I would be OK with it, but only two wemon no more then that, . If it was say two men one woman. It be OK I guss. But tbh. Its like having 3 dogs, you will always have your favorit one. Out of the 3. And you have to take in account that both wemon would want a kid meaning only 2 children any more and it be hard to do. Having to wemon cudling you would be nice. Sex would be really intresting but it would be really hard, and there be a lot of things to hammer out but I think it could work tbh. I don't see why not. But if there's a 3rd woman, that's too much. It be pushing it, and have 4 would be way to hard to deal with. it be nuts. And the trust would be hard too deal with , like what if, one woman cheats on me and the other woman I'm in relation ship with. That's not right or fair. That second woman may catch an std. And spread it. . But I would be fin with it, but I would expect that you would also have thought about this stuff as well. . Maintaining a 5 people faimly would be easyer, tbh. The man gose to work, and both wemon have part time or full time or a carrier. It would make a family of 5 much easyer then a on man 2 children and 1 woman. Tbh. Day care be cheap as shit. Buying a house would be easy, and rasing the kids and stuff be so much easy.
And if you wanted say 1 dog and a cat, it be possible to do so, but no more then that tho. there's a lot of benefits to having 2 wives. But the only wemon I see doing that is if the girlfriend has a best friend that also likes me. Then possible, or if its twins. Its also possible as well.
There is a lot to think about. Trust honesty. 2 bigest things ever.
No, you've got the wrong term. Polygyny is one woman with multiple men. Polygamy is one man with multiple women.
I am not Objectively Opposed to either situation, but I wouldn't go around promoting either as a healthy scenario, and I wouldn't take part in either without some form of safety net in place and without absolutely knowing that I would not harm any party involved physically or emotionally in so doing.
I am not necessarily opposed to the notion of sharing a woman with another man, for example, because I am not her task master. if I love her, I am to love her as she is, and if she wants an open relationship that implies allowing her to have an open relationship. However, i would only take part in such a scenario as stated with some sort of safety net involved, including blood testing for STDS and the like, and some kind of evidence on her part and his part that we are not all going to hurt one another through this potential arrangement.
Now for example I would be a hypocrite to want to be polygamous without also allowing my wife an open, polyamorous relationship. The door swings both ways in an open relationship; if the man can have two women, then the woman should have two men, etc. However, while manageable theoretically, this introduces increased risk of STDs and other physical and emotion problems, etc.
There may be pros to such an arrangement, but there are definitely cons to such an arrangement too.
This is why open relationships are actually ALLOWED in the Law of Moses. There is a law regulating polyamorous relationships, but there is no law forbidding polyamorous relationships. The law simply states not to marry a woman and her own sister at the same time, but other than that, there is no law against polygamy or polygyny in the Bible, contrary to what might be taught in modern Christian churches, and polygamy in both Christianity and Judaism was actually still very common until about 100 years ago.
I should point out that there are actually no cases of female polyamourity recorded in the Bible, but the Bible has no commandment against that either. There are also no cases of lesbian homosexuality in the Bible, and the Bible DOES contain a commandment against that. There is one case of male homosexuality in the bible (King David and Jonathan had a homosexual affair) and the Bible contains multiple commandments against that.
So the Bible opposes all forms of homosexuality it several times, but the Bible never once opposes open marriage among consenting adults* nor polygamy or polyamourity, etc.
* it is not adultery nor fornication if you have permission of your spouse to go outside the original marriage arrangement. Adultery is going outside an originally monogamous marriage arrangement without permission of the spouse.
In the case of Abraham, he married other women because his first wife, Sarah, commanded him to do so in an attempt to have a surrogate child. But God told him, "no, the promised heir is not a surrogate, he is going to come from your loins and the womb of Sarah." This supposedly happened when Abraham is 100 years old and Sarah, his wife hwo was also his half-sister, was 90 years old. This is supposed to be a Divine Miracle, but the point here isthat God himself did not rebuke Abraham or Sarah for Polygamy. God rebuked Abraham and Sarah, when Sarah laughed, for doubting the promise of an heir coming from their own bodies together.
Again, open relationships are never actually rebuked in the bible, and there is no Objective Moral reason to be opposed to open relationships among consenting adults, assuming all parties are in fact consenting to the arrangement.
The Polygamy of Warren Jeffs was not consent. That was forced marriages of young women who did not want to be married to Jeffs or the other men in question, which is rape. However, That is not indicative all of polygamous relationships.
I just looked it up Able. Lygyny is one man, multiple women, Lyandry is one woman multiple men, Polygamy covers both arrangements and is the general term for multiple partner arrangements.
Brew-- the moment I read your first sentence, I knew your understanding of scripture is really messed up. Polygyny is promoted and supported by the Lord as proven by various scriptures in the Bible, but the Lord has ALWAYS disapproved of polygamy. Women have NEVER been given the right by God to have multiple husbands. NEVER. It hasn't happened and it NEVER will. If you're not able to understand the meaning of simple English words, then how will you understand God's spiritual Word? Polygyny is one man with multiple women. This is a godly relationship sanctioned by the Lord as equally as monogamy from a man is, if not, even MORE, based on certain scriptures, while polygamy is one or two of the genders in a relationship with people of the same or opposite gender, meaning, it could be a woman with two other women, a man with 5 other men, or 5 women and 2 men in one whole relationship/marriage together. THAT is not of God and you should know that if you are a Christian. If you read scripture, getting the "understanding" that the latter is of God, then you're NOT hearing the voice of God, meaning you may be hearing something else and I think we both know what that is, or WHO that is.
