd never give an ultimatum and force you to choose between being with them and being yourself.
Totes. He's not worth it otherwise.
I’m a vegetarian, and my boyfriend loves meat. I would never try and make him change.
Your situation might be slightly different because it seems like his vegetarianism is religion based... is there any way you could come to a compromise? Like if you bought a mini fridge to put meat in, and cooked with only with certain pots and utensils?
I mean I’m vegetarian but if I wasn’t then I guess I would aleast try it out and see if I liked it I mean if your serious about him I think you should give it a shot if it’s not for you then try to compromise and if you can’t then try to really think about what’s more important eating meat or your boyfriend but I think if he loves you he wouldn’t mind you eating meat because I wouldn’t mind if my significant other ate meat or not since at the end of the day it’s not a huge deal it will only make agreeing on meals a little more difficult lol but I wouldn’t try to force anybody to become vegetarian because that’s a personal choice that not all people want to try and that’s fine just like how I wouldn’t want someone to try to force me to eat meat if I was dating them because that’s my choice not there’s.
You probably won't read this, but considering that he is keeping your food choice before you, its high time to think if the compromise now is really worth it.
Its about what you both are considering the most important.
You are willing to compromise even though you dont need to, he isn't.
Are you at that point in life where you dont mind bending over backwards for someone who is walking all over you?
Sorry that you are going through this, but I hope everything works out for you.
Don't compromise with someone if it ain't gonna be a positive one. You should eat and enjoy the way you are unless you think you can adapt to him and his families ways. As a woman you are no one's property so if he is trying to make you chose between a break up and becoming vegetarian (seems petty) think about the pros and cons that will come with it in the future.
Well-said!
mho:)
though i would point out that whether you are woman OR man, you are no ones property.
Well-expanded!
I can't seem to open it and read past the first line 😕
yeah i'm having a similar issue. basically "both genders are not posessions" ;)
Yes i agree
Sounds pretty controlling. Also, he knew you ate meat when he got with you. He should've brought it up then.
In your shoes, I'd tell him that you're not changing your eating habits, and you're DEFINITELY not taking any orders from him.
I'd break up over that, yes.
It's a massive cultural red line for me, this.
I wouldn't break up over it. Another way to look at your question is, "Are you willing to give up being loved, for the sake of a dietary change?"
I personally wouldn't. As my own SO is super picky with food. But I dont mind I'm still going to eat my guilty pleasures now and then but also keep her happy. You can do the same. If you need to get a meat fix do it on the side. And go back to eating what he does.
Well, I'm already a vegetarian and I did it for myself and it was honestly very easy. Its part of his culture and it's not something he can change. If you really love him diet shouldn't really be a big deal for you. If you don't love him though, just leave.
Fuck no, I eat what I like, if it was a reason to be more healthier then I may eat more lean meats and more fish. But just to satisfy someone of being become vegetarian or not be my girlfriend any more, I'd choose to be single. With most meals it's the meat I look forward to, so without it I'd have no excitement with meals, and probably end up not eating since I have no want, to eat something.
when I first read the question, I honestly thought it was from someone of younger age, but wow
You'll probably end up doing whatever you want anyways, just from the fact that its even bothering you,
but me personally, it would be a deal breaker. Not the going vegetarian in of itself, but his attitude and behaviour. What he's done tells a lot about the way he sees you, how much respect he has for you, what this relationship means to him and what he's going to be like going forward
I think if he's forcing his own beliefs on you, then his own love for you is not strong enough that he's willing to compromise. If his family forces the opinions on him or you, then you understand that the entire relationship is going to be restrictive.
I wouldn't, unless your love for him exceeds your desire to eat meat. I would probably become vegetarian if I ABSOLUTELY loved the person, and they didn't force it upon me, but rather strongly desired it.
I know a lot of couples where one of them is a vegetarian and the other isn’t, they cohabitation just fine. The meat eater generally cooks a piece of something and has whatever the other is for the sides.
The fact he’s not willing to compromise, such as not wanting to cook meat himself or buy it doesn’t bode well for future hardships
I wouldn't break up with someone over that. Everyone has a choice in life. If you wanna eat meat or veggies. Tattoos and piercings or not. There's a lot of choices people make as individuals that no matter what they will be judged by someone.
I think if he truly loved you he wouldn't break up with you. If its meant to be it will. If suggest trying it but you said you werent given the option of going back which I think is bs. Everyone has a right to make their own choices in life.
Would he eat meat for me? No. Why would I not eat it for him? Either accept I eat meat and you don't, or it really won't work.
Can you do something like have separate pots pans etc for when you're having meat? Then his food doesn't even need to touch a surface that meat touched before.
Well I don’t think it’s fair that you are expected to bend for him while he gets to stay how he is. There has to be a common ground. I wouldn’t stand for that if I were you... but, if you don’t think you have a choice.. do what you’ll be happy with in the end. If not eating meat is worth making him happy, that’s all you girl.
I’m a vegetarian, and I would never give my partner an ultimatum like that, whether it’s for cultural reasons or not. You can’t expect someone to change to fit your beliefs. It’s not a question of whether or not you can make that change. It’s whether or not you could be happy with someone that expects you to make the same choices as him based on his beliefs, and threatens to leave you if you don’t.
I am not telling you what to do with your relationship because you ultimately have to decide for yourself.
But I personally feel that life is so short, you must as well eat what you want. If you think converting to a vegetarian is hard for you, then this relationship probably isn't the best one for you. If I had to change my diet for my partner, the relationship will not work out.
All the best!
Perhaps a compromise can be reached, and you just don't bring meat into the house? That way, if you're out with friends or something, or even just at work, you can still have meat if you choose (imo though, it's a good thing to at the very least have vegetarian days)