Why are men so shallow?

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Men who are 3/10 or 4/10, all want a woman who’s at least 6/10 and they can even be shallow to these girls.
They feel free too judge their appearances while they look like monkeys themselves and think they’re good looking and deserve the best of the world.

I found out that ugly men are even more shallow, why is that?

CyclopsFawn · Accepted Answer

Why are women so shallow?

Women who are 3/10 or 4/10 all want a man who's at least 6/10 and they can even be shallow to these guys.

They feel free to judge their appearances while they look like monkeys themselves and think they're good looking and deserve the best of the world.

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Attractive people are attractive. Doesn't matter what number out of ten you are, you're going to prefer an attractive person over someone who's not. Don't act like there aren't just as many women out there who are the EXACT same way, because there certainly are.

You call these men shallow, but you're saying that they should never try to date attractive people because they're ugly and look like "monkeys"... That's pretty shallow of you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because that's what they value. You have to be picky with what you value so you're selective because you care

Buckzor · Accepted Answer

Biggest 2 issues withthis post.
I - attractiveness is perceived and is different for everyone, maybe they're a 3 for you, and a 5 for someone else.
2 - it's like your assuming women dont do this Either, which is annoying.
And lastly, why is it a surprise? Of course we are going to find people attractive when they're "out of our league" or something along those lines, it's natural instinct.
Last thing, a lot of these pretty women turn in to 4-6's without make up. And thoae females dont give average looking guys the light of day, so now who's shallow?

Berethor · Accepted Answer

Because men can get away with it, and because women expected to be pretty.

witherwing · Answer

Says the person rating people with numbers.

Kimkim017 · Answer

Men like looks women like resources. It's so weird bc growing up I genuinely thought who you were was solely in the inside and no one really cared about what you looked like because you're literally a brain in a body. Elementary mind. Even when people would talk about my looks mostly men especially in high school. I did not think of it as something they deeply thought about but more and more I was slowly realizing how important it is to them. Now as an adult. I realize it's incredibly important to them. You can have millionaires simping just because you're hot. To a woman a guy with $=resources is important. To a guy, looks are. Biological and just giving into it to the extreme is pretty shallow to me but men tend to just give into any kind of urge they have. So do you. Secure the bag girl. Both are still capable of love. It is painful though trying to find a guy who understands you in the inside. I can't stand meeting guys who only like you because of your physical attractiveness and they don't even care that you're clearly not a match for one another. They're just like well you're pretty so it works. I've thought about catfishing by using a basic/considerably unattractive girl to men so I can find less shallow men. Idek if that works or if it's too deep in men's nature to not be like that.

chameleon3081 · Answer

In my views, everyone males and females do what you said. It's human instinct for females to look for big strong men, and for men to find the better looking looking females. Being ugly myself means I get an insight into human behaviour around dating. Basically, attractive females tend to get more male attention because they look more fertile. Attractive strong men get more attention because females feel as though they have a better chance of looking after them. Shallow is just the animal instinct in all of us. It's a way of mother nature selecting the so called desirable genes to progress. For example, big strong men will most likely produce big strong children, meaning the human race has more chances of survival.

studDMuffF1n · Answer

Women are way more shallow. I know lots of women who won't even give a guy the time of day because of his height. Men never do that. There is more scrutiny and nick picking with women , you could argue your designed to be shallow, while men are much more accepting. A lot of men will take what's available while women will rather become a bitter cat lady because they are not willing too adapt.

sullyc101 · Answer

Oh God this is a loaded question. Firstly, girls do the same thing, I know this from experience. Secondly, when a guy gets rejected and humiliated he becomes week and shallow and bitter. So yeah it's hard being a guy too. Imagine being told that you aren't worthy of beautiful people. You'd resent the affection of someone average just because of that.

Imawaterfish · Answer

But I'm a very ugly guy. And I couldn't give two shits less how my s/o looks. I look for something deeper. I look for personality. And a sense of humor. But if anybody is comfortable enough to date me then I know that they definitely have a sense of humor. Because I'm fugly.

Mrblueballs42 · Answer

Well im not sure about that but men do have egos. But so do shallow women have egos.
Not all Men act like boys. Not all Women act like girls.
Im not the handsome Guy But I search for a soulmate not a one night stand. Guys tgat think tgey are studs end up in a rude awaking. Women dont put up with crap. Men dont either.

boggboss · Answer

Lol this is so silly both sexes do this it's just people that judge looks over anything else also beauty is subjective what u find ugly others may think is golden

kapitan · Answer

I consider myself ugly but I don't care what anyone else thinks about that but I know a pretty woman when I see one I'm not shallow I'm not trying to punch above my Wight or anything but I'm honest caring loyal understanding and funny ( so I been told ) so I think your comment is unjust and generalises these people YOU consider ugly may not be ugly to others and judging by your question you have to ask are you the shallow one yourself

LesterJester · Answer

Rating people's appearances as 3/10 or 8/10 is also shallow. There is more to a person than their looks.

Anonymous · Answer

You're making a division between who's ugly and who's not. Why? Sounds a bit shallow. It's not just "ugly guys" - (as you put it) who can be shallow but any guy can be. Not only that but not all so called ugly guys are shallow. You sound judgmental and shallow.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Now that was freaking hilarious. You meant, why are some men almost as shallow as you.  Right?

outside_Toronto · Answer

This is a people thing.. not a man thing. Change men to women in your question... exactly the same

Giggletr0n · Answer

Some can't afford to be shallow; some men are less pretty looking then other. I am a solid 3/10 so I can't really be shallow :D

AquaBoo · Answer

This is the most double standard thing I've ever heard..

mr_mxy · Answer

Women do the same thing only much more often than men. But the way i see it beauty is subjective. So who you think is ugly might be considered hot to someone else.

TheGrunge · Answer

Everyone is shallow. It's human nature. If it's not looks, it's money or social status or something as simple a political affiliation. Being shallow and judgmental is normal. It's about being nice and honest with yourself and others.

therainman · Answer

I'm like a 4 so I don't give a shit. I can find a woman attractive but they're all better looking than me so I don't really care.

Anonymous · Answer

Most likely nice guys, nice guys pretend to be nice as soon as they dont get what they really want. Nice guys typically are ugly! :0

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Don't blame us. Our mommies made us like this :)

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