You know, there's a world out there that you probably have yet to explore. Don't give up hope. Just be confident, but also don't expect to find prince charming. Especially if you're no goddess when it comes to looks either. I'm not promising that you'll find someone, but sometimes you just aren't looking in the right direction.
One problem with dating apps is that it focuses on the physical so unless you "lower your standard" or don't judge their physical attractiveness then you might find better chances.
Some people I know are in a relationship with people they say weren't physically their type at first glance. Personality helps a lot. A photo can only convey so much.
Freedom kicks ass. So I think her dreams could be too big for another person to chase with them long term. Relationships can be great with the right people but I usually am more curious about those jumping to so many relationships rather than those that remain single
I'll say that there are a ton of girls I'd say are unattractive that are in relationships. A girl can pretty easy accomplish more attention if they get their body in shape. Attraction level would go up dramatically. I'd date a plain girl if she was in shape and I liked her personality and I consider myself picky. You have a lot of power over that.
Fact is you will work 10x harder to standout to a (personality) your preferred choice which will eventually lead you to be resentful if he doesn’t meet your standards in reality , so open your mind and still talk around your true mate who will make you blind to the typical needs of looks and other things. It’s the next level of love
I’ve been single for almost three years through no choice of my own, the dating game is a lot harder than it was over a decade ago and so many fake online profiles overshadowing the genuine guys, it sucks.
You clearly have different conversations than I do myself, friends and family don’t talk about how attractive we think we are, that would be awkward considering most of my friends are Male and slightly vain.
"I know I’m not attractive enough to attract guys like other women I’ve seen."
I'm not attractive like a Chad, but I somehow still attract women. Probably because I do not let rejections bother me, which more than once has piqued the curiosity of a lady who initially said "No."
Change your environment a bit, try to know some people who knows what could happen. I only have a friend that has been single since, well ever, but she doesn't seem interested in the slightest. If you get to hang around people it will be way easier, go check the law of perpinquity, it has been studied and proven, just regularly seeing someone a regular basis creates connections
I never really tried anything online, I don't know how it would work. It might, but I think it's harder. The most important part is not devalue yourself, most guys a actually think an "average" girl is pretty good looking already. You just need someone with similar interests and values
Where they at though? I've never met any, hell if there are most likely they lie that their not single so guys who they don't like will leave them alone, I know cause it happened to me before most say they want one but don't actually want to go through with it, I might be talking out of my ass but I am by no means an expert hell far from it i'm just saying what comes to mind
I don't know. They've never been asked out? I was single until a few months ago, and I had never really been close with a guy at all before that. It's just how life goes sometimes.
Well its her choice if she wants to be that way and nobody should ever treat her negatively for that reason And i believe there's always someone for everyone honey, it sometimes just take a bit of time for the right click
Well I've always been single so I don't (necessarily) think it's a reflection on who they are, so wouldn't have a problem with it, personally (without knowing your personality) I'd say your unlucky, won't settle for a sub-par/half-hearted relationship and you haven't found the right guy yet, but equally, because I don't know you you could be crazy but im going for the assumption that you're not haha
Let me tell you something. I was a dateless virgin until I met my fiancée. She is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me and I’m glad I didn’t lower my standards. You are not being too picky. Whoever is right for is for YOU to determine. I don’t think you will always be alone. It just takes some of us longer to find the one who’s right for us.
I wouldn't assume anything about her if I don't know what her reason is. I'll be single forever too but I wouldn't assume her reasons are the same as mine.
Shallow by what you said. Attractiveness isn't just about looks but thats all you get from a dating sites. And physically attractive people are more likely to be arseholes.
The most attractive people I've dated have not been the type I'd get excited over by just looking at them. But who they are is what made them attractive. Hell the one girl i really regret breaking up with was the plainest girl I can think of and didn't wear any makeup and she is still the most attractive girl I've met.
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You're being too hard on your self. Finding people on apps for anything but pleasure, thrill and getting touched while naked is not smart.
Do something like a hobby, take a group class in it. Not through a big chain organization, but through the local community. Bond over weeks at these weekly events.
When I am single for a while I just lower my fantasies to reality and I find someone. You say "companionship would be nice". What does that have to do with requiring attractive? The attractive ones usually will not necessarily be the best companions.
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You know, there's a world out there that you probably have yet to explore. Don't give up hope. Just be confident, but also don't expect to find prince charming. Especially if you're no goddess when it comes to looks either. I'm not promising that you'll find someone, but sometimes you just aren't looking in the right direction.
One problem with dating apps is that it focuses on the physical so unless you "lower your standard" or don't judge their physical attractiveness then you might find better chances.
Some people I know are in a relationship with people they say weren't physically their type at first glance. Personality helps a lot. A photo can only convey so much.
