Is lack of affection a deal-breaker for you?

[Anonymous]

Girl I'm casually seeing is starting to get offended by my lack of affection. It took me years to hold my ex's hand in public. At least a year to even come close to holding her after sex. I've been seeing girl for a couple months and she wants to cuddle after sex and always grabs on to me in public. It's not that I don't like her, but I just don't feel comfortable quite yet. I'm not on that level with her yet, and she's having some difficulty understanding that for some reason. I don't think that I'm too abnormal here, but I want to hear some other opinions.

[ImagineSketchy]

Lack of affection is a serious deal breaker for me. I crave and need it. It helps me feel wanted. Affection can be displayed in many different forms however. It is important to understand the different types of ways one can show their affection. Hand holding is really simple though... If you're willing to have sex with her, you should be more than willing to hold her hand. I can understand not wanting the whole being grabbed in public because I dislike most forms of PDA. I find it to be rather cringeworthy and just generally unappealing. It usually makes me uneasy and even friends that I have known for years that may want to hug me, I'm usually with my hands down to my sides and not returning the embrace. It just isn't me.
Holding her after sex... I enjoy bathing in each other's afterglow. There's just something so sweet about the act as a whole.

Try to explain things as best you can so that your future or current partner know what to expect of you.

[BronzedAdonis]

No, so many needy guys in this thread who are still probably breastfed by mummy

[thegirlfromthething]

Yes. It doesn’t even need to be public, and in fact I’d rather keep it private, but I want physical intimacy and casual touching from a partner. If he barely touched me apart from sexual acts, I’d feel like we didn’t have enough of an emotional bond.

[CarpetDenim]

Absolutely. I would feel rejected and unloved if my partner refused to be physically affectionate with me, which would ultimately instill insecurities in me and cause a lot of distress and dissatisfaction in our relationship.

[nerms123]

Putting it bluntly, it's not really normal. You should consider counseling if you are open to it. Otherwise you have to find a girl who feels the same way.

[Clo917]

Yeah, it would be. I'm not always a touchy person but having a big lack of affection in a relationship would make me feel unwanted.

[Ecologygirl76]

Have you talked to her about it? Maybe tell her what it would take for you to feel comfortable with it?

[Shy_Baddy24_]

I don’t expect a friends with benefits to be affectionate but I do expect someone I’m dating to be affectionate. I couldn’t date someone that doesn’t like cuddling, holding hands, or kissing.

[Clearblueskye]

Yes. Wouldn’t date a man like that.

[Anonymous]

Not a dealbreaker, but confusing.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes.

[GreenGold1992]

yes it is

[Nachowedgie]

Yeah