Would you give him/her another chance if you don’t feel any spark on the first date? (Page 2)

[Amejonne18]

The first date is stressful a moment and people can't really be themselves and sometimes the first impression isn't always the right one so except if the first date was horrible I'd let the person another chance

[idk777]

Yes, you have to. You don't fall in love with everybody in one hour. It takes getting to know them. Go three or four dates before you call it off.

[007James007]

Nahhh not me. If i dont have any sparks going then i would friendzone them. I wouldn't waste our time trying again for the same results. I'm good at knowing my own vibes and how i feel about others. Good or bad.

Honestly if i didn't have sparks from the beginning i wouldn't even bother asking her out in the first place.

[Udbhav_Bantwal]

If you think they are a nice person then give it some more time... You don't always feel the spark on the first date but doesn't mean that you won't find that spark with in the future... Give it at least 3 to 4 dates...

[sj251]

Yes definitely.. their performance can be a result of many factors & jugding a person on first date is a bit rude.. only for those about whom your instincts guide you that their was something that was holding them back

[makiyoung]

Maybe not.
If I have no feelings about him in the first time, it is hard to dating again. Feeling is important.

[Isaac_4766]

The thing with first dates is that normally one is nervous and unlikely to be themselves, giving someone the chance at a second date can sometimes allow for a much more relaxed experience. It might be that they seem slightly more comfortable on the second date and much more open to being themselves.

[eor324]

I think I would because I get awkward and nervous a lot myself, but if it was just apparent for other reasons it wouldn't work there's no sense in leading them on.

[Nickiiee]

If there is no spark then for me that would mean no attraction what so ever. There needs to be something for me to consider a second date. Otherwise I will just say no. I often find that people think I'm harsh not given it a chance but why waste a date and give the other person hope if you don't feel anything for that person. If I'm interested there will be a spark and then yes I would love to go on a second date

[princess_fey]

Well, first date isn't everything. He/she have more side that you never see. Maybe it's the side that you will never get at other people. So I'm saying yes. We should see more

[angelgirl7]

As long as the first date wasn't absolutely horrific, yes I'd give another chance. I definitely think you have to work past some nerves and the awkwardness in order to really get to know someone.

[JerseyBigTuna]

Someone did this for me. It was a blind date and I was a bit out of sorts... not in a good place. As soon as I was back home, I wrote to that person and told her the man she had met wasn't the real me and I apologized. She went out with me again and that second date was a memorable one.

[adamjanovic]

Probably not. If it’s not there, you can usually sense it on the first date.

[sharkhuntersxpress]

The first time you meet someone there's gonna be like a awkward moment were you don't know if you show text first or shouldn't at all.
You say their wasn't a spark, well what if you didn't have any material to make that spark visible?
Give the guy a second chance, you might be surprised of the flame that could be created.

[Crownfad]

I believe another chance should be given because normally on a first date, we both will be trying to be cool / calm trying to know each other. While Lots of thought are going on in the mind. So the first date might not always be successful enough to determine a spark.

[AmtgardJean]

I have. Sometimes the first date is just kind of getting over the jitters. Sometimes one or both people are trying too hard. There are a million things that can happen after a first date that went bad that can ignite a huge spark.

[CandacePerry]

It depends he a jerk or trying to get hock up. no. my first date with better then any first date I had in college. one of my female friend help to get my current boyfriend.

[Jjpayne]

You need to give it time, you may warm up to them later. Get to know all their layers because as everyone knows, Ogres are like onions and ogres have layers- Mike Myers as shrek

[Anonymous]

I feel people always try to give their best in the first meeting... Max to max second chance cn b given but not third if no chemistry or spark is there

[dannyuk]

It's free food go for it.
As long as you didn't hate him it's all good

[NefAcosta]

The first timw you are both looking to see how the other person is so you dont show your truself right away

[hamzay_1]

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[AdviceFromADevice]

Not showing your true self sounds counter productive, surely expressing yourself to find common ground and shared interests is the way to go?

[NefAcosta]

True but even if you want to is hard cause you are just getting to know each other k have been on dates and even tho we have talked on the phone many times before going out , they feel awkward causw they dont wanna do anything stupid and 2nd dates ussually go smoother because. She already knows the kind of guy you are

[AdviceFromADevice]

I see where your coming from actually. Fair point

[orioneuropa]

The spark is just whether you find each other hot or not. You are hit so you always only date hot guys so you can't understand that but people who aren't hot always date without that spark.

