Would you classify this as playing hard to get?

Question

If you e-mail them so often it becomes obvious you like them

But you don't include any hint of personality or emotion or desire or sexual availability in your messages

Would it work?

Answer 1

holograph | 260 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

So your only hint is that you're emailing them often but not using language that would convey this? I don't consider that playing hard-to-get, no. I also don't think playing hard-to-get is attractive. I know a lot of women tell each other that men find it attractive. But most of us do not - at all. I cannot stress this enough. I have been friends with women that emailed me often who turned me down for anything more than that. And that's fine. But my point there is that it's not obvious to men that emailing often means you like him.

Answer 2

LordSnuggles

Yoda

Imagine being a guy getting a ton of emails from a woman with no hint of personality, emotion, or desire and thinking, "Aw yeah she's just playing hard to get". Then, he goes after her and she says, "what's wrong with you, my emails had absolutely no hint of emotion or sexual desire." I imagine he'd be very confused.

Answer 3

AmandaYVR | 1.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

Call it "ball of confusion". Why would you do that? Don't do that. This is the kind of thing that guys are going nuts trying to interpret. Declare your feelings, but subtley, and take the consequences, or reap the rewards. It'll be so good if it works out. I think the men of the world are going to crazy if something doesn't change.

lizzielolx

+1 y
I second this!
MM442

+1 y
@AmandaYVR , exactly, men don't want to play head games and trying to figure out what exactly a girl wants from me. It's, no, maybe, soon, yes and no, just friends, not friends, mean & angry, don't care attitude, she wants money, she wants vehicle, she wants sex then no she doesn't want sex. She gets people to harrass the man, spreads false accusations the man is gay when the man is straight sexually. Then she wants to have a relationship after all. She wants gifts then she doesn't want gifts. She doesn't have anything to do with me for months or years while she is with a different man, then they break up and she regrets letting the the other man get away.
She just wants to be a player with all the men, but the man she wants better toe the line. The man is expected to take care of her children while she goes ot and plays the field with other men and lie straight faced about it all. Then the girl or women blame everything on the men. Men refuse to deal with all of this bull and dishonesty from girls and women.
lizzielolx

+1 y
Well that was abit deep!
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MM442

+1 y
@lizzieloix, yes it is very deep the extent girls and women turn against men in a slipt second and the truth.
AmandaYVR

+1 y
@MM442 Ok, we hear you. Sorry you had some really terrible experiences. That's not cool.
But also just because the asker here, Jennifer, is asking that question does not mean that she/or the hypothetical subject of the q, therefore plans to "be a player with all men". That is a separate scenario and the two are not necessarily linked.
Some women have found the exact same things with guys, so they wonder if they play hard to get a bit, does it make them seem more desireable? And what I hear over and over from men is "yes, from some/a few, but a resounding 'no!' from most. Hopefully women will read this, and others like it on gag, and change some of their thinking.
Women get bored, men get bored, they both want variety, they want to shop around and experiment... SOME OF THEM. But a whole bunch of others who want none of this, and really want to get into a great, lasting, committed relationship. People just have to find the right match, and what they really want, but may not be saying out loud. So in the end, be straight, and no games, People. There's enough people to go around, probably.

Answer 4

lizzielolx

I second this!

Answer 5

MM442

@AmandaYVR , exactly, men don't want to play head games and trying to figure out what exactly a girl wants from me. It's, no, maybe, soon, yes and no, just friends, not friends, mean & angry, don't care attitude, she wants money, she wants vehicle, she wants sex then no she doesn't want sex. She gets people to harrass the man, spreads false accusations the man is gay when the man is straight sexually. Then she wants to have a relationship after all. She wants gifts then she doesn't want gifts. She doesn't have anything to do with me for months or years while she is with a different man, then they break up and she regrets letting the the other man get away.
She just wants to be a player with all the men, but the man she wants better toe the line. The man is expected to take care of her children while she goes ot and plays the field with other men and lie straight faced about it all. Then the girl or women blame everything on the men. Men refuse to deal with all of this bull and dishonesty from girls and women.

Answer 6

lizzielolx

Well that was abit deep!

Answer 7

MM442

@lizzieloix, yes it is very deep the extent girls and women turn against men in a slipt second and the truth.

