Is smoking a deal breaker?

Question

Could you be in a committed relationship with a smoker if you don't smoke and vice versa?

SueAnon84 · Accepted Answer

I care about my health and that includes getting exposed to second hand smoke. If they don't care about theirs, then why should I? I mean, I can and often do! In fact, I had previously dated (maybe out of desperation?) guys that smoked and vapped. It's a very tempting thing to do espeically if you want to be classified as cool! Also if you had started the ADDICTION already, if you're a person that doesn't have such good self control, then you'll be hooked in no time and it will be VERY HARD to stop the habit!

witherwing · Accepted Answer

I thought for the longest time it was. Falling in love with a smoker changed my mind. Although he is considerate with his smoking. He never smells of smoke and never smokes when I'm around. However, I used to date someone who's hair, mouth, clothes, apartment and everything smelled like cigarettes, and it was absolutely disgusting. I couldn't be with a person like that again.

Aethereal · Accepted Answer

I could, but I'd prefer that she didn't. Since I don't smoke, I'd either have to go with her, or stay by myself every time she pops out for a smoke. It's quite awkward if we're eating out or something. Even worse if we're with people and I'm the only non-smoker.
A plus for her is that I don't generally find the smell of smoke unpleasant (though some cheap brands are just nasty). So I'd probably go outside with her most times... and get me some of that healthy second-hand smoke :D

Spiritwander · Accepted Answer

Man, you would bring up the one topic that makes me feel most like a hypocrite... lol. I *hate* smoking, and I'm a chain smoker of well over 35 years... 😕
I want to quit, but it's not like the regular coffee and cigarettes smoked at the 12 Step programs is going to help with that... lol

It also doesn't help that, biologically, over decades, my body switched from a "normal" diet to a coffee & cigarettes one because it's all I could afford.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Wow, a lot of staunch no's here. Oh, how culture has changed. It happens in a flash.
My husband smoked when I met him, as did many people in and out of my life. I didn't kick him to the curb because of it. I accepted him and it. And he stopped on his own. I went through some hellish times last year and I started smoking a bit. He joined me. Now we're done. That's it. The world needs more acceptance and less judgement (you can see I'm not just talking about smoking.)

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Absolute, total deal breaker. If I know in advance, she would not even get a first date from me.

Mickey9999 · Answer

Yes and no. I hate being judgmental especially since i was a smoker. But i only smoked because he did. It’s sort of can’t beat them join them. As a smoker you don’t realize the stench. We’ve all done it... smoked outside thinking we won’t smell and we don’t only because we become immune to the smell but as a non smoker of over eight years i can’t stand the smell 99% of the time. I of course have friends that smoke and i don’t mind as much but I think it would be too much. So maybe date but as far as live with someone or more it would be hard.

SueShe · Answer

Smoking, drugs, gambling or any addiction as well as piercings, tattoos and a criminal record or history of cheating would be a deal breaker if I was into dating.

Other than that, I would be pretty open to anyone that is not into sex.

MissKittyz · Answer

Yes, smoking is a dealbreaker and a huuuuge turn off. I would not date a smoker.

My fiancé used to smoke before I met him but was able to quit and doesn't smoke anymore, Thank God. But if he did go back to it, I'd be incredibly mad and tell him to stop.

Elliegirl · Answer

It’s not a dealbreaker, but I’d rather he didn’t. My husband used to smoke some and I didn’t mind that much since it was only occasionally. Since I got pregnant he quit completely. It’s not that big of a deal around me, but it’s totally not ok around my baby, including while my little man is still in utero.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

Anything more then socially. Smoking and drinking. Is a dealbreaker for me and a major turn off.

Also not fond of people who use drugs excessively.

Grow up around a lot of people who did and I have seen first hand what it can do to you if miss used.

btbc92 · Answer

Never could I ever be with a smoker. I suffer from asthma and I hate smoking. Of people wants to kill themselves they can do so. I don't want cancer.

