Would you ever leave a partner because they gained significant weight? (Page 2)

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It is PC approved to say that appearance doesn't matter and OF COURSE we shouldn't "fat shame" anyone. That means that you aren't supposed to have any negative thoughts or feelings towards anyone just because they weigh as much as a baby elephant. That's a wonderfully exalted and elegant theory of the way things ought to be but it simply fails to account for the real world. For real people, appearance is a big factor in physical attraction. I am attracted to some women and not others; I like petite, diminutive women who have a cute face. I am not attracted to significantly overweight women. You can send me to a PC re-education center and have me sit through sensitivity training classes until the cows come home and I still won't be attracted to seriously overweight women. I have dated women who were 10-20 pounds overweight but that is the limit for me. I never told a girl that I did not want to date her because of her size, but I never dated a girl who I thought was abnormally large. Fortunately, none of my partners in long term relationships ever gained any substantial weight while we were together. I'm not sure that I would have left them because of that. I probably would have talked to them, inquired about possible depression, medical conditions causing weight gain, offered to help them with dieting and exercise, etc. But I don't think I could stay in a relationship with a woman who was 5' 4" and 190 pounds. Could you do it? Could you stay with a partner if they gained a significant amount of weight? (SJW's: If you don't like what I said, I don't want to hear from you! Save you opinion for someone who actually cares about what you think.)

valualty · Answer

If they're willing to do something about their weight yes. But if they continued growing, i'll them grow out of my world. Looks usually fade away but you would want to at least see the same person you initially met not their fat twin

marilynmansonssextoy · Answer

If they were obese, yes. Chubby, no. xx ~ Mrs Manson

Anonymous · Answer

It depends. It's a case by case sort of scenario. If it were a relationship where me and the guy have been together for many many years and we were married and we had kids I would without a doubt stay i would not give two shits how much weight he has gained. I mean I'd make sure his healthy mentally and physically but if he is and he isn't at risk of diabetes or a heart attack and all the other stuff that comes with weight gain i wouldn't make it a big deal about it.

madgoat · Answer

I think there are paths that a partner can go down and you just cannot follow.  Each of us has their limits even if some don't publicly accept that.

Pink2000 · Answer

If they got so fat and I had to take care of them then yes. But that’s if they got fat from eating all day

Stormsoul · Answer

Probably leave them once they start gaining weight, yes. I myself take great care of my body, I work out regularly to stay lean and healthy. I expect my SO to do the same.

raney149 · Answer

No. I would want to help them lose weight. If I have been dating them long enough for them to have gained a significant amount of weight, then I am probably deeply invested in the relationship emotionally.

Anonymous · Answer

I made a misake choosing. I meant to choose " prefer a partner who is not overweight but I would never leave them because of weight gain, unless they gained 50 pounds or more and refused to try to lose it"

This isn't being shallow. If a man who doenst care for himself, how can he care for his partner?

Anonymous · Answer

No that wouldn't happen because I will tell them they are getting way to big and I'll help them to get back to the normal weight.

William-Davidson-Jr · Answer

Seeking a potential partner isn't about what they look like but who they are.

Mohamedmo · Answer

You said we love especially for her personality and sol ok im with you. now do you think that someone have good personality don't want… [+]

Skullpool · Answer

I just say yes lol. Mostly because if she doesn't take care for her own health, she wouldn't care my children's healthy either

Anonymous · Answer

If she gained the weight but refused to do anything about it hell ya its over but if your trying you deserve a chance.

imanf7 · Answer

i would never be with a fat guy, never

Highsxhoolstudent15 · Answer

What if u had 6 six kids and were married for 10 years?

Anonymous · Answer

He has to lose the weight. I'll find a way to make him lose it

stuntbrain · Answer

This question is oddly familiar

DashboardLight · Answer

Not gonna lie, it'd matter to me

Loozeroo · Answer

I cannot lose to a lady in sumo... hence never

Minahh · Answer

I would only leave him if he had no motivation to do something with his weight

RockStarBob · Answer

I'd have a huge problem (pun intended) if my wife got fat.

ElloElloElloEllo · Answer

i hate the picture u chose

Melania1 · Answer

No, id make them lose it.

Nach0420 · Answer

Depends if you love them

Anonymous · Answer

I am not really sure what I would do.

llorando · Answer

Nope, "for better or for worse"

dontgofalling · Answer

I'd just workout with them

pizzaman123 · Answer

No I left two of them cuz they cheated.

Logical_Idolist · Answer

Of course not.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd want my partner to be healthy...

hellacray · Answer

Yes I would

roseypopxox · Answer

No..

boulshyte · Answer

15 pounds tbh

DJZest · Answer

Yes.

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