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Is it better to not tell my boyfriend that I cheated on him? (Page 2)
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you said go ahead and call me names, alright, well you are one heck of a slutty cum dumpster not gonna lie. But honestly, if you are dedicated to never cheat it ACTUALLY might be better to not tell your boyfriend, i know everyone is gonna hate on me but listen, cheating with an EX boyfriend is the most most hurtful thing you can do to a boyfriend, if my girlfriend cheated on me too, and i hated her for it but i was glad that i found out, but if she cheated on me with her ex, i would rather just never find out. Look at it from your boyfriend eyes, Its the guy that used to fuck you, and after break up he still is trying to get you even tho you have a boyfriend, and now he got you and fucked you, worst nightmare come true for a boyfriend. Honestly, never cheat again, and dont tell him, spare him that inhuman pain
You're not trying to protect your boyfriend lol you're trying to protect yourself.
Man up and tell him, and then accept the consequences.
Feel free to call you names, okay:
Asshole
Bitch
Cunt
Degenerate
Egotistical
Fucker
Goatfucker
Ho
Idiot
Joke
Kike
Loser
Manipulative
Nobody
Oh, I can't even be arsed to continue talking about how much of a failure you are.
😡 I hate cheating so fucking much don’t give into pier pressure if you loved your boyfriend you would have stayed at home with him and cuddled like a good girlfriend it’s your fault you fucked up not your ex and your boyfriends probably gonna hate you now so Goodluck with that and me I’d never cheat I rather stay with my girlfriend at home and do whatever she wants not go to a party and get drunk and then let An EX TAKE ME TO HIS/HER House
Don't lie. You will just make it worse. Someone will tell him something and it will kick off. YOU need to tell him because it was YOUR mistake. The fact you are even contemplating not telling him makes me believe he is far better without you...
but its not like i dont want to tell him to hurt him or so, i dont want to tell him to prevent him from getting hurt and feel bad. Its llike that saying, what people dont know, doesn't bother them, and i dont want him to be bothered
Doesn't bother them until they find out you've been keeping secrets and not owning up to your own fuck ups. Would you want him to not tell you the other way around?
you did drink a lot of alchohol so u were drunk thats why u did that but im sorry your going to have to come clean with ur booyfriend especially if u want to have a good and honest relationship with him make sure he knows ur sorry and make a big point that u were drunk and the alcohol effects how u think so that he knows that u didn't do it on purpose yes he might be mad but do something nice before u tell him to show him that u love him and then tell him
"make a big point that u were drunk and the alcohol effects how u think so that he knows that u didn't do it on purpose"
That will guarantee that she would be dumped. Most guys will see that as making an excuse.
@Thisperson98 i didn't mean to make that the main point of it just say it ig
You were really drunk and he took advantage, its practically rape love. Honestly though... I'd tell your partner, because if u don't then I have a feeling someone will... probably your ex just to be smug.
but my ex cheated on his current girlfriend with me that night too, he hardly even remembers the evening but even if he knows he wouldn't tell, becuase he would fuck himself over
He might tell, when they split months from now :/
yea but, now it seems like he doesn't even remember the night. And no one saw me there with him or anything so he can't prove it, if he tells from months now i can maybe convince my boyfriend he is bullshitting, because my ex is hitting on me nonstop, so i can just say he is lying to split us
Meh, fair enough. I doubt a guy ever totally forgets screwing someone though...
I know this is not on the topic - I just can't not say anything. You bring up he "raped" her? Really? Don't get me wrong I am totally against actual abuse - but if he was even more drunk (he can't even remember it seems ) if you talk about equal rights you d have to say she raped him... she doesent sound like she said or showed no - she said one led to the other - and you bring up rape... bullshit. Exactly this is the reason there is not 100% trust in when girls say "he raped me" and this calling everything rape is what makes it hard for actual rape victims. So think first next time please...
Well. How would YOU see it if it would have been the other way round? Would you prefer not to know? Or would you want to know it and decide if you wanna break up?
I for my part would say - sex is sex and love is love. I would not tell in your situation. I don't see meaningless sex important enough to destroy a love - if you DO love him that is.
@Hclover... I didn't talk about equal rights though did I? She was drunk and he said nothing would happen between them but he slept with her anyway. I did not say he raped her, I said 'practically' because she said she was really drunk and a really drunk women CANNOT give consent. So he was wrong to sleep with her, even if she happened to lead him on. If course, it sound like he was drunk too... so I guess these things happen.
Just because a woman says its OK does not mean it is ok, if she is really drunk. So YOU think about that next time before commenting.
So you d have to say he couldn't give consent too don't You? Both said nothing will happen - it did. That has nothing- I mean absolutely nothing to do with rape. Not even "practical". Like I said - this makes it hard for actual victims. Be careful with accusations like that.
@Hclover it's not an accusation. an accusation is 'he raped her'
What makes it hard for actaul victims are people claiming it was 'mutual' because she was drunk.
