I'm latina and I'm obsessed with men with blonde hair and blue eyes. Do I sound like a self hating latina?

[Anonymous]

I have a thing being obsessed with white guys with blonde hair and blue eyes , its getting to be too much where I'm unable to sleep at night. Chris Martin from Coldplay is definitely what my ideal blonde/blue eyed type is , same for the guys from the show Vikings. I don't know the reason behind being obsessed but all I know both my paternal / maternal grandfathers had blonde hair and have colored eyes , same for my father being a blonde. My first relationship was with a white guy. I realized white men always found me attractive than my own kind. I really dont find dark features in men physically or romantically attracted , its a reason why I've been single because I will never settle for less than what I truly deserve , I will fight till I get what I want. I guess you can say im attracted to what im surrounded by. That's how it is with me. I'm extremely obsessed as well with Scandinavian and British culture. My dream is to marry a white American guy that has blonde hair and blue eyes with Scandinavian or British ancestry. I really want my children to have blonde hair and colored eyes. I believe I could possibly carry those traits as my family has colored eyes and blonde hair plus my father and his father and my mothers father were all blondes which I take pride. I dont deny being latina but I do feel ashamed being around my kind , most of them act pretty ghetto and uneducated. Being around white people makes me feel more accepted and superior , there's less drama around them too.

[RolandCuthbert]

"Shrugs"

It could just be a phase. But you already said that your father and grandfathers are all blondes. How can that be self-hating? But truthfully, I can't judge you. I don't know who can. But if this is something that is bothering you, you probably should talk to people who you think you identify with.

But again, I don't see why you do not identify as being "White" in addition. You are at least half "White", right?

[Asker]

Well I took a dna ancestry test a while back, im mostly European and Native American. I guess you can say im white after all latino isn't even a race we all come in different colors , I look mainly Mediterranean with a layer tint of native American which makes what a average latina looks like.

I don't know if its a phase , recently been attracted to white guys because they have appreciated me more than my own kind. Also I learn to appreciate the European features in my family.

[RolandCuthbert]

Well, I only offered it up as a suggestion if you are in your early 20s you could be in for a wild ride in terms of what you are attracted to. I am 45 years old by the way and I have went through periods of being attracted to "Black" women really dark skinned, really light skinned "Black" women, big women, skinny women, "White" women, Latinas, Indian women, Asian women. . . etc. I have dated the rainbow.

As for Latinos not being a race, I can't get into that. I don't believe in race and I know too many Latinos who claim that many Latinos have identity issues.

That being said, when it comes to identity, I don't understand what you mean by your own kind. Again, you are half "White" at least. . . why aren't "White" men your own kind?

[Asker]

I'm am mestiza someone who is European and Native American which what most latinos are but im mostly european. I won't go detail why I go for white men as what I could say could sound racist or Eurocentric in a way which I dont want to offend anyone . Most of us Latinos struggle with identity issues and self hate because we been colonized poorly so we all fight who is more white or brown or who is beautiful based on psychical appearance . Everyone has a racial preference , I dont think its wrong if your attracted to what your surrounded by or what your taste is , you do you , if you like women of a different ethnicity good for you . I dont deny being latina or deny I have Native American ancestry , my great great grandmother was full native so i can't deny that brown side of me.

[RolandCuthbert]

I have kind of outgrown that. Having been driven crazy by women my attraction is solely towards women I find physically attractive, but who have interests and likes that are similar to mine. I can't do the lust thing you are going through now. After years of headache and heartache, it isn't worth it. But this is your journey, you will learn all you need to know. Just keep doing what you are doing.

I can't speak to Latinos with identity issues. I am not a Latino. I am not apart of the culture. That being said, I am not "White" so of course, I am well-aware of self-hatred, as most of those who are not "White" are prone to experience in America. The only culture that really considers itself without flaw is "White" American culture. That's why there are no "White" men or "White" women here at GaG, claiming how they are only attracted to "Blacks" or Latinos.

But I am saying in addition to having that "brown" in your heritage, you do have "Whiteness" as well.

[RealityCheck4Ya]

It's called self-hate, you have it. Also, I highly doubt your grandparents were blonde. A lot of Latin people lie and say they have blond blue eyed ancestors.

[Logorithim]

Everyone has their own preferences- that doesn't mean someone is self-hating. My mother used to have blonde hair and my father is Latino, so I understand.

[RealityCheck4Ya]

Gross. She destroyed her genes.

