How would you react if your blind date told you she was transgender at the end of the date after you both agreed to see each other again?

[Anonymous]

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Do you guys know what a blind date is?

[strawberrysouffle]

That's a difficult one. I'm quite sure I would still go on the second date. If it turns out that I'm not very bothered by it (meaning I don't focus on 'wow you were a woman') and if he has a nice personality, is attractive, ... then I'd probably have some questions about what his private parts look like at the moment, if he is thinking about making more changes to his body, etc. If I don't notice myself having a weird reaction or focusing on that rather than personality, hobbies, ... I'd go for it.

[DocilexElle]

Would it be harder for you to trust someone who didn't tell you from the jump--OR do you feel that since it's a touchy topic to begin with--you would understand why they didn't come clean? Are you pansexual; do you not care that he could have a vagina instead of a penis? My point is that you couldn't really have sex with a "man" the normal way if he doesn't have a dick. You could do a strap on... but still... would you really see this person as a long term partner if they lied to you?

[strawberrysouffle]

@DocilexElle Well, the asker stated it was a blind date. I don't expect someone I don't know to tell me right from the start that they're transgender. I also don't see it as lying to me.
I'm not pansexual, so he would have to “pass“ as a man (but I guess that's the case since I didn't notice in this scenario).
Not having a dick can be “solved“ with a strap on, but penetration mostly isn't what does it for me. What might bother me is thst I don't think vulva's look sexy, just ugly. But who knows, I might be able to get over that.
If I liked him enough after the first date, then him being transgender shouldn't stop the possibility of going on further dates and maybe start a relationship.

[DocilexElle]

Ah okay, that makes sense. I wasn't trying to attack you either so it's all good. I hope I didn't upset you or anything!

[strawberrysouffle]

@DocilexElle Oh no, you didn't, don't worry. I apologise if my reply made you think that!

[DocilexElle]

it's all good, girl! :)

[yasii]

I mean a blind date usually means they both don't know anything about the other before agreeing to the date. So it's not like the transgender person lead them on or anything. However I think they should make it clear from the Start that they are transgender

[Kurαȷ]

I would express my disapproval of their manipulation and advise them to always start the conversation with that information.

People are either going to accept their condition or they aren't, and the only thing they are going to achieve by delaying that information is wasting their and other people's time.

[DocilexElle]

The thing is; once someone lies to you about who they really are... literally, it's even harder to trut them about anything! Right?

[DocilexElle]

trust**

[Kurαȷ]

@DocilexElle Well, yeah.
I guess that even in the case when someone is ok with dating a transgender person, the transgender person is only shooting themselves in the foot by being dishonest.

But then again, most transgender people lie or avoid talking about their identity because that is very much a part of their psychological condition.
They want to be seen as normal people, and going around openly talking about being transgender would undermine this illusion that their mind believes in.
They choose to believe that if someone doesn't accept them being transgender it is *their* behavior that is the problem, not the behavior of the transgender person.

[DocilexElle]

Agreeeeeed!

[Logorithim]

Complete dealbreaker and that person will also be blocked.

[Logorithim]

Thanks for the MHO

[BadApple1]

I would see them again as we agreed but the next time I would tell them that this could only be a friendship, I am not into guys no matter how cute they might be... but honestly you can normally tell when a woman hasn’t been always a woman. There are male traits that are not always as easy to hide.

[DocilexElle]

I'm not attracted to Transgender people. They also would have lied to me; and that's not cool. I don't care how hard it would be to tell me that he/she/they is transgender--I couldn't even be friends with them because without honesty... there is no kind of relationship.

[Jaximus-Lion]

Few things i have to say in general ! If you are in a first blind date with a trans and you didn't notice the voice, the face structure, the legs, the shoulders not the the apple! Boy you have no right to dis the other transgender person because you are too blind and too desperate

[zagor]

There ARE some that are very difficult to distinguish - a lot of guys don't have a pronounced adam's apple. And facial structures vary with ethnicity.

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Thirsty black man thought he was getting white pussy... Jokes on him if he couldn't tell that this untermensch he-she was a freak!!!

I'd smash *HIM* to bits and give him a few kicks while *HE* was down. That's getting off lightly - back in ancient times freaks like *HIM* would've long been discarded and thrown into the bog. These days the degeneracy is so extreme I'd just have them incinerated and wiped from living memory.

[CuChullan]

Well the fact it was a blind date would probably mollify my unease at being hit with this at the end of the night when i found her interesting enough to agree to a second date. While i don't have any negative feelings about transgender people, to get involved with one is another matter altogether. I'm open to it, but i like the cards laid on the table. I don't like being hit with a fait accompli.

[DarkKnight01]

I would tell them that no we will not be seeing each other. Not saying at the beginning of the date about that fact would make me think they would lie about other things. And not saying anything because they don't want to get their feelings hurt is not excuse. They took on that life choice, I don't have to justify or be ok with it.

[chrisbigman]

I would tell her that I can meet her again, but I would be upfront with her and tell her that I no longer see her as a romantic interest. If she's willing to remain as friends, I'd be okay with that. But not as a romantic interest. If she wants to (or doesn't want to) see me again, then that's her decision.

[tertater]

A person who withholds information is a HUGE red flag. What else would this person be too afraid to tell till it's too late?

[mia999]

Change of the plans lol. Im not going to see him/her again

[9teen]

I'd notice that in an instant and I would go to the ''bathroom'' and disappear. I only date (manly) men, not wannabe ''men''.