Anyway, sorry asker, we're totally having an irrelevant argument on your post now xD
@Hclover of course i love my boyfriend. The sex i had with my ex couldnt be more meaningless, he is a terrible jerk, i would never love someone like him. I love my boyfriend thats why i dont want to tell him, i dont want to lose him and i dont want to hurt him
@LivingLogical seriously tho, she said they were both insanely drunk and shitfaced, but you say he practically raped her, NO HE FAKIN didn't. They were both drunk, so they both couldnt consent, he is EXACTLY 0% more or lees guilty then she is. What is this centered accuse that only guys can rape. Drunk Guy sleeps with a drunk girl, guy gets called rapist, girl gets called victim, NOPE, both are victims, both were drunk, both couldnt consent. Seriously this is why so many innocent guys are called rapists and have their lives destroyed by stupid girls who think every single thing is rape
@MeganJam999 EXACTLY. It's always the guys fault according to these rape accusers even though both people are drunk in many cases.
Thank you Megan.
And asked- like I said. I d not tell. But you should still ask yourself what would you think if your boyfriend would have drunk sex. Would you actually be cool with forgiving? If so - congratulation. That means love is stronger than jealousy.
Hi there's this girl where I'm staying at she's got a boyfriend one night she asked me to massage her shoulders feet and hands sovi did , then I told her to tell her boyfriend she refused so I told him its the right thing to do so now he knows were he is in the relationship hill thank me latter on.
Tell him right away and try your hardest to show your guilt (not dangerously hard) and if he sticks with you never do it again. But I don't know that’s just what I would want
Don't have to tell him just make sure he doesn't find out somehow or something like that
definitly, i will never tell and he is very unlikely to find out
I think it comes down to how strong you think his ego is. You should know instinctively if he can handle it, and if you think he can take the blow to his ego, you might find that it turns him on tremendously.
Tbh you should probably say nothing and break up with him. You dont deserve him, but he doesn't deserve the trust issues that can come from being cheated on.
Also, the excuse of being hammered fixes nothing, none of your excuses justified your actions. You said you usually don't drink, were you drinking so heavily there as an excuse to cheat or what? Lmao
what i meant by that is that i dont have high alcohol tolerance so i get drunk easily and can't control myself
So drink in a more controlled setting? Like with a group of friends? Why even go to a party when you want to stay committed? It seems like you don't know what you want.
"Go my child and Sin no more"
Sssshhhh, Quiet Here, dear. xx
Just do one favour on that poor boy, leave him!!! Plzzz he will find a much much much better girl than ya!!
But im a good girl i just did a drunk mistake
Yeah u r a good girl!! For boys
Or just tell him, and lets see. If he apologises you than its fine!
Yes thank you, im a good girl for my boy and i want it to stay that way, i dont want to hurt him
You need a guy like osker potoiuse the one who shot his wife
Only tell him if it's likely he will find out some other way. Otherwise, don't tell him. As you say, it's not worth putting him through the pain.
There is no way he could find out. My ex called me today and asked me if we meet at the party last night because he feels like he saw me but isn't sure becuase he was too shtifaced. The only way my boyfriend could ever find out is if i confessed, and i want to, but then again, i also dont want to put him through that horrible pain
Don't tell him. Just be faithful from now on.
i promise i will, and i will never party again. Also i forgot to mention, my ex cheated on his girlfriend with me that night too, so even if he somehow remembered the night he probably wouldn't say anything
He might find out from someone else that you left the party with your ex. So prepare to have to tell him something at that point
If you loved him you wouldn’t of done that drunk or not. I’m sorry just how I feel. He deserves to know.
relationships at your age are life lessons. neither one of these two guys will matter in a few years. do what feels right and let what happens happen
no. this is a self-serving notion
he deserves to know so he can decide if he wants to be with someone who cheats or not.
How did you not resist having sex with that guy? Is he extremely attractive?
She was so drunk that she had to lay down. It sounds like her Ex exploited the situation... My whole point was that she shouldn't have even been at the party in the first place.
@winterfox10 So... can't you have any judgement when you're drunk. I've been drunk plenty of times and I never let go of my panties. Now, if you're weak with alcohol, why would you get drunk with your ex there?
@pleasestopthis I know i did some bad mistakes, yes im very weak with alcohol, and being drunk changes my judgement a lot, and i didn't expect my EX to be there. And yea i know i shouldn't have been at the party in the first place, i was dumb and got talked into it by my friends
When you're that drunk, laying down feels like a good idea. Her ex had a bed. You've never made a poor decision when that drunk?
@winterfox10 exactly, it was just a bad drunk decision, i would never do it sober
More to the point I made in my answer though; you let yourself get drunk enough to make the mistake at the suggestion of your friends. Why would you trust yourself to make sound decisions in the future?
Was the sex consensual? If so, I don't see why you did it. Because you were attracted to him?
I'm not trying to insult you, but your story so far sounds like a typical porn script.
It didn't happen just because you were drunk. There is an underlining reason. Being drunk is just a tool that dulls feeling pain and fear. I have a feeling you want to use that as an excuse and don't want to introspect why you did it.