Have You Ever Been Single Shamed?

[anon1903]

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a32142296/single-shaming/

I've always been in a relationship, bro

Yes! Whenever I tell them I'm taking time off dating

Oh yeah I have dated morons to avoid that

Bro, I didn't know it was a thing

[Cynicaldreamer]

I'm almost 37, been single for over 10 years, and have no kids- absolutely!

Ironically it's mostly female coworkers and friends with kids and grandkids asking me why I'm not married yet, when am I going to have kids (spoiler alert: even if I get in a relationship, I do not like or want kids!), and assume something is wrong with me because I'm almost 40 and still single-

My family on the other hand stopped asking me about my love life YEARS ago. My mom just assumes I'm going to be single and have a house full of dogs to keep me company, lol.

[MikeInHawaii]

Absolutely! I’m 58 and never married. Some women see single men like they see unleashed dogs. I never smoked, never used drugs, I’ve had about a dozen drinks in my life, I quit school just short of my fifth college degree and I have a habit of working multiple jobs at a time.

Multi-divorced women with a beer in one hand and a cigarette in the other, spewing profanity like Eddie Murphy, with multiple kids with different last names and a bad attitude towards men think I need a woman to straighten me out.

I’ve also had women who’ve turned me down for dates tell me I should be married. I’ve answered “You turned me down. Aren’t you part of the reason I’m single?””!”

[motownplayer2000]

It’s crazy nowadays you can feeel like you are getting shamed for everything. Lol even when most aren’t. I believe that most people need to take ownership of there emotions. Yes it hurts when people say stuff and if they are being intentionally hurtful that is one thing. But how you feel and react to it is on you. Not on them. If you have sex with a ton of people and you love it. No matter how many people call you a slut it won’t matter because you own your emotions and if you feel good about what you are doing no one should be able to make you feel shame for it. No one has that kind of power over me.

[mermaidcancermoon]

None of those voting options apply. I dont announce when im in a relationship or not. But people do try to ask still. The only time i bring up my status is if i were taking the guy to see family after 9 months in.

Yes I have been single shamed. Them not knowing at all that I was involved with someone and had my back blown out the night before. Its my privacy that haunts some people. Family does it most as im private with them as well (they gossip so I have no choice). But still, I bite my tongue even when people pry. I dont have social media so most wouldn't get pictures unless I sent them. My relationship/dating history is far from public information.

[Blackcupcake]

does “you’re too good to be single” count…
I guess it does because it makes being in a relationship sound better than being single… so yes lol
but do I care? not one bit. being single has been, is, and probably will always be my preference

[anon1903]

Yeah, because it's mostly passive aggressive lol

[Blackcupcake]

lololol

[bolverk]

I did not this had become a thing, It probably due to the number of people walking away from the dating game and marriage because they see nothing of value in either.

But I did get the nagging from Sisters, Aunts and Cousins In my 30's - 40's about 'when was I going to get married', But I was working overseas a lot at that time and a relationship would not have survived the long distances (this before mobile phones & internet were readily available).

[Kaneki05]

Not unless you count my bestfriend who has teased me before for not having a girlfriend but didn't exactly feel ashamed because we are friends.

[Oigit]

Nope. But people are free to shame me for any reason they want. Simply because I have nothing to be ashamed of. Also they end up showing me that they are not worth any of my time and energy.

[SaartjieJane]

No but I think everyone just expects I’ll stay single forever because I haven’t put effort into meeting anyone

[Freyke]

why are you still single, how come you are still single, you don't want to date that's weird, ... such a pain.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Yes. It pisses me off, but I won't start dating because of those comments.

[Wild_princess]

That's a new term🤔🤔but i will rather be single then hitting by consecutive waves of heartbreak 😐

[andreasderjuengere]

Not. I was only shamed as an accidental member of one or the other 'group'.

[Silver158]

Yup. By my ex friends who would literally date anyone that would have them because they hate their lives that much

[dolemite89]

i don’t have a girlfriend, i do have a couple girls that would be mad if they heard me say that tho 😛😂

[Agape93]

Nope. Chose C for goofs lol

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

You have been subject to single shaming?

[Guy13]

Who takes the time to notice or care...

[007kingifrit]

i don't think healthy people read cosmo

[anon1903]

Are you implying something here 😂

[Deathraider]

I’d say my family has definitely been pushing it.

[Wise4myage]

No, but that sounds really stupid.

[Guardian45]

It used to happen a lot when I was younger.

[Danny_dan92]

Yep, and I dgaf

[Tstrbrainer]

Not really. What about you?