[Nexovous]

Personally, i would be more then willing to given the variables that lead to us not connecting aren't of any extended severity.

[Jaybear0123]

Yes sometimes at first you might not feel like you like that person romantically and then as you get to know that person better you realize how amazing he/ she is :)

[alexiswashereee]

No, because if I don’t feel anything the first time then I probably won’t the second.

[yashbanka03]

For Date not going perfect, there could be so many reasons like feeling of nervousness of first meeting, the place isn't good enought for you both or anything like that. You must give Him/Her another chance

[issabelle]

yea i thin i would. its just the first date, thats when u kinda get to know each other. neither of u know eachother yet so u could be shy. but if its not there after the second or third then there might never be one.

[GreenGold1992]

It couldn't hurt to try again, but 3 strikes and I'm outtie.

[Faisalfaraz]

Yes of course you want to give him/her one more chance

[Harry1K]

I feel that the person is nervous, under stress or anxious about sometime but otherwise decent, I would give it another shot.

[RandomOmaha]

I'd generally give it 3 dates, and if nothing comes out of it by then: put them on the back burner, friendzone, or break it off

[doglover77]

If I really really liked you then yes. If it's some random guy, a guy online (Which I very rarely talk to guys online), stranger whatever I won't waste my time with a second date.

[ariadneR]

Yes. There are so many contributing factors as to why there was no 'spark'.
Anxious, nervous basically first date jitters. The second one, all the awkwardness is out of the way

[shan_shan]

Yes I would if the feeling is mutual... not all first dates are great so I will give him and myself another chance

[emmanuel100]

Maybe he realise his faults or he found out now who you really are and decided how to work things out

[MeganForreal]

Jw but u did u wait 3 months to see each other again

[Richareens]

Huh?

[MeganForreal]

Why did you wait 3 months to see him again

[Richareens]

Who?

[MeganForreal]

I apologize somehow my comment has ended up in the wrong post

[Anonymous]

That would be shallow to just judge them on the first date, and have that be the only one, I say you should have at least like, 5-8 dates before deciding that.

[shub09]

First is not final.
Everybody deserve a second chance. Some earn it.

[findingdreamland-1]

I do not give chance if i do not feel. No need to give any hopes. Plus wasting time is another thing.

[GingerGuy]

You should. That "spark" isn't always instant. Sometimes it takes a little bit to get that "fire" going. As you get to know them, the spark comes.

[eastwood7838]

Yes, because you don't know someone on a first impression. If its weird its usually because one of them likes the other more and has anxiety. Causing a bad first encounter.

[blondfrog]

First impressions are important so more likely than not, no I would not. However if we knew each other for a while prior before the first date that's a different story.

[nick7696]

Dates r ment for people to understand each other. So don't care how many more dates we both need

[Pistachio0690]

Yes. So many things can mess up a first date, it doesn't mean you're not a great fit

[rush491]

Rather than an official date.. try some day outing activity for the second time.

[thatJamiefellow]

I would usually know if there was a spark or feeling but if the actual date situation was not..
Lets say. .. conclusive.. I'd consider a second date

[deanlarouche]

Yes cause sometimes nerves play a big part 3 is the magic number. After 3 then if still nothing then move on

[TikiTook]

Nah, there are so many people out there. Why settle. I believe in the spark.

[AquaBoo]

What spark? It never comes on the first date. Maybe not on the second either. Why base your compatibility on that?

[AqibFarid]

If the she will be interested and i m not then i'll definatly try out her luck and will see where it would end. We waste much of our time then why not for someone who want to be with you?

[Demised]

Yes. Absolutely dude. Why not? Both r confused yet excited. Nervous n curious. Shy sometimes. Guys r shy too. I would give her a couple of chances before letting go. 😊

[wonderbug]

Yes, but because I don’t believe in fate or a spark or destiny

[keenybmr]

If she's nice, yes. I dont expect to have feelings for someone so soon anyway

[zulfiqarali]

Yes if he/she knows mistakes at their part and also willing to go and offer first...

[Lavenderella]

I would, if there's nth bad happened on the 1st date.

[jimyee]

I would if we still had a good time i. e. conversation was good.

[Mexicoman101]

Maybe, but I doubt it under most normal circumstances.

[joeyboy622]

O would defenitely give ir another two shots. More than that, Im out

[Slim57]

I would because sometimes people are shy and nervous at first and need to open up

[Joelski440]

If it just little or no spark than sure I'll try again. If it's no physical attraction than that's another story.