Yes, because my ex broke up with me during her mission two years ago, and I asked out over 60 girls since then and I had one relationship for 3 months. She got married recently, and 3 months after she came home. I wanted to move on before she came back.
No, because shame, rooted in codependency, needing something outside is weakness. I keep working on my mind (thoughts, feelings, emotions) until enough inner strength is built to no longer need the outer experience, anyone's acceptance, or approval, to satisfy my sense of self-worth or happiness.
I’ve never felt ashamed. At times when several of my friends had boyfriends, I felt lonely at times, but I also had a lot of freedoms that that didn’t. I’m currently single and in my first few weeks of college, which is exactly what I planned on. That’s been great, I can do whatever and whoever I want. So nope, never ashamed, I’d rather be single than with the wrong guy.
Not at all. I knew at a very young age Marriage was not going to be for me. I do believe. I may have found the person I do want to spend the rest of my life with, him and his son are my heart. Marriage would have to be an option since I won't let us have sex when his son is with us. That wouldn't be the only reason for getting married though.
It's a personal shame for me. I'm ashamed of myself for not doing better in previous relationships, and for not pursuing more women to find one I could click with. But I am putting myself out there now, so I'm hoping things will start looking up.
As for shamed by others, I don't think anyone judges me for being single. And if they do, I have blown them off and not noticed.
Not really ashamed, more embarrassed. It's like I've failed a life test. About 10 years ago, I frequently got comments from girls saying how cute I am, and I still get smiled at now. I've even had my arse grabbed a couple of times. But now, I'm somehow expected to have a girlfriend. When women come up to me, they say my girlfriend must be "the luckiest woman in the world, to have a cutie like you". If I admit to being single, there "must be something wrong" with me.
Been single for 5 years and feel absolutely no shame about it. I don't believe in trying to force anything and I really don't give a shit about relationships in general. That is likely due to my background, but yeah, single is fine and so is being in a relationship. As long as I'm happy, it matters very little.
Not really ashamed of it. But like a few others have said, you do get to feeling unwanted. Really makes you over analyze yourself on every tiny flaw. For example "I'm too weird, my voice is awful to listen to, I have a weird face, not an attractive body, and a bad hairline" personally I've sorta just stopped thinking about dating or anything of sort cause who wants to get with this mess? I ain't worth that effort lol.
No, but it kind of emphasizes the fact that I'm young, which I don't like. I'm short, shy, have a baby voice, never dated, fresh out of highschool, look younger than I am. I would rather people view me as independent and mature, but sometimes people treat me like a little girl. And it's kind of frustrating. Like I'm working two jobs and make my own decisions. So what the heck
No. Why would I? 😀 When I see all my friends with their girlfriends... how they are always under control... always asking for permissions... always reporting their whereabouts... and always arguing about something... it makes me feel great about my single life. Don't take me wrong. I undersrand that people in relationships have to be more reliable and responsible and not hang out with some people all the time without informing their partner and everything. I am just glad I don't have to 😁
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Sometimes... yes. I'm ashamed when it's a joke about HOW single I am. It's not about being single so much - even the most attractive people have probably been single for some period of time. Or if it was fully a choice of mine not to date, I'd get that. It's the level of being single. Not just single, but 'contemplating becoming a monk even though I'm not that religion' type of single.
yes it means i am a loser and tying my self worth to it also makes me a loser and im so deep in a hole that i want my penis removed because all it does is make me want to fuck things and i know logically that i have to be respectful but you also have to be confident but it turns out my idea of confident is a woman's idea of harassment! Once i get the idea that im annoying them i leave them alone but its hard not to see yourself as a monster because everyone treats you that way.
I probably wouldn't go as far as shame but it is a little disconcerting. Though as I've gotten older and seen how other couples interact, I'm not convinced that being in a relationship would bring much value into my life. But right now, I'm quite content not dealing with the drama and baggage that some women have.
