I thought feminism was all about equality? Logical inconsistency turns men off almost across the board. My wife and I both pay, and we both hate feminist ideology (why she was even a candidate for marriage in my mind).
Feminists laugh at a man who doesn’t pay for her dinner and call him cheap, even though she could easily afford it and would never do the same in return, that’s not equality, that’s sexist societal expectations made out to somehow be considered equality which is total BS. Such a double standard with supposed sexism and feminists.
Exactly. Only non- thinking beta males pay for dates as per social expectation. 9/10 men never see the girl again. And we all know millions of women do this routinely just to get free food! And men still think that's just a normal expectation? Sorry but only betas think that. No offense to anyone, just my opinion and something to think about. Thanks John Miller.
You asked two questions. 1. If you’re on a first date and she doesn’t offer to pay, are you turned off? 2. Would you date her again? Which is the poll for?
I don't mind. I do take notice but don't dwell on it. If its habitual and she doesn't show her appreciation in other ways then maybe that's a red flag.
My rule is whomever asks the other out pays. If I ask her I'd pay. If she insisted on paying her portion I'll fight briefly but will give in if she really wants to pay.
Guys should expect to pay in americas culture and if she offers half I have no problem.. Gold diggers are out their so buyer beware... Choose your girl carefully
FYI: Sorry im not into gold diggers, but everyone but them... Dont know why I got a negitive from a girl.. I have rights to be ready to show respect for respects to all types of girls desires to be compadable in americas melting pot entitled culture. However I choose to dump gold diggers.. 👎Maybe she's a gold digger.. Sorry it broke her... 💔 lol..
I would prefer each paying their own or if not that the one who asked the other out should It wouldn't by itself make me uninterested at least not for just the first date
Tbh neither would need to pay cause it would be a home cooked meal. She could pay me back in kind by cooking for the 2nd or by helping to prepare an cook the first would be a great excuse to talk about allergies which don't usually come up.
She would definitely impresses me if she offered. At least to pay for her own meal.
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If a man doesn't pay he hasn't been raised right - and if a woman doesn't offer to pay she hasn't been raised right either. So no, I won't see her again.
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I thought feminism was all about equality? Logical inconsistency turns men off almost across the board. My wife and I both pay, and we both hate feminist ideology (why she was even a candidate for marriage in my mind).
Feminists laugh at a man who doesn’t pay for her dinner and call him cheap, even though she could easily afford it and would never do the same in return, that’s not equality, that’s sexist societal expectations made out to somehow be considered equality which is total BS. Such a double standard with supposed sexism and feminists.
Exactly. Only non- thinking beta males pay for dates as per social expectation. 9/10 men never see the girl again. And we all know millions of women do this routinely just to get free food! And men still think that's just a normal expectation? Sorry but only betas think that. No offense to anyone, just my opinion and something to think about. Thanks John Miller.
Yes. I make it a rule for myself if she doesn't offer to pay her bill the first date to not have another.
If i asked her on the date, I'm paying. It's not a turn off if she doesn't offer
You asked two questions.
1. If you’re on a first date and she doesn’t offer to pay, are you turned off?
2. Would you date her again?
Which is the poll for?
I don't mind. I do take notice but don't dwell on it. If its habitual and she doesn't show her appreciation in other ways then maybe that's a red flag.
My rule is whomever asks the other out pays. If I ask her I'd pay. If she insisted on paying her portion I'll fight briefly but will give in if she really wants to pay.
Yes I think I would if I was attracted to her but I may be troubled thoughtful and aware this could be a general pattern a mentality.
But it's not an outright red line. Overall I am prepared to be masterful on occasion but don't want to be used.
Agh! I clicked yes accidentally. I meant no. Sorry!
Most likely not!
If she doesn't offer on her own to pay her part she gives signals that she most likely are a user that tries to ride on others.
It depends on whether you mean she pays her half or pays for both.
It wouldn't be a turn off for me if she doesn't pay but if she does it shows a couple of traits that I would like to see in a woman...
Guys should expect to pay in americas culture and if she offers half I have no problem.. Gold diggers are out their so buyer beware... Choose your girl carefully
True 😊
FYI: Sorry im not into gold diggers, but everyone but them... Dont know why I got a negitive from a girl.. I have rights to be ready to show respect for respects to all types of girls desires to be compadable in americas melting pot entitled culture. However I choose to dump gold diggers.. 👎Maybe she's a gold digger.. Sorry it broke her... 💔 lol..
I would prefer each paying their own or if not that the one who asked the other out should
It wouldn't by itself make me uninterested at least not for just the first date
I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't offer. If anything she's expecting ME to offer
Well if I asked her out, not really turned off.
If she asked me out, then yeah, a bit miffed.
If she asks you out that means she should pay her own half? I don't get that logic.
@Ayer93 Hmm didn't make that clear, my fault. I meant that if she expects me to pay the whole thing when she asked me out, then I'm turned off.
@Nivinxus ah I see. I like that logic lol
You worded this question so poorly... I would not be turned off and I would go in a second date
I'm old fashioned in that way. I like to pay, open doors, etc.
Tbh neither would need to pay cause it would be a home cooked meal. She could pay me back in kind by cooking for the 2nd or by helping to prepare an cook the first would be a great excuse to talk about allergies which don't usually come up.
She would definitely impresses me if she offered. At least to pay for her own meal.
If a man doesn't pay he hasn't been raised right - and if a woman doesn't offer to pay she hasn't been raised right either. So no, I won't see her again.