Should girls take the initiative more often and ask guys out? (Page 2)

Question

Asking someone out even for a cup of coffee is a terrifying ordeal at times, especially if you don't know who the person is. Therefore, I feel that it is kinda unfair for guys to ask us out every time. Plus, there is nothing in the act of asking someone out that would make it necessary for a guy to do, unlike lifting me in the air or something like that). Obviously, some guys are super confident and would need no assistance, but there could be others who are not so decisive. So what say people?

lonnar · Answer

No guys like a little chase, but leave as many suddle hints as possible without seeming desperate

Avery64 · Answer

Probably. Guys will only do it if they are 99.99% sure they will say, Yes. Because they do not want to be shut down.

magicpat237 · Answer

Yes especially since women have been crying for equal rights. Step up to the plate ladies!

TisforTori · Answer

If I want something I say so ( politely) so sure go for it

Naruto_Uzumaki · Answer

I'll never ask out a guy again. I did it once and it ended in a heartbreak so no thanks !

SirRexington · Answer

Yes, for God's sake yes! I'm too much of a little bitch boy when it comes to women. #imalittlebitchboy #idontdohashtags

clampfan101 · Answer

Yes! Girls have just as much right to share their feelings. Plus some guys like them back but are too shy. Someone needs to say something! (Same for proposal, too.)

Pablo5564 · Answer

Yes especially since a guy can barley even talk to a woman with out coming off as creep let alone be forward with out being accused of sexual harassment

ErgoSphere · Answer

Yeah life is not a movie or a novela. They should ask a guy out and not (get his attention). No one knows what someone is thinking about until they hear their intentions

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. This is something women have been for the most part avoiding. If you want equality then this is something women need to step up and start doing. I think most men would be happy if they did.

lordy_gordy · Answer

In a prominently male driven society where it is stereotypical and expected for a male to ask out a female I believe more women should be more emotionally strong and ask out who they like rather than just waiting for someone else to do it for you

Epithelium · Answer

Definitely, my longest relationship was from a girl asking me out. It made me feel more relaxed around her at the beginning.

Juxtapose · Answer

I make it a point to almost never ask out women. I'm into dominant women anyway and the ones you have to ask out are usually submissive.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

I don't think it should matter who takes the initiative to ask who out first, just as long as someone does it. I can either ask a girl out or she can ask me out, I'm fine with it either way.

micah525 · Answer

Yes definitely. Most men are highly afraid of embarrassment and don't ever take the full initiative, therefore a lot of the time the women need to step up

Lotuslover · Answer

I’ve become like one of the boys and really outgoing with my friends group... but if I like a guy I could never ask them out I would become a nervous wreck lol I wish I had the balls to ask a guy out i have no idea how they do it

HangrySanderson · Answer

Well i dont think guys in general have great emotional intelligence so its hard to tell whether women are being kind or are interested. So something basic like asking to go out for something small pushes men the right way

Jessington · Answer

It's nice when i get asked out. So yeah. Women would get what they want more if they asked more.

mike5150 · Answer

It would be nice but then again I always believed if you liked someone you would let them know

pooper89 · Answer

No, because then he'd probably expect me to pay for it and I'm broke

someguykev · Answer

I say yes , I probably would be in a relationship if women would let me know if they are interested

therainman · Answer

Also seen this one been asked a lot. I'll say what I already said: yes, girls should take the initiative more often.

Ygglicious · Answer

Absolutely. Even outside of dating I'd welcome more proactive behaviour.

dawnm902 · Answer

I think women should ask out guys too. It’s not always going to be easy but it’s actually quite fun!

Handsome_cowboy · Answer

Please do ask guys out sometime! It would help soooo much.

Defboy69 · Answer

Absolutely! I'd say easily 80% of my"connections" with women was because they initiated.

BasilSam · Answer

Bein i huge guy i always feel that people are afraid of me when i come up to them, so yeah it'll be nice to feel that someone what to talk to me

Pluto4prez · Answer

Yes. It's no less difficult for guys to take the initiative, but we do it anyway because it's worth the risk.

RonyRozario · Answer

In some cases the girl should take up her own decisions rather thank asking the guys out. When start taking the decision u need to be strong enough to take ownership

AnthonyAuthentic · Answer

Of course. We are in a day and age where equality is set. Why shouldn't females step up and ask out? Sometimes the guy just simply can't read the hints.

KrazeeSurfer74 · Answer

I think so. It can be scary to go out on that limb, but in the end does it matter who asked who out first. Plus you could Lord it over him later, that you had the guts to as him first.

DudeMcGuy · Answer

Confidence works for everyone. If you wanna ask a dude out, go for it!

Surely · Answer

A huge YES. Equal pay, equal rights. equal asking guys out...

mrirkre4y4u · Answer

Yes please for sanity sake we can't read y'alls cues as much as you think

chrisv · Answer

That would be great!! Please!! Like “Would you like a coffee sometime?” Perfect..

PrivateJim · Answer

Yeah girls should definitely ask more, plus it's hot cause then you actually know they are keen

TheUglyMan · Answer

The answer is yes. No way around it. Women reject men too much. They must take over now

aradu · Answer

On my opinion equality also means going beyond some traditions and conventions like "men should ask out" :)

joeym · Answer

Definitely, a lot of guys are afraid to approach a girl they find attractive..

BeowulfTheMighty · Answer

If the woman is up to it, sure - but I think it's something that the man should do.

matt-519 · Answer

Yes, if a girl wants a boy why wait till the boy asks her. Just do what you gottz do

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah. I’m sick of women acting like they’re queens and men are crawling at their feet asking to take them out. If you like a guy, be a big girl and use your communication skills

CT_CD · Answer

Yes. Guys are always the ones expected to initiate dates or sexual encounters.

EffKay · Answer

I think its natural for men to ask girls out more often. But it would be nice if girls did but it would be a bit weird aswell

wweaboohentai · Answer

Yea, tbh sometimes I don't know if a girl actually likes me half the time so if say yes, take that initiative for people like me

SATYARACHAKONDA · Answer

Not needed, but it would be damn cool in that sense. But reacting positively when asked out, would suffice I guess!

Anonymous · Answer

This is probably the number one thing I've always hated about being born a guy, that I always have to do the chasing and pursuing

greaseyhands · Answer

I think they should. This shows that they are interested, and up front with you

007James007 · Answer

If you want to go out THEN SAY IT, either gender should speak up lol

awattson · Answer

Yes absolutely, if she likes him, she should go get him.

Tohhru · Answer

As a guy, you a girl asking a guy out for coffee sounds great and you shouldn't worry

lirannl · Answer

I'd find that highly flattering, and also, that says a lot (of good things) about the person she is.

Anonymous · Answer

depends on the guy. if u feel he is won't mind it but shy to ask you.. go for it ;)

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the personality of the man really. Some like that some don't.

dragonfly6516 · Answer

Yes! Use that gender equality!

Anonymous · Answer

Well considering men are now afraid because everything is hate crime and rape what else would you suggest?

imsrj · Answer

Yes there is nothing wrong in doing so at last equality!!!

jaketheone · Answer

I think Girls should do more because there are many Boys who aren't Brave enough to ask the Girl

RobertDale · Answer

Yes! Sometimes it is very useful! You can wait tooo long and skip your love!

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