Answer 8

AmandaYVR

@MM442 Ok, we hear you. Sorry you had some really terrible experiences. That's not cool.
But also just because the asker here, Jennifer, is asking that question does not mean that she/or the hypothetical subject of the q, therefore plans to "be a player with all men". That is a separate scenario and the two are not necessarily linked.
Some women have found the exact same things with guys, so they wonder if they play hard to get a bit, does it make them seem more desireable? And what I hear over and over from men is "yes, from some/a few, but a resounding 'no!' from most. Hopefully women will read this, and others like it on gag, and change some of their thinking.
Women get bored, men get bored, they both want variety, they want to shop around and experiment... SOME OF THEM. But a whole bunch of others who want none of this, and really want to get into a great, lasting, committed relationship. People just have to find the right match, and what they really want, but may not be saying out loud. So in the end, be straight, and no games, People. There's enough people to go around, probably.

Answer 9

alice55 | 2.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

This would just make the guy think you don't like him in a romantic way then..

Answer 10

PrincessGrail

Influencer

No clue. Never tried that.

Answer 11

AndreasM96 | 82 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

Playing hard to get would be more like "receiving 10 emails and replying only to 1 just because you can", so no. But on the other hand, if you do like the person, why be "cold"? Messaging a lot makes "kinda" obvious you find them a nice person, not necessarily more than that.

Answer 12

AlexanderBrunnrgaard

Yoda

I'd be weirded out if someone continuously e-mailed me, that's creepy and annoying. It's not the usual tool of communication anymore first of all. Secondly, not showing any emotion or desire etc. would just confuse me as to what this lady wanted from me.

Answer 13

JKingOff | 357 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

No, it would just make you look like a creeper. Constantly messaging someone sends a huge red flag and scream stalker. If you don't indicate anything about your personality, or your sexual desires then how do you expect them to know? be a man, not up, ditch the Gmail, and talk to them in person face-to-face! Stop being a weirdo!!!

Answer 14

R_Cakes91

Yoda

Hard to get would mean barely communicating with him. Emailing him constantly, although you haven’t indicated you like him, still shows that you are thinking of him.

Answer 15

MusicMayhem

Yoda

If this is your game it's terrible and won't work. A guy has to care about you first to get invested and he sure as shit won't care if you don't show personality.

Answer 16

LoU_Hades

Yoda

no...
you have to depict yourself in some extent as a sexual being... otherwise it will be taken as friendship or obsession

Answer 17

Xaniac

Xper 1

Well, a few persons have tried getting me recently and I kindly declined to all of em because they weren't my type. But once that "my type girl" hits me up, I'll probably be super easy to get. Depends from guy to guy though.

Answer 18

slatyb | 6.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I would classify it as annoying. Games won't get guys. If you want a date just ask him.

Answer 19

Leo1991

Xper 1

Yes i would and probably lose interest in it tbh, depends on the guy but we don't mind a chase. But we need a little something to go on otherwise its friend zoned

Answer 20

OrangeBoy2

Xper 6

Not exactly, it kinda suggests you see him more as a friend, or partner to simply chatting.

Answer 21

winterfox10

Master

No, that’s not playing hard to get; that’s just plausible deniability. A girl I used to think of as something of a pre-girlfriend used to pull that crap, and it just created needless conflict

Answer 22

bklynbadboy1 | 1.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Why do people have such a hard time expressing what they feel. Just tell them you like them instead of sending all these mixed signals hoping the receiving party gets the message

Answer 23

JamesRandiDebates | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

No. That would come across as bland and uninteresting.

Answer 24

crazy8000 | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

What kind of person are you after to get?
What kind of relationship dynamics are you after?

Answer 25

kinkavel

Xper 1

No that's playing a bot, playing hard to get is including personality, sexual availablity, desire and making them want you but holding out just long enough Ur torturing them but not so long they give up

Answer 26

GhettoGirl

Yoda

Annoying is all it is, is this the best you got?

Answer 27

Jjpayne | 2.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Nope, I think that be be clingy at least to me

Answer 28

sexphobe | 102 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

who is flirting via e-mail in this day & age lmao

Answer 29

Dongtai | 677 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Sounds like friendship

Answer 30

HereIbe

Guru

Just give it up and become a cat lady.

Answer 31

cuttl | 64 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

No, this just sounds like being an ass.

Answer 32

dragoblack | 329 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

It shows not interested, not hard to get

Blueeyes81

+1 y
Agreed

Answer 33

Blueeyes81

Agreed

Answer 34

Anonymous

I like the chase, myself

Answer 35

samael_kmarty | 127 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

I hope it works.

Answer 36

Fuentes | 2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Stop emailing

Answer 37

ISarithI | 84 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

hmmmm...

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