Finding someone attractive is not a choice. What you do with it is your choice. If you are in a relationship and begin to be attracted to someone else it's your choice whether to end things with partner or distance yourself from that person
If it was a choice i'd be a bisexual who was attracted to any race. Imagine the dating pool i'd have and the easyness of which i could find a partner compared to my body only being attracted to white women (other races can happen but are very rare).
You can make yourself more attractive physically or personality and changing habbits. Yet the only person you can control is you so you don't have an influence on someone who is not attractive to change to taste.
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Nah, it is not a choice. How many of you would choose an old ugly man/woman over an attractive young one
Attraction being a chemical reaction in the brain for that one particular person. I don't feel attraction for every young attractive woman on the planet!
I don't think attraction is a choice. In the end you are who you are and that is why you are attracted to certain people. The only choice is how you go about it.
Yes it is a choice! You CHOOSE to be attracted to the pretty young thing sitting next to you at work, school, etc! Or that PYT at the market, at a restaurant, etc! It's also culture based but more biological I think! Anyway good luck!
Define attraction. Natural, only initial attraction is my first presumption. That is affected by past decisions, but is not in and of itself a choice. Long term attraction? Definitely a choice.
I think it goes both ways. I don't think there's attraction based off sexual features and attraction based on what you personally like. There have been women in my life that I was attracted to then it was oh you voted for Trump you ugly.
It's not a choice. Even if you're attracted to some weirdos however it is a choice to take actions. Attractiveness is subjective and everyone has a their own taste, features and personality which isn't a choice.
Yes, it's a choice, because your standards/principles will impact to whom you are attracted.
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For guys, it's not a choice for the most part, at least physically and sexually. Emotionally, it's mostly a choice based on the other person's personality and all that, but then again there's guys who fall for women who they would otherwise dislike.
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It's a choice for women.
Men like what we like, but women generally begin to be attracted when the male displays something that will benefit her in some way or she sees that other women find him attractive.
Women base a man's attractiveness on how she rates him socially, financially, physically, and other objectifying traits. Which is why many women will say they "grew to love" a guy they thought was ugly when they met him. Women also find a males ability to get other female attention as a measure of attraction. So an attractive guy who is broke with no job and other women seem to avoid would not be as attractive to other women as a not so attractive guy with lost of money, a good job/status, and women around him all the time. This has been tested time and time again
You are using attractive differently then the question asked.
Is this job attractive to me in Dallas because it pays more? YES
I am talking about when someone sees somebody... are they sexually attracted to them. If the guy is rich that doesn't mean she is sexually attractive to him... maybe attractive as a long term partner if money is what she cares about!
Well yes and no. I am talking about physical as well since women begin to find men more attractive the more she gets to know him and like him. Unlike men who are visually stimulated and are drawn to women based on that alone. Women can see a guy and think he is attractive physically until he speaks and they lose that attraction completely
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Finding someone attractive is not a choice. What you do with it is your choice. If you are in a relationship and begin to be attracted to someone else it's your choice whether to end things with partner or distance yourself from that person
If it was a choice i'd be a bisexual who was attracted to any race.
Imagine the dating pool i'd have and the easyness of which i could find a partner compared to my body only being attracted to white women (other races can happen but are very rare).
I think it's yes and no.
You can make yourself more attractive physically or personality and changing habbits. Yet the only person you can control is you so you don't have an influence on someone who is not attractive to change to taste.
Nah, it is not a choice. How many of you would choose an old ugly man/woman over an attractive young one
Attraction being a chemical reaction in the brain for that one particular person. I don't feel attraction for every young attractive woman on the planet!
I don't think attraction is a choice. In the end you are who you are and that is why you are attracted to certain people. The only choice is how you go about it.
Attraction in itself no. I don’t think you can control who your body chooses it wants.
BUT.
Whether or not you choose to act on that feeling is a choice.
Attraction isn't a choice. How you react to it and how you act on it are completely choices.
If attraction is a choice, then homosexuality is a choice.
Yes it is a choice! You CHOOSE to be attracted to the pretty young thing sitting next to you at work, school, etc! Or that PYT at the market, at a restaurant, etc! It's also culture based but more biological I think! Anyway good luck!
Define attraction. Natural, only initial attraction is my first presumption. That is affected by past decisions, but is not in and of itself a choice.
Long term attraction? Definitely a choice.
I think it goes both ways. I don't think there's attraction based off sexual features and attraction based on what you personally like. There have been women in my life that I was attracted to then it was oh you voted for Trump you ugly.
HAHAHA!
if it were choice i probably wouldn't be a lesbian, since i spent a significant part of my life trying to hide and deny it
It's not a choice. Even if you're attracted to some weirdos however it is a choice to take actions. Attractiveness is subjective and everyone has a their own taste, features and personality which isn't a choice.
Isn’t cause it that were true you’d be more attracted to everyone who is attractive. Usually it’s you are more attracted to some then others.
Attraction is a sensation, like hot/cold... you can't choose the wather but you can choose how to dress!
And if you really can't stand sea weather cause too hot, you should better move to mountain!
Yes, it's a choice, because your standards/principles will impact to whom you are attracted.
For guys, it's not a choice for the most part, at least physically and sexually. Emotionally, it's mostly a choice based on the other person's personality and all that, but then again there's guys who fall for women who they would otherwise dislike.
It's a choice for women.
Men like what we like, but women generally begin to be attracted when the male displays something that will benefit her in some way or she sees that other women find him attractive.
Attraction is a chemical reaction in the brain for some people... a Ferrari or a nice watch is not the same thing man!
Women base a man's attractiveness on how she rates him socially, financially, physically, and other objectifying traits. Which is why many women will say they "grew to love" a guy they thought was ugly when they met him.
Women also find a males ability to get other female attention as a measure of attraction.
So an attractive guy who is broke with no job and other women seem to avoid would not be as attractive to other women as a not so attractive guy with lost of money, a good job/status, and women around him all the time.
This has been tested time and time again
You are using attractive differently then the question asked.
Is this job attractive to me in Dallas because it pays more? YES
I am talking about when someone sees somebody... are they sexually attracted to them. If the guy is rich that doesn't mean she is sexually attractive to him... maybe attractive as a long term partner if money is what she cares about!
Sorry for the confusion.
Well yes and no. I am talking about physical as well since women begin to find men more attractive the more she gets to know him and like him. Unlike men who are visually stimulated and are drawn to women based on that alone.
Women can see a guy and think he is attractive physically until he speaks and they lose that attraction completely
Agree to disagree man! Thanks for the comments!
Nope. Attraction is biological. You cannot will yourself to be attracted.
Of course it’s a choice that we don’t make consciously but subconsciously we do.
Definitely not a choice, but an automatic reaction.