Lately my patience has been wearing thin with him. He hasn’t been responding to my messages quickly, and seems to never want to come over. He does work a lot, but I feel like he could make time. Last night he told me he was coming over after work. His work closes at 11. I waited to 12, he didn’t message me at all so I said this (see screenshots) was I too harsh? I just was feeling very unwanted. Someone said I should wait to see if he responds because that means he cares. Should I? Or should I apologize now. Bc I like him and I want him to like me but I don't know
This guy didn’t come over last night and went off on him. Thoughts?
I'm in a similar situation... My boyfriend works a lot... He haves only two free days after 8 days worked and usually he spends them with me... We are in a long term relationship and seeing him only 2 times per week is not enough for me... He sometimes works in the morning, so he is done around 6 and he could come over then... But in ever force him to, and I don't get mad if he dosen't... He needs he's alone time as well... That dosen't mean he doesn't want me /love me anymore... I know he is trying his best to spend as much time with me as he can... But I can claim all his free time... He was suppose to come over yesterday after work... I called him at 6 and I could tell after his voice that he was exhausted... He ended up taking cab and going home... And he slept from 7 pm to 12 am.. And almost got late to work... but after work he came up at my house with my favorite chocolate to apologize... How could I be mad on him when I know how tierd he is he is always so pale and with dark circles under his eyes... He also lost a lot of weight... Yeah, I do miss him a lot, and it hurts when he cancel a date because he is too tierd... But he is already making big efforts to be with me, and when we are together I can fell how much he loves me and wants me.
It sounds like you should learn some patience.. I would've given it until 1, then go to sleep and message him the next day and go off.
He could've been short handed at work. Easily. You tell him you're done then you ask for an apology 4 hours later... You are only as good as your word. If you're done talking to him, then be done.
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Anonymous
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harsh is an understatement. the fact that you popped off like this, to a guy that you’re interested in (not dating) will probably be a huge red flag to him. if he’s smart you probably just blew any chance of a solid foundation / relationship. Id move on after apologizing if i were you.
Aww ok in my opinion I can u der stand that your feeling unwanted but at the same time you've gotta see it from hia point of view he was probably exhausted I myself worked to around the same time as him probably layer and I didn't really wanna talk to anyone yesterday and I just got some food and went to bed so cut him just a bit if slack. maybe try talking to him and tell him how your feeling ya know have a heart to heart
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If you're done talking with him, why do you want an apology?
You could have handled this with class and composure, but instead you did it... well like a 17 year old ha.
Lol you said things you can't take back, you sounded like an ass, if you wanted any shot of dating him you just blew it all. If that was me I'd block you and move on with my life "I will be accepting a formal apology at this time" who do you even think you are? The queen? 🙇 Even if you meant it as a joke it makes you seem extremely stuck up
You won't like my answer, but consider ... I'm not into the whole "life revolves around text, social media, and how fast you respond" bullshit. So.. a) You should only have texted at about 11:30pm " You said you'd be over after work tonight... will you be coming?" b) wait to see if there was a reply c) If he didn't reply or come over, then... d) Everything you said in the text SHOULD have waited to be said in person. There's no way he was coming to come over and deal with what you said in your text once he got it. You said you subsequently apologized. Where are you at now?
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He said he likes me , my crazy side in all 😊 (just texted me)
Good luck. You're 17. Don't know his age. I'd wager you won't be dating him for very much longer. As you learn not to react like you did, you'll find someone who won't treat you like that. The two go together, oddly enough.
You lost it on him, but you explained that he treats you like shit. What sort of advice were you hoping for? You portrayed him as a jerk and you came off as angry with no self esteem or self control. Anyway, good luck.
That was a bit harsh. What if something bad has happened? You will never know... It's best to just wait. Even if things were okay, some guys doesn't like that. If he doesn't respond back. Just prepare yourself to move on.
Honestly if I was him after that I would not want you, you should have waited for him to respond something might have come up and you said he finished at 11 I'm guessing that's 11pm so he might have been exhausted.
This depends on what he does. Where my sister works she does close on occasion and her work closes at 10 and she sometimes won't get home till midnight
No! You are putting in time and he's not! The guy is an ass! This is coming from a girl that stayed up until 5:00am to talk to a guy. Guys/Girls are sometimes inconsiderate~
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