Dating someone that has no friends - Good or bad idea?

[kimx33jz]

Good

Bad

[aWes0MeNeSs]

It depends on why they have no friends.

Some people are extremely shy and reserved and it's very hard for them to make friends. I can give someone like this a pass, as I have a very small circle of friends and it takes awhile for me to let people close, and I get it.

Some also may be going through a tough time where they and their friends are growing apart, they've moved away from most of their friends and so those friendships may be starting to fizzle, or sometimes when people get divorced or leave a serious relationship and most of their friends are other couples, they could be left with very few to no friends (don't ask me why it works that way, but it seems to).

However, if it's because people do not like being around them, that could be telling of their personality and what kind of a person they are. Unfortunately, I've known a few people who have no friends because they're rude to people, put others down in order to lift themselves up, or are otherwise undesirable, or maybe even up to no good in certain cases.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Depends on the circumstances.

For example, I don't have many friends in real life due to my location and I don't have much in common with people my age range outside of work. That doesn't mean I'm bad or weird.

Some people just have a hard time making friends, it doesn't mean it's a bad thing.

I'd get to know him and judge for myself if it's a red flag or not.

[D3V1N]

I keep a very small circle of friends but can get along with anyone, that way I don't fuck around with drama in my life. Not having lots of friends could just mean they don't put up with fakness or bullshit.

[coachTanthony]

Did they just relocate? Have they moved around a lot? Do they have friends elsewhere just not in the current city?

If they don't have ANY friends whatsoever then that is a huge RED FLAG in my book.

[coachTanthony]

Thanks for the MHO.

[Darcia]

How is a big red flag? The person could just have a disorder that prevents them from making friends.

[coachTanthony]

@Darcia LOL what is that disorder called?

[Darcia]

@coachTanthony LOL what’s so funny? Aspergers, social anxiety, autism is there something funny about someone having these.. really?

[coachTanthony]

@Darcia No its the idiotic reference of those poor people with those ailments to the above question at hand. The question wasn't Dating someone with Asbergers that has no friends -good or bad idea. Can't stand people who try and compare two different things... that is what is funny.

[Darcia]

@coachTanthony you can’t stand yourself then

[LordSnuggles]

I think it's too nuanced to say whether is a good or bad idea. Why is important. Even bad people have friends. Cheaters and players have friends. If they're connecting and bonding with you to the point you're considering dating them, that's all that should matter. Unless you live some life where having a number of friends is important, then I don't think it's relevant. It's about the content of one's character not what they have or don't have.

[SexyAshh]

I would say it depends on the circumstances.

I used to have tons of friends, and have cut most of them out because i felt they were toxic and added nothing to it.

there's also circumstances where they relocated, they are always working etc.

I think its pretty obvious to decipher what it is

[Darcia]

Some people have may have social anxiety or Aspergers where it makes it harder for them to maintain, keep, and make friends. It’s not their fault we just need more people to accept them for who they are. People who don’t have any friends are the best people to be around to grow & learn new things that aren’t redundant.

[MissDawn7961]

both ! if a guy asks a girl out and they date , then how will she find out that he has no friends until they date? there is nothing wrong with dating a friendless person either ! however , when you date this person you may find out why they have no friends ! so be cautious when dating them ! Thanks

[MayorGoldieWilson]

If he has no friends it may because he’s either introverted or a sensitive guy who enjoys and needs his own time.

I don’t think it really matters if someone has friends or not. The question is, is he a good guy and could you date a potentially introverted/shy guy?

[Skyrim5346]

If they don't have friends that is a Good reason to date them friends are great but now a date is a compliment to the person as more than a friend for me at least Is a saintly act their heart will never forget you and you could be angel on their shoulders just a thought

[NYCstreetPhotog]

OK, I have a different standard for people I call friends. Back in Wisconsin, I have a few friends, but here in NYC I'd say I have either a handful or none. Now, I think I'm fairly well tempered, honest, and dedicated to those I love. I would hope no one would think I'm a red-flag to be with, but ultimately that's up to them, and if that's how they think it's really no skin off my back.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Depends on why they have no friends. If they recently moved or something like that, it's understandable. But if they just have no friends, that could be a red flag for something bad. And even if they are perfectly nice and just have trouble making friends, I would be concerned about dating them because I would suddenly become their only friend and only person they can go to with everything. When your social circle is 1 person, that relationship can get weird and strained.

