I’ve been reading some posts that imply it’s ok for men to be picky and women are made to feel they have to measure up to be in a relationship!
Let me tell you why that’s not worth it. I experienced it many times but I always relied on my basic functionality as a cue to why my looks would yo yo based on my mood.
If I was insecure and vying to be accepted I lost sleep reading articles to understand where I can improve.
Most don’t give guarantees and because attraction is subjective you will always self doubt.
You will lose sleep and further deteriorate you will either temporarily or indefinitely let yourself go.
You realize how powerful your mindset is in consenting to self derogatory thoughts and beliefs of yourself.
So when you battle yourself you lose you.
Stop that arrest those devils advocate advice you really don’t need to be your critique unless you actively work on each critique.
Height is fixed post puberty and the rest is you as a woman.
So stop tossing and turning in bed and instead listen to why you don’t need drama , acceptance and competition.
Remember that just because one guy you like is infatuated with a type of girl, men are child like. Everything bores them and they are always looking to boost their ego.
They think they’re golden and only women bitch. That’s so untrue.
I’ve had men bitch on me more than women. I’ve had more women admire me without slander.
I’m not anti guys it’s just that they are disappointed with everything. Anything can turn them off and respect is a grey zone.
Soon that pickiness teaches women we want no judgment and to sleep beautifully at night with no insecure thoughts.
Height, weight, status, stature, IQ, job, kid are part of life’s decisions and not an obstacle to a genuine connection.
To men who make checklists and create seeds of doubt , let’s see how you fare a few years later !
I think studies have shown that men prefer short women and there's a lot of explanations why, but the gist is part social and part biological I guess. short women have more estrogen I believe and socially men view them as more nurturing. shorter women may also be more likely to be curvy. I think tall women have more testosterone. Historically, our media has doubled down on what may be a natural preference and emphasized that taller women are less feminine and short men are less masculine.
I do think more tall men prefer tall women than we think, but I'd guess they still probably prefer short to average height. I'm average (5'4/5'5) and I always have these giants coming after me. I'm not complaining though - I'm obsessed with tall men lol I recognize the "tall = more masculine" logic as bs, but there's still that part of me deep inside, detached from my usual super assertive personality, that wants to be dominated and overpowered. The way we have been conditioned is to want to feel smaller than our men and being tall is incredibly attractive - he can tower over you and you have to look up at him. It's super addicting. I imagine many men love the feeling of being taller too.
Women are ALL the same, so that's why they ALL prefer the same things in men.
Men have preferences, but they're individual preferences. One guy like tall girls, another guy likes short girls, some guys don't give a fuck one way or the other. One guy might only like girls who are exactly his height. Men are individuals.
Women are a hivemind. Women would be happy if they were all issued a clone of the same man, and every single husband was just a clone of one guy. If they could all vote on which guy it was, EVEN THE WOMEN WHO VOTED DIFFERENT would change their mind to conform to the rest of the herd.
Women have a herding instinct to always agree with the majority of women. Whatever most women think, THEY ALL think.
I (5'11") prefer women to be above about 5'4" ish but this isn't a requirement. I don't find VERY short women quite as attractive (but it's not a dealbreaker and I would still date a short woman). Average and tall women (even taller than me) are somewhat more attractive on average.
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While I do have a preference for shorter women, it's far from a "must have". I've dated plenty of average height women and a few tall ones. So, it's just a preference.
First of all not all women have height preferences, and those that do some want tall some don't. I prefer i prefer short to average. I won't date anyone over 6' I'm 5'1".
Now men same thing, some don't care about height and some want short, while others want average, and a few want tall.
some do some dont, some aren't picky and some are quite strict about it
me personally, personality is more important, while i prefer shorter women than myself shorter the better tbh, it isn't a deal breaker if i click with someone and she is taller...
I do not. I dated a woman who was 4 ft 10 and I dated another woman who is 6 ft 2. I think some men have a preference, but I do not, nor have I ever had a preference, I am 5 ft 10 inches, not very tall but a woman taller than me does not bother me. It usually bothers a woman to be taller than a man.
I don't really as far as I can tell. I seem to find women attractive in a very wide range to determine any kind of pattern I prefer more than others. I don't have enough experience though to shape my preferences around the extremities. If I was single though, I'd be open to dating anywhere ranging from super short to super tall.
You said it as "we woman" as if everybody has the same preference for men to be tall. But I really don't give a shit about a guys height/don't have a preference🤷🏻♀️
Yes, but it's WAY less important for us usually (ie, it's often a complete deal breaker for women, where guys it's a preference, not a "deal breaker" usually). I do tend to be more attracted to shorter women (not so much "more", as there's just an automatic attraction for this alone usually), but it's never a deal breaker for me. I'll date anyone of any height if I like them as a person.
Yeah, about 3 feet tall with a flat head, so I have a place to put my beer while she blows me.
I keed! I keed! I used to be severely attracted to short women, then I got over the "marry your mother" thing that so many men get trapped in. I now have no height preference.
Yeah, a couple inches shorter than myself, because a lot of women will wear heels and that'll put us at about the same height. So about 5'7
I don't really care about height that much but if I had to have a rule, that's what it would be.
Yup. Woman should be at least the height of her male partner's shoulder bcoz while hugging she will get the most comfortable feeling and warmth. Also she would be able to hear the heartbeat of her male partner
It's different from boy to another one and not related to culture or country.
The question is what makes a boy feel hot.
For me I'm definitely turn on when i see slim short white girl maybe with colored eyes and hair. My friend just like fat girls and curvy
I would prefer a shorter woman not pocket sized, but close. I'm 5'10" so I'm average. I would prefer someone shorter than me maybe 5'3" - 5'10".
Good question!
Yes. I do prefer women to be shorter than me but still of average height or taller. Ideal height would be 5'9" but basically anything up to 5'11" would be fine.
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This should clear it up for you
Yes, a lot of men have different preferences. For me I just prefer women that are tall as in 5'8 and above with being around 6'0 - 6'2 being ideal.
Honestly, I kinda want a girl shorter than me, not completely sure why, but everyone is different. We all have little preferences on what we find attractive. It all has to do with our personal psychology.
Everybody has preferences but they are not deal breakers. We don't always fall in love with our preferences. I married a woman taller than my ideal height but it's no big deal. Go for the personality. The rest is just superficial trimmings.
I don’t really have a choice. I’m finally 4’10. Thank God. I thought I’d never get here. People these days are really tall.
many men I know (american) prefer short women, but I know a TON of men that love beautiful women regardless of height.
Depends on the individual man. Me personally I love short women. But I know other Americans that love tall women.
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