Transgenders are usually ugly as fuck though.

[ecfresh]

Red flag, big lie told at the end of the date instead of the beginning. Would let them know I like women and don't want to see them again, and not follow up with them.

[Lliam]

I would thank her for her honesty but explain that, even though I had a nice time and wouldn't mine remaining friends, I couldn't think of her as a potential sexual partner.

[InTimoreDei]

I'd have no reaction because I wouldn't get fooled by that (blind date or not) and wouldn't get myself into such a predicament. I can always tell. I find it hilarious how some guys get fooled. How can they not see that it is clearly a guy?

[InTimoreDei]

The "girl" in the video is clearly trans. What a moron. Jaw is masculine, voice isn't feminine etc.

[RetroAlpha]

Ghosting time. That's a relationship killer for me.

[hansukota]

I hold nothing against transgender people. To me they are just people. But I wouldn't date one as I'm only into females. Even tho I like him/her after knowing that I'd just cancel

[hahahmm]

Ask waiter for split check. Pay my half & leave without saying another word. Even if a woman lied to get me on a date it would be a deal breaker.

[stormbreaker06]

[wiseyoungman]

Tell them that theywasted my time with their dishonesty, leave and not speak to them again

[SarahsSummer]

I doubt I’d agree to a second date to someone without an Adam’s apple.

[MrMilti]

Relationship is off the table.
Sorry, but I want to have kids.
But I am open for experiments, just out of pure curiosity

[Rambler221]

Negatively. I would gave expected such news before we agreed on that, and would view it as a dishonest gesture. Never mind the fact that I am by belief against the LGBTQ movement.

[TripleAce]

slap her balls and take my half for the dinner back...
thanks

[lightbulb27]

I'd be sick in my stomach, play it off and make it fun and funny. But that's the end of that...

[MlleCake]

I may not care at all. I'm attracted to people. I don't care what kind of genitals they have.

[Leafpool2]

Wouldn't change anything. Obviously if I'm agreeing to a second date I like her so

[hansukota]

What if she has a vagina (assuming u r straight)

[Leafpool2]

If I was straight I'd be dating a man. Same answer.

[Leafpool2]

Because see transmen, are still men. Real easy concept

[hansukota]

Are u straight or bi or gay

[YHL6965]

I would say this :

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=olN_3vbP4EA

[Cask23]

The reaction is actually in your question.

At the end of the date if you both agreed to see each other again, isn't the reaction implicitly assumed to be positive?

[YvanKarma]

Insulted and led on, lol.

But i wouldn`t react in a crazy way or anything like that.

[Anonymous]

Already deceived. Something that should've been mentioned before the date, or right away in the first date.

[Anonymous]

I would be thrown off and stop dating her immediately, sorry but that’s not my thing and never will be and I have every right to choose not to date someone based on preference

[BonnieBunny]

Should have mentioned it in the beginning, it's a deal breaker

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t feel comfortable with being anything more than friends.

[Anonymous]

If I liked her and found her attractive (feminine and not masculine at all) I'd be fine and I'd keep dating.

[Giggletr0n]

As long as she was post-op and not still packing a sausage then I would be fine with it.

[Anonymous]

Nope. i don’t date men. No matter what they pretend to be.

[BigJake]

I would treat "her" like a liar, and it would be over.

[Syrian_survivor]

She/he hid something important from me, shame on her
I'll do something similar and break it off 🤷

[David-95]

I'd say the date is off.
I'm only attracted to women.

[Anonymous]

Politely tell her that I don't date transwomen and that I don't think we should see each other again

[Anonymous]

Dealbreaker.

No offense, but I don't want to have sex with someone who used to be a man and may still have a d***.

[malegender]

It would be getting a beating that wold not be soon forgotten

[BonnieBunny]

And that's what leads to all the violence towards transgenders

[malegender]

@BonnieBunny correct, it's self inflicted

[malegender]

also, if we kissed during the date I would be getting a full battery of STD tests as soon as I could find medical care

[Tim-loves-it]

I wouldn't care. You fall in love with the person, not the body.

[nth123]

i would say u ll never be a she cuz u r a he
and i won't c him again

[Anonymous]

... So she's got a dick? ... Alright. ... So can she fuck me in the butt? ... Cool.

[Anonymous]

I would punch him in the face for misleading me and lying from the start

[AmtgardJean]

That I was lied to. Say it upfront.

[name_is_eric]

Catch an "assault and battery" case.

[jessture]

There wouldn't be another date

[Rangers]

It wouldn't bother me

[respondergirl]

Id cancel the second date.

[Longshot1965]

Depends on her personality and if she's cute.

[ChocolateCheesecake]

She's a he tho

[Longshot1965]

I said I would date, not have sex with. I have no problem with a person expressing themselves how they see fit as long as I am given the same courtesy.

[MisterAnon69]

I would dip the FUCK out of there real quick

[Vegeta01]

I would run and call the cops while I am running

[Sambelfast226]

I would say no thanks

[Anon-ymous1]

Eh I'd feel a bit deceived.

[TheGayenner]

Ideally that shouod be disclosed beforehand.

[ZoeAdams2]

That ends it.

[MikeTheGreek79]

I’d be like thanks but no thanks.

[kingblueberry88]

Depends on her personality and if she's cute.

[hansukota]

What if she has a dick

[Dark93]

Abort mission!