[cflr0227]

Not at all, everyone has their own preference. My cousin has blond hair green eyes and he loves dark eyed dark haired women, my dad is Irish with light brown hair and blue eyes and he loved Mexican women, everyone has a certain look they find most attractive

[Anonymous]

Not at all haha you can be attracted to whoever you want
I’ve got an Irish background, so I’m on another level of pale but I really find Puerto Rican guys sexy 😜
It’s not a bad thing

[avertYoureyes]

There are blonde haired, blue eyed white latinos. So nah. Identifying with the colonizers appearances is to be expected in modern times.

[Asker]

True , but I prefer fully white guys for personal reasons. My first boyfriend was a half mexican / Brazilian and Egyptian he had blue eyes and blonde hair , he was beautiful.

[avertYoureyes]

Yes you have an extreme fetish. I don't think you'll have real love that way especially since you're very exclusionary but whatever makes you happy.

[Asker]

I never been attracted to white guys till recently which became a fetish to me , my own kind dont like me to be honest , only white guys have. I can''t deny that. I stand out more to white men which I appreciate . Some way think im being self hating or Eurocentric but I have family members who have European features so your attracted to what your surrounded by. Everyone has a preference so we all should respect one another.

[yaheardd18]

No. You just sound like a Latina who dates different races. I'm the same way lmao. Plus some Hispanics have blonde hair and blue eyes

[HikerDude]

I don't mean to sound insulting, but this is a silly question. Would you think white guys were self-hating for being attracted to the dark hair and dark eyes of Latin women?

[Asker]

Not really unless your not denying who you are than you should be fine. Everyone has a preference.

[HikerDude]

Oh, I already know that. I'm telling *you* that it's okay to like someone who looks different than you.

[Klh3562]

Yes you definitely sound racist. Saying that being identified with people who have blonde hair and blue eyes makes you feel superior is at least honest but you’re definitely racist. If you think that people with dark skin are beneath you you’re very confused because that is most certainly not true. And if your love for a person is based on the color of their skin or eyes then I feel sorry for whomever you get in a relationship with. I’m curious, do you tell the people you’re with that if they had brown eyes or weren’t white you wouldn’t love them anymore?

[Celtero]

Hehe... I don't think you're alone. I'm around 60% viking ancestry and latinas pay much more attention to me than girls my own ethnicity.

[madgoat]

You can find who you like attractive but it's self defeating to devalue your own culture.

[Anonymous]

I am the same way!! All but one of my exes have been white, with blue eyes ( I’m a sucker for the blue eyes). I don’t call or self hate. We just have a type.

[RealityCheck4Ya]

Nah it's self hate.

[OjosOscuros2]

You were fine up until you said you feel more superior to those around you. It may not be self hating but you’re definitely a racist.

[jackmaxim]

Wow preference is ok but the last bit is kinda sad js but you do you

[th3c0unt]

Yes.

Surroundings+Media=Brainwashed thinking

Also people always think grass is greener so they like different to their own believing it's better, until they get it.

Then they realize they were fooled lol

[Balekkheyou]

" Being around white people makes me feel more accepted and superior "

Not only are you deeply racist towards your own ethnicity, but on top of that you're shallow because you want to select a man just because he's blonde with light eyes, you're definitely a woman to avoid, I pity your future husband.

And I say that as a blond-haired, green-eyed man myself, I'd never get involved with a woman like you.

[Anonymous]

Yo I'm a Latino dude, and I'm the same exact way you are.

[Asker]

Welcome to the club :D lol. Stick to what you like , fuck what everyone thinks.

[seasontickets12]

No your not self hating! opposites attract it's law of nature! Mmm Latinas

[RealityCheck4Ya]

Opposites do not attract. Humans are biologically hardwired to prefer their own race and those who look like them. Educate yourself.

[Ireland1138]

No you aren’t a self hating Latina.
I white and I love Asians, doesn’t make me a self hating white

[Anonymous]

Just because u r born a latina and u prefer someone blonde and blue eyed doesn't mean u r a self-hating latina. it is not like you only like those people yet even if u did what's the big deal. your preference should not define you ! :)

[Seppelson]

Nice :) guys with blue eyes and blond hairs are mostly into latinas. Especially me

[RealityCheck4Ya]

You're delusional. Blond blue eyed men are mostly into White women of the same race as them.

[betaTester]

well good luck with your dream. I have given up on mine.

[RealityCheck4Ya]

Keep dreaming. Blond blue-eyed men like and want White women. Leave Blond blue-eyed men alone and find a Latin guy.

[vannanas]

Scandinavia is your buffet girl

[Asker]

Yeah Norwegian and Swedish men :D <3 are my type

[vannanas]

there are a combined 5.5 million men of those two nations, so there are men in abundance

[simplythegirl]

Don't worry I'm latina and I'm the same way

[RealityCheck4Ya]

Self hating.

[beebella]

Not at all. Blondies are hot.

[forgtnreaper]

It's a kink that's it I think