Im an introvert so it doesn't bother me at all. My brother is an extrovert and feels incomplete if he isn't dating or at least has a crush on a woman. Guess it depends on if you are ok with being alone. Hooking up just so you aren't alone can lead to wasting a lot of time and god forbid you have children with someone your not that into making your life harder and being unfair to the child that is more shameful I think.
A long time ago, in a galaxy far away I did, before I met my boyfriend. There would be moments where I'd feel like I wasn't good enough. Coupled with the teasing I would get at work about it. But then I started to think why should I let that bother me. If they have that opinion of me, good for them. I'm going to live my life the way I want to. As I result I became happier
Not ashamed, but lonely. I feel lonely about being alone, but I don’t feel ashamed of it. It can suck sometimes, but it also does have some of its own perks.
I've witnessed all the gynocentrism and misandry in this rigged society and system stacked against males and I should be ashamed of being single? In no way shape or form do I. What is there to be shamed of, not accepting the obvious fact that you are seen as disposable, a tool and nothing else? No, I don't think so. I'm currently celebrating my 33rd year as a MGTOW monk in fact. I have popcorn on hand watching the west crumble.
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Yes. I've been in little to no serious relationships so being single makes me question whether something is really wrong with me or not. I say I enjoy being single but I absolutely hate it. I miss having someone by my side.
Definitely not its our kind of mentality we created that if some on is single than he/she feel ashamed There is nothing like to ashamed..
If you are alone than you are free to do anything , your thought & wishes are your own But in relationship sometimes there are many restriction , sometimes you have to compromise & your thinking & decision by considering your partner too.
I’m not ashamed, as the only reason is because I haven’t found the right person yet. (I didn’t go through break ups or anything.) But it’s still super painful because I desire romance so much. (And because the person I almost has my first major relationship with died before it was possible...)
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Yes, because my ex broke up with me during her mission two years ago, and I asked out over 60 girls since then and I had one relationship for 3 months.
She got married recently, and 3 months after she came home. I wanted to move on before she came back.
Thanks for sharing your story and experience ♥️
No, because shame, rooted in codependency, needing something outside is weakness. I keep working on my mind (thoughts, feelings, emotions) until enough inner strength is built to no longer need the outer experience, anyone's acceptance, or approval, to satisfy my sense of self-worth or happiness.
I’ve never felt ashamed. At times when several of my friends had boyfriends, I felt lonely at times, but I also had a lot of freedoms that that didn’t. I’m currently single and in my first few weeks of college, which is exactly what I planned on. That’s been great, I can do whatever and whoever I want. So nope, never ashamed, I’d rather be single than with the wrong guy.
Not at all. I knew at a very young age Marriage was not going to be for me. I do believe. I may have found the person I do want to spend the rest of my life with, him and his son are my heart. Marriage would have to be an option since I won't let us have sex when his son is with us. That wouldn't be the only reason for getting married though.
It's a personal shame for me. I'm ashamed of myself for not doing better in previous relationships, and for not pursuing more women to find one I could click with. But I am putting myself out there now, so I'm hoping things will start looking up.
As for shamed by others, I don't think anyone judges me for being single. And if they do, I have blown them off and not noticed.
Not really ashamed, more embarrassed. It's like I've failed a life test. About 10 years ago, I frequently got comments from girls saying how cute I am, and I still get smiled at now. I've even had my arse grabbed a couple of times. But now, I'm somehow expected to have a girlfriend. When women come up to me, they say my girlfriend must be "the luckiest woman in the world, to have a cutie like you". If I admit to being single, there "must be something wrong" with me.
Simples...
Been single for 5 years and feel absolutely no shame about it. I don't believe in trying to force anything and I really don't give a shit about relationships in general. That is likely due to my background, but yeah, single is fine and so is being in a relationship. As long as I'm happy, it matters very little.