AceVenturaYeah · Answer

Brush your teeth and shower. Social smoking is still smoking. Yes it's a bad habit and I am a smoker. Far more repulsive people puffing on a giant battery or scavenging cigarettes from me at a concert while telling me that you don't smoke. Nothing but fake, hypocritical leeches. Grow up, buy a pack of menthols and some gum. Just quit pretending you're better than others.

DWornock · Answer

Not no, but hell NO! I went on a date with a girl that smoked and kissed her. I could taste the Nicotine or whatever is in cigarettes. It was god awful. I took her home and never called her again, nor have asked other girl that smoke for date. They are worthless and have no value because since I won't kiss them, I won't fuck them.

StephenCF · Answer

I smoke socially, but I do love cigarettes and cigars as they go with my suits (inspired by my role model, Tom Six) 🎩👔

But I find an elegant, beautiful lady all dressed up smoking with a cigarette-holder (Audrey Hepburn style) to be more of a turn-on than a deal-breaker 😍😍😍🚬🚬🚬

MrTuxedo · Answer

I do not smoke, I never have, nor will I ever, but it isn't a deal breaker, tho I would very much prefer if she wasn't a smoker, but if I find her attractive, both her looks and personality, smoking is just a small thing.

Anonymous · Answer

I dont care that they smoke but if its a long term relationship and we are planning a future together then I wouldn’t want my husband to end up having cancer or a health issue and pass away early or have problems. It would just cause a lot of pain for everyone.

EriFrancis1994 · Answer

I can't. I just don't like the smell at all. I don't have anything against their choice of lifestyle.

However if I met the perfect man who's one flaw (in my eyes) is smoking, I'd be torn about how I felt tbh. It's a tough one

Daniela1982 · Answer

I don't smoke and don't wish to kiss an ashtray mouth or smell it on their clothes so it is definitely a deal breaker for me. And I don't think many smokers could give it up easily in order to have a relationship. It's a nasty habit to break.

Amanda269 · Answer

If they smoke outside, contribute to the common expenses and air out before coming inside, it would be fine. I dislike the smell and only have a problem with heavy users, that rush up to me right after and reek of smoke.

Anonymous · Answer

It is a BIG NO, if she smokes.

I stopped smoking ~10 years ago and could go back, if I live around so many temptations.

Main think, that is putting me off them now is smell of tabaco or some of them try to cover it with some cheep parfum and it is even worse...

Adam1978 · Answer

It's a deal breaker but I don't judge past smokers, if I am worth less than giving up a bad habit, I know I am better off without her. So they can always quit.

SjE78 · Answer

have done before and would do again, i dont smoke personally tbf but i grew up with smokers so it doesn't bother me as much, unless they smoke around my kids or any kid tbh

Sensmind · Answer

It would be close to a deal breaker - If they showed no intention of trying to quit, I would leave though I would probably never go near them in first place, the smell is disgusting on their clothes.

Daisy007 · Answer

To the original Q: YESSS!! Huge deal breaker, i would NOT be able to stand the smell, and also it messes you up & your teeth as well (& that's one of my most attractive feautures in a male, his smile)

Lauren-green · Answer

Yes my partner smokes and I don't. He is currently trying to quit but I've been dating him for 3 years and he's been smoking the whole time I've known him

DaveDavidson · Answer

My girlfriend smoked when we met (it seems extremely popular among French people), it wasn't a deal-breaker for me because she was trying to quit. Subsequently succeeded too, problem solved.

Cybernizer · Answer

I cannot stand the smell of cigarettes. If someone smokes around me I always walk away. It is just that bad.

And of course there is the cancer that it causes. I don't want my partner to have a hole in their throat and look 50 at the age of 30.

EmmaMary · Answer

One of the biggest, if not the biggest deal breaker ever.  It's totally filthy, disgusting, antisocial and unhygienic. Yuck!

Máiiréad · Answer

Yep, I won’t date someone who smokes. I can’t stand it. I work in a casino full of smokers and that’s bad enough.

