"They party every week, sometimes twice a week, but they never do drugs, just alcohol."
I hate to be "that guy", but... I'm gonna be that guy. First of all, "they never do drugs", alcohol IS a drug. It doesn't have the same illegality attached to it as meth or weed, but a drug it is. In fact, it's worse than weed because it can cause you to blackout--yet its still considered socially-acceptable and in fact encouraged as a "social lubricant" (really hate that term, because it strongly insinuates rape and I'm not that kind of guy--if she says so "no", then it's not happening. I ain't risking a #MeToo accusation. No girl is worth that much headache) because Prohibition already happened and banning it doesn't work, so regulation will have to do. Now, if only we could regulate all the other "non-destructive" drugs as well...
So, that's strike one.
Secondly, "they party ever week, sometimes twice a week". That's a major red flag right there. What do girls do at parties? Mostly use it as an excuse to get sort-of naughty and frisky with guys they take an interest to while there. If you think for a second that women party just to enjoy the alcohol and the atmosphere, you are sorely misinformed. I mean, why would I assume for a second that she isn't cheating on me, when she has every opportunity to do so? She can slut it up with guys all she wants, just not while she's with me. Now, if she wants to bring home a girl for a girl-girl-guy threesome, THEN I'm down. Otherwise, forget about it.
That's strike two
Finally, apparently she has no shame. She parties A LOT and has no qualms about it, but is otherwise "so proper and exhibiting the utmost decorum" when she isn't, is that gonna the situation? Sounds a lot like a double-life to me. If getting drunk all the time and possibly flirting with guys while partying doesn't cross the line, the constant wondering if she's being faithful will surely be the "nail in the coffin" for any confidence I have in her. I mean, as already stated, if she's out partying, she's got every opportunity to get it on with other men AND there is no accounting for the time she was gone without coming across as needy or overbearing. Just an all-around bad idea.
That's three strikes and you're out.
"Would you date someone like that?"
F*ck no! Absolutely not! I'm introverted by nature, but even if I wasn't so, all the aforementioned reasons are enough foundation to never go down that road in the first place. Way too much trouble for way too little payoff... and god help the woman who tries to pull the "just man up and deal with my behavior" bullsh*t, thinking that's gonna fly. I'd kick her ass to the curb so fast, her future paychecks are gonna have whiplash from being used so quickly while she tries to find a new domicile to live in.
Not now that I’m a mature adult who wants a mature partner. I know if I date someone like this, the next weekend she’ll take what she’s given from a random muscular man and go back to his place. I’ll find out thanks to her drunk Instagram posts probably, she’ll apologise and say it was a drunken mistaken... then I’ll say “No, bitch! You were a sober mistake for me!” 😆
The girl who owns my heart right now though doesn’t even go to wild parties (that I know of) and, even better, doesn’t drink because of her abstinence as a Muslim 😍☪️ I’ve never known another sophisticated girly girl like her, because I’m mostly surrounded by the rowdy cross-dressing millennial women who drink and bang ‘til they’re contaminated with STDs and liver disease every week 🤢🤮🤮🤮
I don't think so. I don't go out very often (we're talking just a few times a year actually going to some type of bar) so I don't think we'd be on the same wavelength. I don't have a problem with a partner going out more than I do, because that's not exactly a difficult challenge to beat and I understand that most people want to do it more often than me. But every week, sometimes twice a week, is a bit too much in my opinion. I tend to date guys who are older than me, and at this age it would be nice to see a guy winding down a little. I'd expect people who are 18-22 to behave like that, but the closer you get to 25, the less I understand people who want to get wasted that often. I understand doing it a couple times a month, or doing more lowkey hangouts with friends slightly more often where alcohol is included but not the main point. But more than that feels excessive, it's not good for your health and like I said, I think we'd just be too different in terms of how we "relax". My idea of blowing off steam is staying in with a good book or tv show and some really good food, not going out and getting wasted every weekend.
I’m not a party kinda gal and having common interests with a partner is important to me. If someone wanted to party super often I would probably end up feeling like a party pooper or that I was holding them back. I’d prefer someone who is open to going out maybe 1-2 times a month but prefers to do activities or just hang out together
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As long as they have enough time for me and their job or school, it wouldn't bother me.
Not at this point in my life especially.
Date?
I might bang her, but I'm not gonna get my hopes up about a steady relationship with a party girl.
I was a party guy.
I was the center of attention at parties when I was younger, but that's not practical for a relationship.
You're supposed to grow out of that shit at some point.
Are we partying together? If not, she's off partying with other people, other men twice a week... how are we even seeing each other? Party's are usually Fridays and Saturdays... the main nights for couples to go on dates.
If she is partying without me I don't really see that working.
Sure, as long as there’s some balance - like if my partner wouldn’t mind skipping the occasional party for a family/work event or staying in with me if I was feeling under the weather. So I wouldn’t want partying to be his life, but I also wouldn’t judge him for going out for drinks with friends once a week.
Yes because i like to party every week haha. Think its important to date people with similar interests to you. Dating is about doing things together , so living individual lives shouldn't be happening anymore. Its going to cause conflict if one partner wants to go out to a party and the other partner doesn't like partying and would rather stay in and watch a movie.
I don't equate partying two times a week as a problem but more as a human need to let our hair down and try to have some fun. Our lives are highly stressful and we have an increased need of stress relief and some find need to party to find such relief.
It’s one of those things that is pretty common in your 20s, but can be a sign of a problem if it’s not reduced when more responsibilities come with age. By 25-26, thinking long term more is helpful. I love to party, by the way. Wish I’d done less of it, though, and built up other interests more when I had more free time/friends available.