Freedom kicks ass. So I think her dreams could be too big for another person to chase with them long term. Relationships can be great with the right people but I usually am more curious about those jumping to so many relationships rather than those that remain single
I'll say that there are a ton of girls I'd say are unattractive that are in relationships. A girl can pretty easy accomplish more attention if they get their body in shape. Attraction level would go up dramatically. I'd date a plain girl if she was in shape and I liked her personality and I consider myself picky. You have a lot of power over that.
Fact is you will work 10x harder to standout to a (personality) your preferred choice which will eventually lead you to be resentful if he doesn’t meet your standards in reality , so open your mind and still talk around your true mate who will make you blind to the typical needs of looks and other things. It’s the next level of love
I’ve been single for almost three years through no choice of my own, the dating game is a lot harder than it was over a decade ago and so many fake online profiles overshadowing the genuine guys, it sucks.
Would you consider yourself attractive?
Not really but does anyone truly think they are attractive.
Do people think you are?
No idea I don’t get people to take a survey upon meeting me 😂
But people you meet or family/friends?
You clearly have different conversations than I do myself, friends and family don’t talk about how attractive we think we are, that would be awkward considering most of my friends are Male and slightly vain.
she's attractive, she just attracts messed up guys.
@Edanurus both of us?
@Asker little hard for me to say if you're attractive when you're posting anon 😆.
@Edanurus **blushes**
@asker 🙈
"I know I’m not attractive enough to attract guys like other women I’ve seen."
I'm not attractive like a Chad, but I somehow still attract women. Probably because I do not let rejections bother me, which more than once has piqued the curiosity of a lady who initially said "No."
Honestly I do not think anything. I convention often things, "what is wring with her/him?" But ignore convention.
You can gind companionship in the form of a guy best friend, It is not impossible in spite what some might say.
Don't let this dwell on you mind. Life happens.
Change your environment a bit, try to know some people who knows what could happen. I only have a friend that has been single since, well ever, but she doesn't seem interested in the slightest. If you get to hang around people it will be way easier, go check the law of perpinquity, it has been studied and proven, just regularly seeing someone a regular basis creates connections
Don’t suggest online?
I never really tried anything online, I don't know how it would work. It might, but I think it's harder. The most important part is not devalue yourself, most guys a actually think an "average" girl is pretty good looking already. You just need someone with similar interests and values
You would be alone your whole life because at 24 you haven't found a boyfriend?
Who told you such a crazy idea?
I think first of all you should relax and wonder what you want.
I want companionship and friends
You will find someone for sure 🙂. Don't worry to much, you are still young and there is no age to find a partner...
Where they at though? I've never met any, hell if there are most likely they lie that their not single so guys who they don't like will leave them alone, I know cause it happened to me before most say they want one but don't actually want to go through with it, I might be talking out of my ass but I am by no means an expert hell far from it i'm just saying what comes to mind
I don't really have an opinion? Most of my friends have always been single. There's nothing wrong with it.
Why have they?
I don't know. They've never been asked out? I was single until a few months ago, and I had never really been close with a guy at all before that. It's just how life goes sometimes.
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Well its her choice if she wants to be that way and nobody should ever treat her negatively for that reason
And i believe there's always someone for everyone honey, it sometimes just take a bit of time for the right click
Well I've always been single so I don't (necessarily) think it's a reflection on who they are, so wouldn't have a problem with it, personally (without knowing your personality) I'd say your unlucky, won't settle for a sub-par/half-hearted relationship and you haven't found the right guy yet, but equally, because I don't know you you could be crazy but im going for the assumption that you're not haha
Let me tell you something. I was a dateless virgin until I met my fiancée. She is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me and I’m glad I didn’t lower my standards. You are not being too picky. Whoever is right for is for YOU to determine. I don’t think you will always be alone. It just takes some of us longer to find the one who’s right for us.
I was 22 by the way. Almost the same age as you. Just stay positive!
I wouldn't assume anything about her if I don't know what her reason is. I'll be single forever too but I wouldn't assume her reasons are the same as mine.
Shallow by what you said. Attractiveness isn't just about looks but thats all you get from a dating sites. And physically attractive people are more likely to be arseholes.
The most attractive people I've dated have not been the type I'd get excited over by just looking at them. But who they are is what made them attractive. Hell the one girl i really regret breaking up with was the plainest girl I can think of and didn't wear any makeup and she is still the most attractive girl I've met.
You're being too hard on your self. Finding people on apps for anything but pleasure, thrill and getting touched while naked is not smart.
Do something like a hobby, take a group class in it. Not through a big chain organization, but through the local community. Bond over weeks at these weekly events.
When I am single for a while I just lower my fantasies to reality and I find someone. You say "companionship would be nice". What does that have to do with requiring attractive? The attractive ones usually will not necessarily be the best companions.
So you settle?
No not at all. I seek maximum compatibility which I don't think is settling.
Hard to say...
Either she's just unlucky, or she's picky and thus haven't met the right guy for her.
Not wanting commitment might be a reason for some... But I don't think single women are crazy for staying single though.