Would you date someone with no friends?

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I've been without a friend for about 5 years now and I think it's mainly because I'm a bit of a complicated person. I'm outspoken yet so quiet most of the time, I'm so warm towards others in one moment but then ice cold the next, I don't see that I owe any loyalty to anyone besides my girlfriend and I aggressively avoid attaching myself to others.

My inner workings aren't very predictable by those aside from those who know me deeply of which only one person meets the bill on that, my girlfriend. She can sense when something is wrong even when I'm trying to hide it in an attempt to avoid adding stress to her day, and I'm the same with her, she doesn't even need to say a word before I know something is bothering her and address it immediately.

To paint a picture, I've looked for her my entire life, turning every stone and I've described it as being dumped on a planet made out of trash and fecal matter. On the planet contains many microscopic pieces of fools diamonds but the planet also contains one real diamond and that real diamond is her.

I believe making friends would only cause me to lose time I could otherwise spend with my girlfriend and eventually, he'll try to steal her from me since she's one of the only good women left in the world and the number is in the single digits, so it would bring conflict.

I also wouldn't be able to connect with them as the only time I feel positive emotions is when I'm with her, I'm incapable of feeling any positive emotions when she isn't around.

My girlfriend is the only person in the world that I care about and she's my everything, so making friends would only drive a wedge between me and her which is the last thing I'd want.

Would you date someone with no friends?

Part2603 · Accepted Answer

Yes, your intuition is right. Girls are not interested in men who have friends, per se, it's more that a large social circle can be indicators of sexual value as per high social status. Also men that have lots of friends tend to be have the skills of social fluidity.

But that's a correlation, and correlation does not imply causation. It is entirely possible to be attractive and high value, and socially dexterous without the baggage of actually having those relationships. They simply care about power. And powerful men seldom have real friends anyway.

Freyke · Accepted Answer

In itself yes. But if you do something that shows why you have no friends I will reconsider.
Example a girl didn't want me to interact with my friends and wanted me to herself all day everyday, and I mean ALL day. Turning me into a loner, I don't think so.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Depends on why. If he is just so shy and introverted, then sure i’d date him.
But if he’s just so bad at interracting with people at the slightest bit, can’t maintain a friendship, a true backstabber plus completely a shit friend, no skill in conversating socially, arrogant and a piece of shit (that’s why he has no friends)... Then pls GTFO

Hopelessromantic53 · Accepted Answer

Bruh of course i would. As long as he's not a serial killer or a creep, i don't think I'd push someone away simply because he doesn't have friends. Making friends hard, and i know it better than anyone else lol.
Id love to be his friend first tho, and then progress towards dating.

Anonymous · Answer

That depends. If they have no friends because they’re a terrible person then no but if they don’t have friends because they can’t find people they get along with or people who are interested in similar things as they are or because they don’t go out clubbing etc, then that’s not an issue.
Past two guys I was with didn’t have friends irl, they knew people and followed people on social media but weren’t actually friend friends. Lost their friends were online

Panzer21 · Answer

Id date a chick with no friends, gotta fix that shit, noone should have no friends. Friends serve a role that an SO does not.

And man, Im not qualified to help you with what you're feeling. Id say you place a absolute reliance for your happiness squarely on her, and thats not a good way to be. You need to start working on that. You should be happy with her, not happy because of her.

Id say friends, genuine friends are a good thing, but you do you.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Yeah, but it would depend on why she'd have no friends, like if she's just more of an introvert and isn't just straight up awkward in public situations where basic interactions are required, then that's fine.

Avicenna · Answer

I think the think that someone would have to be concerned with is cling ones on the part of the friendless partner, but your friends could always become theirs.

Snsl153 · Answer

Actually, I would prefer someone with no friends. It keeps things simple and uncomplicated.

LazerBean · Answer

It depends on why they have no friends. It would be a no for you though.

Anonymous · Answer

Yea sure. I’m even okay if they just have 1 or 2 or even prefer to hang out with family members idc. People have their reasons as to why they don’t want to have friendships could be traumas we don’t know. So yea, I’m alright with it.

burlen · Answer

What has their friendship status got to do with my attraction towards them?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No. Because they're self-absorbed. They lack the ability to work with others. They think everything revolves around them.

exitseven · Answer

I do not have many friends either so we could be friendless together.

driven159 · Answer

It just means you have your own world that you two are in if she feels the same way than you have a great life together and marry her

Anonymous · Answer

Yea because there’s no telling how far she’ll go sexually to impress me if her other alternative is to go back to having no friends. You can really use it to your advantage.

Iron_Man · Answer

Sure maybe she’s shy maybe she’s a loner doesn’t make her a bad person or awkward

clampfan101 · Answer

Depends on why. lol If she’s just shy or something, it wouldn’t bother me at all.

Lunatic1 · Answer

It may depend on why they have no friends, but I see no problem with it.

moodyone · Answer

Yes But I'm a 27 yo girlfriend free, friends free loner Better question why would someone like to hung out with me

Pinay_ako · Answer

Why not?

GrapeApe98 · Answer

Sure, we'd have something in common.

bigpauly · Answer

Yea that wouldn’t bother me

Blackcosmo · Answer

Sure, why not?

Fuentes · Answer

Sure I would

Anonymous · Answer

Sure why not

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