No I would not. I have a (platonic) guy friend like that and he has shown interest in me but I cannot see what we would have in common as i'm not a social person in general, and people who parties a lot generally are. I don't negatively judge people who party but I would like a partner whom I would be a better match with personality wise. It also does not look serious to me to party every week and get completely wasted.
Probably not. Not that I'm against it partying cause i also like to go every so often, but i often find that those who like to party too much don't have much character to them. They just follow their stupid party friends and don't appreciate the finer/smaller things in life or want to talk about meaningful things.
No, because you never know what they could be doing at those parties behind your back, especially if they become intoxicated.
Shouldn't you be able to trust your partner?
We wouldn't be able to coexist at all. I don't mind the occasional party but I'd shoot myself if I had to do it every week. As for her doing it - if a woman parties that much, it's practically a guarantee that she's riding the carousel.
That would make me nervous. I would question their loyalty since they are around other partying guys. That also means their around a lot of other partying girls who will likely encourage them to be a “free spirit” and ditch me if we are having issues.
I chose "no" because I don't think they would be compatible with me. But maybe there's a possibility that they're somehow compatible with me regardless, but I find it unlikely
I couldn’t drinking is just as bad as certain drugs , “ the liquor made me do it “ is commonly used in the art of infidelity but besides that isn’t healthy to do so I’d like for maybe once a week at max very seldom twice a week
No thanks, don’t want a good time boy!! Been there done that it’s not attractive. It becomes boring after a while.
How so? What if he's an interesting and intelligent guy, but simply likes to party?
Yes, assuming they are in control of their life. I went on a date with someone who just failed DWI probation... not the kind of person I'm into.
Someone who wants to get a little sloshed but still knows how to be responsible once or twice per week sounds perfect
It depends on how they carried themselves and how they acted and for the drugs and alcohol part I don't drink but I don't mind if someone who drinks they do drugs and depends on what kind of drugs they do cuz I don't think all drugs are bad not saying that I do but it all depends in mannerism and how ladylike they act
If they party to excess every week no I would not date them for they may be in denial of a problem with Alcohol. Plenty of Alcoholics drink just once a week, month, year but always to excess!!!
I'm an introverted person, it would be too much if I am with somebody who parties weekly like their life depended on that.
Im not into partying/drinking with the exception of my first trip to vegas. So i wouldn't date someone who parties often
No, I'm not into that stuff, and honestly don't want to be with someone who is. I'd much rather do something together with my SO, just the two of us.
Yeah, did it, and so what? It was how she relaxed, after work, and I made sure she got home safe, if she drank too much.
I did that before and it was bloody awful. She was constantly flirting with other guys in clubs, getting drunk, and doing dumb shite while drunk.
NEVER AGAIN.
Probably. As long as it doesn’t interfere or detrimentally affect the rest of his life, I think I would be ok with it.
Would not bother me too much as long as they are still responsible and understand I will not be partying with them and they keep a good balance.
I wouldn’t because I like to do things that are not partying and also you spend a lot of money just partying. I would however like to date someone that I can take to a party and knows how to turn it up
As long as I’m not required to join him to the party every time it’s okay with me
I’m not into sissies, darling, I want a real man ^_^
no ! for partiers drink , do drugs and have all kinds of sex too ! thanks
Yeah sure why not. It’s some people’s idea of fun and socializing
I'm not a partier really. Our personalities would probably not go well together. If I went it would be to keep an eye on her.
No. I'm absolutely not into parties and wouldn't want a partner who is.
I used to know this one girl that partied every week. She eventually developed a beergut and everyone thought she was pregnant. Definitely didn't date that.
I would say no. If they’re just gathering with close friends and doing cool things together then that’s fine. A wild party every month? Fine. Every week? No
Well given that describes me... I'd be hypocritical if I wouldn't 😂
No. I don't want someone that drinks alcohol. They are irresponsible and they do bad things then blame it on the alcohol as a BS excuse.
No that’s still sounds like being a teenager still gotta worry on them bills and work I’ll party once or twice a year but not a everyweek or 24/7/365 thing
Nope not my thing. I'm a stay at home and play cards on the weekend guy
It just not a financially viable model for the future.
The partying I don't have a problem with. I love a good party. It's the drunkenness that I have a problem with.
Im 21 its normal for people my age to party every week plus I need someone who is going to get me out of the house. I love partying I just choose not to a lot
I'd be WAY too boring for girls like that, can't go well.
Sure. When we were you kid's ages we partied like rock stars.
Yes.. Living in present is the best thing. Most people either live in past or dream of future these days.
Sure, why not? Even better if they smoke up instead of drinking.
No I'm not interested in party girls that sleep around smoke and drink
Depends on the type of party. lol As well as the typical size and loudness.
No. Where'd she find the time to really get to know me?
no since parties are not my scene at all
What if he goes with his friends, you don't have to go.
it's fine as long as he isn't a viscious drunk and doesn't get drunk at parties often
More likely to cheat. Don’t want to be with a boy who parties all the time at all. No no no! Just want a guy who wants to spend time with me.
Depends what kind of party, I might do it with them.
“Would I date someone who has casual sexual with strangers?”
Lol
Of course, i would do the same😂 Hardcore festivals
No period... They dont take life.. love... Feelings... relationships seriously
No. Occasionally here and there with her friends then no big deal but a club junkie is a turn off.
Honestly no. I'm not into that fast paced, carefree lifestyle.
If she wants to party, who am I to tell her no? I'm not her boss, I'm her partner in crime. Down for whatever!
I don’t care what she does as long as she’ll never lie to me
Yes, seems fun but not sure if I could hold it forever
If your the same person as them why not? Anyways you suppose to enjoy your life 😁
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