[v851234]

No one has no friends, if your saying that they have only 1 or 2 friends, that can be good, more time for you.. but no friends, sounds like they are hiding you from their life.. even family can be counted as "friends", even work colleagues could count as "friends", if they have none of these, red flag imho..

[Anonymous]

I’m the one in the relationship with no friends. My boyfriend is the one who’s outgoing with many friends.

I don’t know how he puts up with me. I’m super clingy. But he is too actually now that I think of it. Lol
At the beginning of our relationship though I would get veeeery jealous of his time. I had to learn how to deal with it and not get weird about it. Now we’re good though. There just has to be a lot of communication with boundaries and stuff.

[Veronica__Sterling]

It's a bad idea as they don't have any friends they would want to spend all their time with you and want you to always be with him.
It would soon turn in possesiveness and obsession which would eventually break you down and break you away from your friends.
Just try to stay away from getting into such a relationship.

[Mjghost]

It seems they’re not friendly (antisocial) my sister never had friends. Only husband and get kids. On her wedding day 6 people showed up. I don’t get along with her because she comes across nice but tries to destroy you / me / anyone. Very judgmental/ negative / gossips about everyone. There you go!

[Jansetta]

It means there are not many girls or mischiveous guys around him? Hmm sounds good to me 😄 Most of the problematic people around me actually have a lot of friends so i don’t make bad assumptions at all. Plus my friends would be enough for both of us. 😆

[TheDiminishedOne]

It really depends. How is there relationship with there family, do they have childhood drama? And how often do they work? I know with my experience not having friends is do to some kind of trama... that or they're a real WRONG TURN/ I SPIT ON YOUR GAVE kind of fellow.

[whitehide]

I voted 'bad', but it really depends on why they have no friends. If they just don't want to make any friends and just be alone, then it's a bad idea. But then again, if they have friends, what kind of friends they have, also speaks volumes about them.

[Jackieboi]

But if they want to make friends but are unable for some reason its not a bad idea? Id say thats a bigger red flag.

[whitehide]

That depends on why they're unable to make friends. Sometimes people push others away just because they're different. That's kinda the situation I was in growing up, I was just too different from almost everyone else, so i didn't really make a lot of friends.

[Jackieboi]

Pushing people away because they are different sounds like not wanting to have friends and wanting to be alone. you're going in circles... I didn't mean to call you out on anything, i agree. Just trying to point out that by commenting on one of them without the other it sounds like wanting to but unable is ok. But thats worse in my opinion.

[whitehide]

No, I mean I was pushed away because I was different.
But yes, I agree that if someone's being pushed away, because someone is a bad person, then it's a bad idea to date them.

[soleil2666]

I think it's a fabulous idea!
The whole 'social approval' mechanism frequently excludes the best, not just the worst (and these, post-Facebook, days, it excludes pretty much anyone genuine - the ganged up folk are usually in agreement to fake it together and not much more than that)

[BeardMagic]

I'm selective of people and this year I had bad fucken luck as the Russian guy on John Wick said, I tried to be friends with people at college that ultimatum are fucking jealous of me and the whole class backstabbed me. At the moment I have very little amount of friends but that doesn't define me. I'll keep on trusting people and giving chances and eventually some new friends will come, you should listen more the why than the is of the situation, give the doubt before judging

[Somethingwittty]

No friends at all is a huge red flag. A small group of good friends is okay but no friends is a huge no no. Womans got issues or the dude does.

[TallAnon]

A friend of mine broke up partially because of this, he was very demanding of her time because he had no friends, but she had friends, study and work, making it hard on her and ultimately she decided that it was getting too annoying that he kept making her feel bad about living her life, not spending every minute with him.

[jwsstein]

I put good but actually I don't thin it matters and it could be a good thing. You have anybody trying to find every little thing they can find wrong with you to keep us from dating. But on the other hand the partner won't have anybody to hang with and so she will always want to be with me and day in day out Evey min every hour is too much and that is a road to doom

[WillHarris]

Not a good idea. I would urge anyone to consider that as a red flag. Why doesn't someone have at least ONE friend? I don't know the circumstances. Maybe they move a lot and don't have time to socialise. But that's generally not normal. And you should really question why someone doesn't have other people around them in their life. I wouldn't wait to find out thoubh

[Sensmind]

I would probably like someone in the middle with a few very close friends than an whole entourage. Though someone having no friends might intrigue me at first rather than turn me off, I would want to hear background

[thegirlfromthething]

I probably wouldn’t do it. If someone doesn’t have the social skills to find and maintain at least one friendship, he probably isn’t ready for a relationship. Platonic friendships are a basic social skill most people learn as children.

