How would you react if your blind date told you she was transgender at the end of the date after you both agreed to see each other again?



How would you react if your blind date told you she was transgender at the end of the date after you both agreed to see each other again?
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  • I would express my disapproval of their manipulation and advise them to always start the conversation with that information.

    People are either going to accept their condition or they aren't, and the only thing they are going to achieve by delaying that information is wasting their and other people's time.

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      The thing is; once someone lies to you about who they really are... literally, it's even harder to trut them about anything! Right?

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      @DocilexElle Well, yeah.
      I guess that even in the case when someone is ok with dating a transgender person, the transgender person is only shooting themselves in the foot by being dishonest.

      But then again, most transgender people lie or avoid talking about their identity because that is very much a part of their psychological condition.
      They want to be seen as normal people, and going around openly talking about being transgender would undermine this illusion that their mind believes in.
      They choose to believe that if someone doesn't accept them being transgender it is *their* behavior that is the problem, not the behavior of the transgender person.

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      Agreeeeeed!

  • Complete dealbreaker and that person will also be blocked.

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  • I mean a blind date usually means they both don't know anything about the other before agreeing to the date. So it's not like the transgender person lead them on or anything. However I think they should make it clear from the Start that they are transgender

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  • That's a difficult one. I'm quite sure I would still go on the second date. If it turns out that I'm not very bothered by it (meaning I don't focus on 'wow you were a woman') and if he has a nice personality, is attractive, ... then I'd probably have some questions about what his private parts look like at the moment, if he is thinking about making more changes to his body, etc. If I don't notice myself having a weird reaction or focusing on that rather than personality, hobbies, ... I'd go for it.

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      Would it be harder for you to trust someone who didn't tell you from the jump--OR do you feel that since it's a touchy topic to begin with--you would understand why they didn't come clean? Are you pansexual; do you not care that he could have a vagina instead of a penis? My point is that you couldn't really have sex with a "man" the normal way if he doesn't have a dick. You could do a strap on... but still... would you really see this person as a long term partner if they lied to you?

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      @DocilexElle Oh no, you didn't, don't worry. I apologise if my reply made you think that!

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      it's all good, girl! :)

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What Guys Said 46

  • I would see them again as we agreed but the next time I would tell them that this could only be a friendship, I am not into guys no matter how cute they might be... but honestly you can normally tell when a woman hasn’t been always a woman. There are male traits that are not always as easy to hide.

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  • Few things i have to say in general ! If you are in a first blind date with a trans and you didn't notice the voice, the face structure, the legs, the shoulders not the the apple! Boy you have no right to dis the other transgender person because you are too blind and too desperate

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      There ARE some that are very difficult to distinguish - a lot of guys don't have a pronounced adam's apple. And facial structures vary with ethnicity.

  • Thirsty black man thought he was getting white pussy... Jokes on him if he couldn't tell that this untermensch he-she was a freak!!!

    I'd smash *HIM* to bits and give him a few kicks while *HE* was down. That's getting off lightly - back in ancient times freaks like *HIM* would've long been discarded and thrown into the bog. These days the degeneracy is so extreme I'd just have them incinerated and wiped from living memory.

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  • Well the fact it was a blind date would probably mollify my unease at being hit with this at the end of the night when i found her interesting enough to agree to a second date. While i don't have any negative feelings about transgender people, to get involved with one is another matter altogether. I'm open to it, but i like the cards laid on the table. I don't like being hit with a fait accompli.

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  • A person who withholds information is a HUGE red flag. What else would this person be too afraid to tell till it's too late?

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  • Red flag, big lie told at the end of the date instead of the beginning. Would let them know I like women and don't want to see them again, and not follow up with them.

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  • I'd have no reaction because I wouldn't get fooled by that (blind date or not) and wouldn't get myself into such a predicament. I can always tell. I find it hilarious how some guys get fooled. How can they not see that it is clearly a guy?

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    • The "girl" in the video is clearly trans. What a moron. Jaw is masculine, voice isn't feminine etc.

  • I would tell her that I can meet her again, but I would be upfront with her and tell her that I no longer see her as a romantic interest. If she's willing to remain as friends, I'd be okay with that. But not as a romantic interest. If she wants to (or doesn't want to) see me again, then that's her decision.

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  • Ghosting time. That's a relationship killer for me.

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  • I would tell them that no we will not be seeing each other. Not saying at the beginning of the date about that fact would make me think they would lie about other things. And not saying anything because they don't want to get their feelings hurt is not excuse. They took on that life choice, I don't have to justify or be ok with it.

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  • Negatively. I would gave expected such news before we agreed on that, and would view it as a dishonest gesture. Never mind the fact that I am by belief against the LGBTQ movement.

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  • I hold nothing against transgender people. To me they are just people. But I wouldn't date one as I'm only into females. Even tho I like him/her after knowing that I'd just cancel

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  • Ask waiter for split check. Pay my half & leave without saying another word. Even if a woman lied to get me on a date it would be a deal breaker.

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  • Tell them that theywasted my time with their dishonesty, leave and not speak to them again

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  • The reaction is actually in your question.

    At the end of the date if you both agreed to see each other again, isn't the reaction implicitly assumed to be positive?

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  • Relationship is off the table.
    Sorry, but I want to have kids.
    But I am open for experiments, just out of pure curiosity

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  • I'd be sick in my stomach, play it off and make it fun and funny. But that's the end of that...

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  • Insulted and led on, lol.

    But i wouldn`t react in a crazy way or anything like that.

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  • It would be getting a beating that wold not be soon forgotten

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  • slap her balls and take my half for the dinner back...
    thanks

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  • I'd say the date is off.
    I'm only attracted to women.

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  • She/he hid something important from me, shame on her
    I'll do something similar and break it off 🤷

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  • As long as she was post-op and not still packing a sausage then I would be fine with it.

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  • I wouldn't care. You fall in love with the person, not the body.

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  • Abort mission!

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  • Catch an "assault and battery" case.

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  • Not see HIM again.

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  • That I was lied to. Say it upfront.

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  • There wouldn't be another date

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  • Ideally that shouod be disclosed beforehand.

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What Girls Said 11

  • I'm not attracted to Transgender people. They also would have lied to me; and that's not cool. I don't care how hard it would be to tell me that he/she/they is transgender--I couldn't even be friends with them because without honesty... there is no kind of relationship.

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  • I'd notice that in an instant and I would go to the ''bathroom'' and disappear. I only date (manly) men, not wannabe ''men''.

    Transgenders are usually ugly as fuck though.

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  • I may not care at all. I'm attracted to people. I don't care what kind of genitals they have.

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  • Should have mentioned it in the beginning, it's a deal breaker

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  • I doubt I’d agree to a second date to someone without an Adam’s apple.

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  • Wouldn't change anything. Obviously if I'm agreeing to a second date I like her so

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  • That ends it.

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  • Let's smash.

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  • Id cancel the second date.

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  • I wouldn’t feel comfortable with being anything more than friends.

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  • Change of the plans lol. Im not going to see him/her again

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