Why am I not excited about guys anymore? Should I go on more dates/try harder or should I just not date at all? Burned out?

[TikiTook]

I’m 23. Never had a serious relationship or one that lasted past a few months. They’ve started and ended mostly because 1) I don’t trust guys and many have not been good selections on my part, and 2) guys think I’m too closed off and never feel like they “know” me or I keep them at arms length and then they check out. Of course there are guys who have tried relentlessly with me but I wasn’t interested in them. I’m attractive enough and have my picking/ am hit on plenty... but I’m just so tired of all the games and all the energy I have wasted on failed attempts. It seems like people aren’t genuine anymore. Or like they dont have time to really get to know someone and take everything so personal, and check out because of their egos. I’ve tried and failed so many times the last couple years, I’m just so tired of it all. I don’t even know what kind of guy I’m wanting anymore. Actually, the main thing I’m looking for is someone with similar sense of humor and can make me laugh because right now that’s all I want, I just want to have fun with someone in a committed relationship and i never imagined in my life it would be as hard as it has been. Now even with genuine guys words mean nothing to me anymore, or the novelty of it all is just gone, and I’m so frustrated and fed up. Do I keep trying or just focus on myself and purposely turn down guys for a break from it all?
Anyone else feel how I do?

[Anonymous]

Posts like this always amaze me. How long do you think nice guys finishing last would be before there were barely any left? The dominant actions of women overall have an impact on their own future.

Most women become bored of men that are straight forward, genuinely nice, and honest. They thrive on games, drama and unpredictability...

This is only going to get worse in the future. Take a good look around at society, colleges, media, feminism, Metoo etc. Men are even facing fines for commenting on a woman's appearance in France...

So pretty soon men will just ignore all women, and the rest will just be players and liars.

I am a genuine guy, and people come to me when they want to know the truth... but I will never date again, and will never approach a woman again ever.

I don't think it matters what you do because it will probably have the same outcome.

[waynecollins]

Just take time for you. Build yourself up and explore everything and everything you’ve ever been curious about. This is a time to truly explore life for you. You’ll have time to be in a relationship

[TikiTook]

I think you’re right. How do I let go of wanting more (with someone)? Do I just need time? Time of not having a “flame” or someone im focused on?

[waynecollins]

Time and just do your best to keep busy. Try your best to keep your mind from drifting into deep topics while you're alone. Its okay to talk about things but make sure you have a loved one present or a close friend. Because sometimes when we are alone we really start traveling down a dark road where its hard to come back from. Look at this as a chance to build yourself like I mentioned before. Don't be so focused on a relationship and who knows while you're busy enjoying yourself the right person will come into your life naturally!

[mermaidrocketship]

Take a break. I’ve been there before. Just focus on yourself and your goals. When someone great comes along, you’ll feel it. I used to think I was emotionally dead inside bc I didn’t have a crush btwn senior year of high school and senior year of college. Then I fell head over heels in love with this guy who, sadly, didn’t reciprocate. But now I crave attachment. It ebbs and flows.

[martyfellow]

I'd try a change of environment. The US is a shallow and selfish place from the Pres. on down... Travel, or at least change your routine pace as much as you can.

For example, try someone from a different culture...

[NerdInDenial]

Do you fear being alone or single for the rest of your life?

[TikiTook]

No, I like being alone. I think I’m more afraid I’ll be stuck with someone who isn't right for me or like I’ll run out of time and then just settle... like the older I get the harder it’ll be to find someone

[NerdInDenial]

This is true; your urges will force you to settle but if you want to have a relationship one day, keep an open mind to guys. You haven’t met every man and there are genuine guys still.

[DualityGreen]

Focus on improving yourself.