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Not really ashamed of it. But like a few others have said, you do get to feeling unwanted. Really makes you over analyze yourself on every tiny flaw. For example "I'm too weird, my voice is awful to listen to, I have a weird face, not an attractive body, and a bad hairline" personally I've sorta just stopped thinking about dating or anything of sort cause who wants to get with this mess? I ain't worth that effort lol.
No, but it kind of emphasizes the fact that I'm young, which I don't like. I'm short, shy, have a baby voice, never dated, fresh out of highschool, look younger than I am. I would rather people view me as independent and mature, but sometimes people treat me like a little girl. And it's kind of frustrating. Like I'm working two jobs and make my own decisions. So what the heck
I can see why you're frustrated for sure. Hopefully things get a little better ❤️
I'd treat you grown up and sensible if you behaved it age is just a number after all!😉😂
No. Why would I? 😀
When I see all my friends with their girlfriends... how they are always under control... always asking for permissions... always reporting their whereabouts... and always arguing about something... it makes me feel great about my single life.
Don't take me wrong. I undersrand that people in relationships have to be more reliable and responsible and not hang out with some people all the time without informing their partner and everything. I am just glad I don't have to 😁
Sometimes... yes. I'm ashamed when it's a joke about HOW single I am. It's not about being single so much - even the most attractive people have probably been single for some period of time. Or if it was fully a choice of mine not to date, I'd get that. It's the level of being single. Not just single, but 'contemplating becoming a monk even though I'm not that religion' type of single.
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yes it means i am a loser and tying my self worth to it also makes me a loser and im so deep in a hole that i want my penis removed because all it does is make me want to fuck things and i know logically that i have to be respectful but you also have to be confident but it turns out my idea of confident is a woman's idea of harassment! Once i get the idea that im annoying them i leave them alone but its hard not to see yourself as a monster because everyone treats you that way.
I'm sorry dude that sucks :(
I probably wouldn't go as far as shame but it is a little disconcerting. Though as I've gotten older and seen how other couples interact, I'm not convinced that being in a relationship would bring much value into my life. But right now, I'm quite content not dealing with the drama and baggage that some women have.
Im an introvert so it doesn't bother me at all. My brother is an extrovert and feels incomplete if he isn't dating or at least has a crush on a woman. Guess it depends on if you are ok with being alone. Hooking up just so you aren't alone can lead to wasting a lot of time and god forbid you have children with someone your not that into making your life harder and being unfair to the child that is more shameful I think.
A long time ago, in a galaxy far away I did, before I met my boyfriend. There would be moments where I'd feel like I wasn't good enough. Coupled with the teasing I would get at work about it. But then I started to think why should I let that bother me. If they have that opinion of me, good for them. I'm going to live my life the way I want to.
As I result I became happier
Not ashamed, but lonely. I feel lonely about being alone, but I don’t feel ashamed of it. It can suck sometimes, but it also does have some of its own perks.
I've witnessed all the gynocentrism and misandry in this rigged society and system stacked against males and I should be ashamed of being single? In no way shape or form do I. What is there to be shamed of, not accepting the obvious fact that you are seen as disposable, a tool and nothing else? No, I don't think so. I'm currently celebrating my 33rd year as a MGTOW monk in fact. I have popcorn on hand watching the west crumble.
Yes. I've been in little to no serious relationships so being single makes me question whether something is really wrong with me or not. I say I enjoy being single but I absolutely hate it. I miss having someone by my side.
Definitely not its our kind of mentality we created that if some on is single than he/she feel ashamed
There is nothing like to ashamed..
If you are alone than you are free to do anything , your thought & wishes are your own
But in relationship sometimes there are many restriction , sometimes you have to compromise & your thinking & decision by considering your partner too.
😊😊😊
I’m not ashamed, as the only reason is because I haven’t found the right person yet. (I didn’t go through break ups or anything.) But it’s still super painful because I desire romance so much. (And because the person I almost has my first major relationship with died before it was possible...)
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