The other I was talking to a friend and they inquired how the dating scene was going for me. For me it never goes well, I have a hard time meeting people. My approach has always been simple, a greeting and some small talk to start. For the most part I am a rather nice person and pretty laid back, I've always considered myself to be easy to talk to. I'm an average looking person, I have house, truck and a good paying job that allows me to support myself and my two kids. Talking to my friend about my inability to meet women, she straight out told me that my problem is that I am too nice. Is that really possible? I never thought that being nice would push women away. And I dont think I can intentionally be less nice when dealing with people. Dont get me wrong, I do know how to be mean. I have to be occasionally with my job as a corrections officer. But that's a completely different scenario. So basically, ladies I want to know. Is being too nice really that much of a turn off?

Dont be nice dude, girls usually use us and dump away like crap. I hate being nice to girls nowdays...

The illusion you believe is that being nice is a good thing in life, and in dating

Yes you'll get taken advantage of and your kindness will be seen as weakness

Yes. People like badass and now ass kissers. People will tell you different but then why is The Rock the highest paid actor in Hollywood right now?

Your friend is a retard! Your "problem" is your age and your two kids.

For a guy, yes it is very possible. It works against you in the dating world.

I guess it depends on what kind of nice. Is it possible that you are being "friend" nice?

Coming for a person whose mean to everyone, yes it is possible.

Women hate nice guys. If you want to get your dick wet, you have to be an asshole.

Nice is good but just don’t be pushover nice.

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Ak12da Follow
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Dont be nice dude, girls usually use us and dump away like crap. I hate being nice to girls nowdays...

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Greek_God Follow
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The illusion you believe is that being nice is a good thing in life, and in dating

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- Prof_Don
  
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  Nice is good, in moderation tho
  
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- Greek_God
  
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  @Prof_Don no, its not. The majority of people are evil, some hide it, some don't. And they sense that you are nice, they will eat you alive. Nice people never do good in life. People are animals, and you must treat them like animals. Plus especially when it comes to dating, women absolutely HATE nice guys.
  
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- Hispanic-Cool-Guy
  
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  Trust me greek. You won't make it far in life being a jerk. Not everyone is going to put up with your $****.
  
  Prof Don is right.
  
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- Greek_God
  
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  @Hispanic-Cool-Guy still it will get you a lot further than being nice ever will. sad but true
  
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Lucas5423 Follow
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Yes you'll get taken advantage of and your kindness will be seen as weakness

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SpiderHead Follow
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Yes. People like badass and now ass kissers. People will tell you different but then why is The Rock the highest paid actor in Hollywood right now?

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Your friend is a retard! Your "problem" is your age and your two kids.

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For a guy, yes it is very possible. It works against you in the dating world.

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Amberose Follow
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I guess it depends on what kind of nice. Is it possible that you are being "friend" nice?

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Shonxx Follow
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Coming for a person whose mean to everyone, yes it is possible.

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Anonymous
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Women hate nice guys. If you want to get your dick wet, you have to be an asshole.

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- RaijuRainBird
  
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  The only time I ever got laid was when I was faking being a dick. It worked absurdly well. But the thing about it was I actually hated it. So there’s a mutual dislike between myself and the women who don’t like the natural me — as it should be.
  
  I was most shocked at how not so good sex was. Then I realized, women already knew/know this because they just get more experience. So that’s why they behave differently in general.
  
  All it takes is for a guy to have bad sex to even out the playing field. Then there’s not a whole lot of difference in mindset unless the guy is on a hard mode nofap and it’s been like 8 weeks.
  
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Nice is good but just don’t be pushover nice.

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genericname85 Follow
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Yes it is. Being too nice makes you boring.

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Dutchman90 Follow
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Too nice sounds weird. You sound like a nice dude!

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veronicalynn Follow
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Yes and people take advantage of this

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It's possible, especially boys haha

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MPAHG Follow
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I don't consider it a turn off.

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CuriousMufuxka Follow
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Did you just put your dating resume on here?

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Aksamlar Follow
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Yeah, too nice is a thing.

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Yeah. I suffer from that

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Revolver_ Follow
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It's possible to be too nice

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Anonymous
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Women don't like a pushover

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Anonymous
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Yes. But u'll end up getting used by people

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opurba Follow
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Nope..

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Anonymous
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Well...

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- RaijuRainBird
  
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  Well... ... ... ... .. ...
  Wellllllllllllllllllllll, wellll, well, weeeeellllllllllll,
  well, well, ... wellllllll, you should probably say what you mean.
  
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Anonymous
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Sure is

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clampfan101 Follow
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Not in my opinion.

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Aroso Follow
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Yes look at me

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Altair786 Follow
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A balance is good

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GoldCobra Follow
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Yes.

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Nandor Follow
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Yes.

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Maybe. Depends.

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JayYay122 Follow
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Yep.

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AmyRay Follow
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it is possible

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CT_CD Follow
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It's possible

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iamshan Follow
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Yeah.

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niss_76 Follow
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Yes it is possible

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68emaa Follow
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yes!!!

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Kifer Follow
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Sometimes.

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ownerIntelliRamInc Follow
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Apparently so

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Wrath69 Follow
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Yeah it is

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