Minerate · Answer

Poll is a bit misleading (title answer is opposite from message body answer). But for me, smoking is 100% a dealbreaker. Smoking is essentially offensive to all 5 senses.

yaboiziek · Answer

sorta depends on the substance. I know this was probably intended to be cigarettes but told it were weed I would accept it

FlirtWithMeeee · Answer

It all depends on the person. I have a strong sense of smell and taste and I can't stand the smell of regular cigarette smoke.

BCA6010 · Answer

Under absolutely no circumstances could I be in a relationship with a smoker. Immediate, 100% deal breaker.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

Depends on what they smoke.. im all for weed now cigs not so much its harmful for you.. but not a deal breaker as long as its not done in the house

morimeme1 · Answer

Yes if they were considering dropping the habit and would take good care not to smoke in my presence and do everything possible not to reek of smoke.

HeavyRoller · Answer

You have two different questions here. Which one is the poll meant to answer?

markscott · Answer

I would not even consider a relationship with someone who smoked.

reptocarl · Answer

Smoking is a deal breaker for me. by the way I hate when people ask a question then in their details they word it the opposite of their question

andrermm · Answer

Lol I've literally stopped kissing girls mid make out cause i could taste the ash. If you won't take minimal care of your body and smoke, you're not worthy of my attention

worldscolide · Answer

I'd never be with someone who smokes, drinks, or does drugs.. Sorry I see that as a sign of extreme weakness, and honestly makes them disgusting to me.

Juaitem · Answer

If you accept the one you love, you accept all his habits, if you don't try to break it before you lose. Other people are living accepting their husbands to be thieves, stupid, retarded, cheaters, smoke is less than those..

KeyannaStyles · Answer

I puff buds a Lot, only smoke half a pack of cigarettes maybe and a couple cigars a week.

StormCOGy · Answer

Never commit to a smoker, they're a financial risk, weak willed and medically vulnerable individual.

CreativeMumble · Answer

I would never be able to date a smoker. It's a total deal breaker.

holograph · Answer

If you mean cigarettes then it's a major dealbreaker to me. Literally nothing could overcome it.

TsundereMatrix · Answer

Only social smoking, otherwise no unless they smoke medical marijuana

BestUserName100 · Answer

No.. The door.. Don’t let it hit your A$$ on the way out..

slatyb · Answer

I've seen too many people die young from lung cancer.

genericname85 · Answer

only if they were determinded tos top when we started dating, i would maybe consider to continue dating her.

Plumizz · Answer

Smoking is a deal breaker indeed. Means you don't care about yourself or others. Not a very good quality to have

Arthur_Morgan_1 · Answer

Girls who smoke are ew. But I make my girl hit my bong and it fucks her upppppp, then she will suck my dick for like an hour then we eat a lotttt of food like 2 4x4's from In N Out and then we cuddle and sleep for 15 hours

mateynine · Answer

Yes, I don't care if it's weed or tobacco. Smoking is disgusting.

9fouryou · Answer

Everybody has their vices and just because they're Vice happens to be smoking does it mean they're a bad person. And if you should disregard this person because they smoke you could be missing out I'm something special so be open minded

JoeyH101 · Answer

Because of my family history with it. I would have to say yes simply for the fact, I dont want to see them get hurt like that.

Zerstörer · Answer

Big yes

BigJake · Answer

It is for me because I've lost close relatives to that crap. Plus, I just don't like the smell, and I want a girl's who into physical fitness.

El_Heffe · Answer

Smoking cigarettes may still be someone's crutch but not on my time.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

It doesn't bother me. I am not a fan of cigarette smoke, but it isn't a deal breaker.

Mother_of_All · Answer

I wouldn't even date a guy who smokes because I think smoking is just a waste of money and your own health

UncleJessieRabbit · Answer

Nope, it's not that big deal breaker for me. In fact I think the anti-smoking has gotten very fanatical.

skittles2017 · Answer

I'm not a smoker and I think smoking is a deal breaker

pizzalovershouse · Answer

for me yes cuz I use to smoke an hate it now plus I want to kerp my lungs in good condition

bladedshard · Answer

I hit, no, but realized the question was changed. Yes i could be in a relationship.

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