Girl ghosted me after 1 month?

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Been dating this girl for a month. In the first 2 weeks it was going great. She was really into me and made it clear that she was. She wanted to spend all our free time together and spending nights over at each other's place. However toward the last 2 weeks she seemed to begin to distance herself from me. She stopped responding to text very frequently like she had been. She didn't want to hangout as much and she started to flake on plans. And after Christmas she completely ghosted me without explanation. I started catching feelings for this girl pretty quick. When she was sick I took care of her throughout the whole ordeal. Picked her up from the airport when she needed a ride. Etc. I can't stop thinking about her and I know it's over now but I still wish she would give me some kind of explanation. Thoughts? Thanks.

10dsw · Accepted Answer

She likely wasn't into you at all - your short story screams red flags.

"She was really into me and made it clear that she was." A girl that is truly into you will be kinda giddy and shy, and worried about sticking her neck out too far in fear of getting hurt.

"spending nights over at each other's place." So soon, no reservations? Sounds like she was experienced with men!

"esponding to text very frequently" A girl that doesn't care about her image in your eyes like that is suspect. What I mean is that most girls will play a little hard to get if they like you - like by taking a few hours to reply to texts (at least early on) - as they are trying to preserve their image and make sure you like them.

"When she was sick I took care of her throughout the whole ordeal." And she let you? Two weeks after meeting you? HUGE RED FLAG

"Picked her up from the airport when she needed a ride. Etc." Again, she let you? HUGE RED FLAG!!! Many women won't even let a man pay for them because they don't want to be labelled gold diggers!

There is no explanation here other than a bunch of obvious red flags you chose to ignore!!!

Twiggles · Accepted Answer

Happens pretty often. A lot of people will use others when they need them and don't know how or are too scared or insecure to say goodbye properly.

Try to move on. Odds are you won't hear from her again unless she needs something for you.

MMarina · Accepted Answer

Even though I don't know what ghosting means exactly, I understand she stopped talking to you right? I just had that situation as well with a guy... I think you can talk to her in a calm way and say something like "If you don't want to continue talking I respect your decision but I would like an explanation as to why" of you wanna know...
This way you don't sound desparate or agressive but you still get your answer... then you can choose how to handle the emotions. I promise you, they don't last forever. In time you might give your attention to someone who will invest back in you!! Sorry you're going through this :/

Blackpandagal · Accepted Answer

This has happened to me too. Guy ghosted me after a month. Only thing i can say is sometimes they come back. Its up to u if u trust them after that & that's if they
explain themselves. He didn't in my case months after. I wasn't taking him back. Plus I found my new love during his absence. If she comes back it up to u if she is worth it. I know people who have gotten back with people who has ghosted them with success. If she doesn't there is always someone better. U will find her

BeeryNice · Accepted Answer

I'm so sorry she treated you like that. You deserve an explanation but you're unfortunately never likely to get one. It's a really vile way to treat another person. I can't understand why people think it's OK. It's not.

Just know that it says nothing about you, and everything about her.

Poppykate · Accepted Answer

Here’s my theory... she met back up with someone over Christmas maybe... hence the sudden change of heart... 🤔.

I have been there bro. It hurts. I just wished the couple good luck and moved on. I think people need to be honest and upfront. Ghosting is for cowards and losers!

r4ngeF · Answer

If I were a girl and read what you wrote here, I'd probably give you my phone number bro.
Cause you sound like a hell of a person.
Hope you can express your dignity and care for someone in the future, and may you find some peace of mind after this girl.
Im not judging or anything, but I always believe that most people's reasons are logic, and if not logic, we might have done the same with no sense.
So dont consume your time and energies on a girl that "ignored" you with no explanation. Trying to figure out why and how and when and so on...
That will only lead to headaches.
Accept the fact she is no longer wants you, and move on to other women that would die to be with you.
Thats my mere observation on life.

Anonymous · Answer

I was ghosted after about a month. But she had issues... one of them being that she was cheating; getting into some other stuff, and trying to rebel, though she was still trying to pretend to behave.

Glad you realize it's over. It sounds like you didn't deserve it, but some people are dumb, and you'll never be able to change that. Only yourself. You deserve an explanation, and an apology, but you can't try to get one out of someone who refuses to get it. You don't really need one, either.

You can't force someone to be interested. Maybe she was getting feelings and freaked out. Maybe... maybe maybe maybe. You can't have a lot of "maybes" in your life... so it's better you learned how she really behaves this early. And good luck trying to understand it. You're just going to end up with an aneurism trying to figure it out. Best to move on.

QCpress · Answer

Ya doneee goofff my friend. You gave too much so you left all the power for her to drop you like a brick! You got to always keep it so she's want you more than you want her. You got to be like a hanging fruit on a tree. So close that she can almost grab it but not close enough to have.

stumbler · Answer

NOPE. Deal with your feeling and find a new one, at least forget about her. That kind of attitude towards you is disrespectful. If she can't do it on the early stage of your relationship, how can she do that on the latter stage when things got more boring and requires more commitment?

Source: personal experience on my last relationship. Finding this question makes me registered since it's kinda similar. Cheer up bro! You'll get over it.

by the way mine is my church mate and she's a good girl. I don't know what she was thinking but I'm all good right now. No hatred whatsoever. And, with dating app it should be more likely things like this happened. Just swipe right more and you're good! ;)

aikonwin · Answer

Forget about her and move on, may be she had a breakup recently and she found you and now she patched up and ghosted you.. or may be she was running out of money so she used you for time being, maybe unknowingly you hurt her feelings or you said something wrong thats why she is ignoring you. There can be many reasons but solution is only one forget her and find someone else, if she comes back then ask her why she ghosted you and update us as well.

Anonymous · Answer

"In the first 2 weeks it was going great. She was really into me and made it clear that she was. She wanted to spend all our free time together and spending nights over at each other's place."

So many red flags just there.
How many girls that are actually worth of your time you think would act like that?
Decent girls proceed with caution. That girl was only about having fun and taking advantage of you.

hasrett · Answer

I seriously don't understand why people don't talk to each other. You know who can give you much better answer than us people from g@g? That girl of yours. She owes you an explanation and I suggest you to ask for it.

tattooedhandfet · Answer

Try to get one from her. If she doesn't give you one, draw you own conclusions, and deal with your feelings. The world will still turn. Promise.

Naruto_Uzumaki · Answer

She just had a crush on you and didn't have true feelings for you

Anonymous · Answer

She probably felt like she rushed it. Or rebounding?  But generally when someone ghosts you, you may want answers but you'll never get them :/

loveyou34 · Answer

same situation bro. A girl ghosted me for 1month now after all the good things that I and she shared. I'm trying to move on now. But I still wanna try calling her for the last time.

Anonymous · Answer

Had the same thing happen to me, except a guy ghosted me after 4/5 months.. she most likely won’t even talk to you again

Chanel1981 · Answer

How did you meet her?

VV3ZZY · Answer

Move on bro

jacquesvol · Answer

That happens to both guys and girls.

naraku · Answer

You where just a hook up.

roshniharish · Answer

Go talk with her

OfDeath · Answer

Who you gonna call?

soleil2666 · Answer

You're f-ed.

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