Really are worth having? But yeah, I've been noticing that most women in my age range are married or have kids already. Seems like the only one's who don't are like 20-24, ishly. But I'm okay with a big age gap.
Sorry i meant "aren't". If they're single past 30 there's usually a reason why. Good women don't stay single.
So would you recommend dating younger?
I would recommend just vetting whoever you date. Just know the older the woman is the more s*** she's seen ( a lot of her own making but women tend to NOT take responsibility for those bad choices ) Date younger if you can swing it. It's a dbl edged sword when they're younger they're typically more immature. But their are some really good young ladies. Just be careful my man.
I like that. That is well thought out. I appreciate such things. The claim I've heard is that if you actively aim to be rejected as much as possible, over time you get used to it, and it no longer hurts; as opposed to being alone--even if you realize it's by your own choice--which gets harder and harder over time or just fucks you up, as a social animal.What would that change in your answer, were that the case?
... That's actually kind of a great way to look at it... *processing counter argument/none found*Even so, I think at a certain point, if one is not content living a lonely life, then they may as well try to live a life of constant rejection. As some others have said, only need 1 success. At least as a corollary.
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You might want to consider getting some professional dating advice to see where you're going wrong.
@purplepoppy Ha Ha Ha... don't troll!
What other options are there?
You have the option of addressing the reasons for repeated rejection, making yourself a more attractive candidate to the opposite sex, and having some success in those endeavors.
Ah yes, of course. That said, one has to go through repeated rejection to get there, do they not? :P
No, repeated rejection is not an inherent part of the dating process.Some rejection is inevitable. . . but so what? A woman does not reject you because you are an unworthy human being. She rejects you because you aren't tall enough, because you remind her of her unpleasant cousin, because you aren't on the football team, or any other number of reasons which are primarily arbitrary. When you have at least some success with dating, you learn that rejections should not define your self-worth and they become nothing more than minor annoyances.This is not just easy BS words flowing out of my mouth. I dealt with rejection and not much success when I was younger and then I worked on myself to make me more attractive to women. It worked.
I think it is bad, man. That's exactly what I did. Accepted being alone. But in that, I never grew. It was really just hiding. And the longer you hide, the more your skills rust, the less capable you are, and the higher you have to climb once you do decide that you want someone in your life.For me, I made the decision to be alone, and I ignored or tried to mitigate the loneliness that would pop up occasionally, or, especially: lying in bed, the desire for a warm, soft body pressed up against me, smooth legs to wrap around mine as we both drifted to sleep, etc. I used distractions and routine masturbation and porn to offset the desires. And it worked really well. I was mostly okay being alone.For me, I think porn and consistent masturbation really killed the desire beyond all else. When you stop, it becomes a booming demand, rather than a subtle whisper.I think quitting those gave me a great deal of motivation, not only to seek out women, but also to improve myself. So. If your lack of motivation to find anyone and simply be alone stems from fear; or, if it is making your social skills rust, making you not care about self-improvement, then I would say it's definitely a bad thing.But, ultimately, as Jordan Peterson would say, you don't get to not pay a price. You get to choose which price you want to pay. And that is entirely up to you. For me, I regret my many years of isolation from women. As the years went on, the price got higher and higher. Got to the point where the cost of not pursuing women was too damn high.
I'm actually only like this because I genuinely have no interest in dating. I have a dreadfully low libido and I don't masturbate or look at porn often. I have no issue with my social skills and I'm more than confident when speaking to people about almost anything. It's just I don't care for a life partner. I don't feel the need for one. I honestly wouldn't even have the time for one and I've been emotionally and romantically unavailable for about 6 years now. Maybe I'll change and become available again, however only time will tell.
Do you have depression?
Hmm, I'm unsure. I don't honestly feel much of anything most of the time and I'm mostly detached from my emotions. I don't feel sad, and I'm not happy, but I'm also not angry or anything. I'm a middle level. Not exactly content though.
Any traumatic experiences as a youth?
Other than sport based accidents, not that I can recall. I honestly don't remember much of my past.
Tht's quite abnormal, then. :O What about sex drive?
Very low. I don't have a strong desire for sex.
But still existent? You are attracted to women? Men? Trees?
More or less so. I appreciate the female form. I appreciate the male form, however, I do not find men appealing.
So, not asexual, just low sex drive. Are you low on the social dominance hierarchy? Are you successful or the exact opposite?
Yes. Which is why I mentioned the really low libido. Honestly I don't get out much, but I can sway just about anyone to my side with my charm. When I worked in customer service, I never had a problem helping a customer or helping them leave in a better mood they came in with. I'm not hugely social, but I have no issues speaking to people. I am introverted and I don't have a reason to go out of my way to have a conversation. I'm well liked in my neighborhood.
Can you handle watching people getting seriously hurt, or are you squeamish or offput by it?
Doesn't bother me until I hear and see bone break. Bones, skeletons in general... The splintering sound they make when they break is just so ugh. I don't know. Don't really have words to fully describe that. Same goes for insects. I hate having to crush one because they sound disgusting...
You may be interested in taking the revised Hare PCL-R psychopathy checklist. A few things seem to indicate to me that you might be psychopathic. Does that sound possible? Do you feel empathy for other people? Hurt when they hurt, happy when they're happy?
I don't believe i feel empathy well. I feel sympathy for those that I care about, and the innocent.
Yeah. You could be a psychopath. I've known a few in my time. Here's the test if you want to find out if you *could* be a psychopath. Keeping in mind that in order for an official diagnosis, you'd need a psychologist to provide you with it. http://vistriai.com/psychopathtest/
I'm definitely not a psychopath. I'm an introverted loner that is detached from their emotion due to past relationships and problems that arise because of emotional decision making. My emotions have never brought me any benefit. I am a selfish person, however I do things for people because it makes me feel good. If they appreciate the act, then it's a win/win. Most of what I do is for my own benefit, but in the end, who else is there but yourself? Eh. I'm certain I'm not a psychopath, but there's no reason to go online for some nonsensical diagnosis of what my lack of interest in dating could possibly mean. It just means that I have other priorities. We may be social animals, but aside from reproducing, there is no reason to have a romantic partner. That's the gist of it.
It was more a tongue in cheek answer. I'm pretty knowledgeable on the game. :P Thanks, though. I checked it out. Pretty good. Something a lot of men could stand to learn from. Especially the pedestalizing of women.
Tongue in cheek question*
Objectively worse how?
Not perception, but an actual negative effect on it.
Baaaah, you're lookin' good man. Got some meat on your arms. There will be a point when you won't get rejected, for sure. ^-^ Keep up the good work!
Why waste time on thinking about rejection? I use that time to install some muscle😁
Good man. :D The Church Of Iron appreciates your patronage, I'm sure. ^-^
I felt like that when I was your age, too. 5 years in the 20s is a long time. A lot can change. So maybe just put a pin in that and see how you feel when you're 30. ^-^; No one wants to die. They want a good life. And they just don't think they can have one. But you can, if you set your mind to it and work hard to develop yourself and do just 1 thing today that will make you better than you were yesterday. ^-^
There's no hope left
There is always hope, if you're alive. Even if some paths are cut off to you, others are available. None of us know what the future could bring. Unless you actively try to make it worse, in which case, that's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Do you want it to be hopeless?