[Honest-Matt]

There's nothing inherently wrong with it. If they can become very good acquaintances with your friend group, that's a positive. But also keeping their space is a good trait too. Honestly just have to feel it out.

[webelong2yehovah]

I don't know about dating, but befriending someone who has no friends is almost obligatory by my heart's judgment. Unless they were a corrupting influence, I would only want to help to brighten their world by keeping them company.

[jabbahut]

Their really should be a answer of "Don't Know" because we have no idea the context of the question. As others said the girl could have just moved country or state etc.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Depends. If they're the type of people who are deserted and left alone and still want to be accepted, they might get unbearably clingy.
If they don't have any friends but it doesn't bother them too much either, it's alright (a very rare case).

[crazy8000]

Doesn't really matter.
Some doesn't have a need of friends or found any that they want in their life.
You have those that are relationship oriented that means they are after a partner that also is their best friend.

[RHK36]

Leaning towards bad idea. It means either your super selective so you probably have trust issues or no one gets along with you because you're that difficult. If you have no friends, but want to date someone that seems like a red flag.

[RawIronhide]

It depends, there are many variables. It doesn't determine weather a person is toxic or untrustworthy. Sometimes it's just a matter of circumstances.

[Avicenna]

I'd probably date her, unless it was due to mental illness, a terrible personality or criminality, which are all anyhow dealbreakers

[Anonymous]

It depends on why they do not have friends. If they are new to the country/city then that's one thing. But if they have no friends because no one likes them or trusts them, then thats a bad thing. But what if they have social disorders? so I can't really judge a person based on them having no friends unless we know the exact reasons.

[bimmy5000]

I'm still friends with many but most have moved on to other places. I still keep contact with many of them.

[Finchie40]

I say good , friends can be toxic when it comes to relationships sad to say but true

[Anonymous]

Can't choose either good or bad cause at the end of the day, you date the person not their friends.

If you're wondering why he is alone, get to know him, ask him, make your own decision

[lightbulb27]

sounds bad, but could be ok if you see they can make friends.

[StephenCF]

Good idea; all the more time to spend with you (unless their reasons for being a loner are troubled ones)

[LoU_Hades]

It depends on circumstances, why people don't have friends.

[Anonymous]

Depends really, even though I’m the same (or at least no friends where I live because I don’t like talking to people often)

[roland77]

Don't judge about friends-count, that does not say anything about characteristics which I prefer.

[TacosRAwesome]

Coming from someone with a low number of friends due to social anxiety or whatever.. no friends sounds fishy.

[DaMack999]

Run. They are anti social and will make you antisocial because they will only want you to be around them all the time. They become very attached. Very quickly.

[Anonymous]

People will judge a person for not having any friends... but a very large majority of people that do have many friends... in fact have none.

[emmily2396]

I see nothing wrong with it as long as he is ok as a person. I don't have many friends either

[usernamesk]

As you get older you end up with less friend. People start family and they have little to no time for friends.

[Slim57]

My ex didn't have any friends and it was definently weird and should have been a red flag honestly

[tyand15]

it may mean she's a jerk but it may also mean she is shy

[Anonymous]

I'd want to know why they have no friends and if they get along with their family

[crmoore]

I know probably sounds crazy but I lowkey prefer that. I like it when I'm her world.

[Avinash1223]

Because he doesn't know how to respond to your feelings if he doesn't know what to world going on

[rapfan107]

Nothing wrong with that. a lot of the time they're the best kind of people once you get to know them.

[rajesh_leo]

If he is well behaved then it's a good idea. Having lots of friends is not a guarantee that the person is good.

[Exorcist_Rampage]

It can be either. It is independent on if they have friends or not.

[BeHappy1985]

On the plus side you won't be bitching that he wants to go out for a pint with his buddies.

[Chris006]

The only good thing about it is you'll get more time for eachother. 0 friends is never fun.

[sbc88]

Quality over quantity in my books..
I like to socialize but also like my alone time.

[csabber]

Good. He gets the chance to get new friends. Besides dating a cute girl. That's a win-win.

[FreshPrince2]

It's not a bad thing, you could lighten them up. A person who has no friends would always feel down and lonely so I'm my opinion it's good

[Anonymous]

Then i’m gonna learn about the cause of him for having no friends. It might be him whose got issues

[arabgoddess]

I don't like to leave anyone on their own