You're not even reading the scriptures correctly. You're like a guy who says: "God is love and if God is love then I can love whoever I want." when God doesn't approve of male homosexuality. It is wrong but skewed perception proves it otherwise. Wake up.
There were some far-left wing nutjobs in my college who were into polyamory. They were pretty alternative looking and enjoyed getting tattoos, drinking, feminism and dating multiple people. One girl had two girlfriends and a boyfriend who may have had a guy he also hooked up with. Honestly, they were either weird by nature or doing it for shock value. Some people, like those LDS people in Utah, seem to make it work. Like, if a man has three wives, I guess they can all share household duties since they seem to live really traditional lives, other than the extra spouse. I think that there is always a favorite wife/boyfriend/lover, though. I wouldn't go for it.
I think there CAN be a favourite wife, but this isn't always the case. Tell me why you wouldn't do it, if you don't mind. I'd like to discuss this with you.
Well, actually any more than one counts: one male with more than one female, or one female with more than one male are both polygamy. Polyandry is specifically a female with more than one male and polygyny a male with more than one female. They both sound like more trouble than they're worth, though... Somebody gets the short end of.. umm whatever...
Being too jealous and possessive as a woman is not a good thing. If a man says what you're saying, there's something wrong with him but people applaud you for what you've said. Being jealous and possessive as a woman doesn't attract, it repels.
no! Find examples in history where this really works effectively and long term. This isn't too far from Abram, Sarai, and hagar... and we know how that turned out, right? ok hagar was a slave, not by her choice. But it goes to show the jealousy, hate, etc.. that build between people. Not saying it can't work for some people, but in general, one sperm goes into one egg!!!
If there was some imbalance in number of males (like after WWI Belgium or other areas), maybe that is more fair to the women so they have chance at normal life. In general, there is equal balance.
The obvious result of that kind of relationship: A fraction of men will have a few concubines that will be treated like possessions they can use and abuse as they please
All other men if not controlled will grow angry having nothing for themselves and will try to kill the ones responsible (ie the guys with multiple women)
The only people who could benefit are the few men with many women, assuming they aren't torn to pieces by an angry mob of jealous men who are completely livid with nothing to lose.
Really, really terrible idea unless you want tons of bloodshed for men and for women to be treated like cattle.
The result of becoming as a man is getting what you want. If you don't become, you don't get what you want, so for the insignificant men who are left with "nothing"-- that's their problem. I'm not going to have less to one woman because of lazy men. Also, your perception is skewed because you make it sound like few select men would have ALL the women in the world and take ALL of the beautiful women, yet it's not like in the former days. You can't just go and collect a woman if you want her and even THEN that wasn't possible.
There are also women who'll NEVER engage in a polygynous relationship, so whether they are beautiful or not, the bottom-of-the-barrel men can have them, while the ones at the top enjoy peace and abundance of women; with that word 'abundance' varying from man to man.
If this type of triad somehow worked where all parties could coexist and communication and trust/value/boundaries be maintained and all parties respected, I would see no reason not to be open to/considerate. Poly-relationships can be quite a bit of work but ultimately worth the effort. That's been my experience from the couple of poly-relationships I have been a part of.
I would like to see the question reversed. Try posting "Two men one lady" where the lady sleeps with the one guy on a certain night and the other another night but not both men at once. I see men now competing to be her favorite. Polygamy clearly was man invented to satisfy his horny ass.
Polygyny is only natural for a man. If women's sexual strategy is accepted, why isn't men's? Men who are against polygyny are men who've been castrated. As for the ladies that want polygyny, tell me why you do. I'd like to hear.
It's a lot more common than people realize, and it's going to become more common in the future now that women are able to earn for themselves. Women really only prefer the top 15% or so of guys, and many of them would rather share a sought-after man than be exclusive with a lower-status guy.
Why other than this, would you like to be in such a relationship? Most women aren't openly or generally like you, so what makes you able to be in such a relationship?
I'm against it because of my religious belief but in general It was studied men would enjoy it more then women. Its proven fact women actually develop depression over time as it get to serious in relationship. Also I like to add it was common practice before christanity spread in fact Islam steel practice it upto this day.
Don't believe everything you read. We have to worry that as women we'll be judged and harshly to so it impacts results. Men get high 5's for this all day long. Not the same for chicks it's the opposite even still today
It's a blessing when there are not enough men around. Obviously polygynous relationships lack the moral values that most people believe in. Be happy for the women who might not have ever found a man to father their children. There is safety in numbers. The prolem is... can one man support many wives and the needs of their family?
Morality is often subjective. Vegetarians see it as immoral to eat animals because "they're like" humans, while meat-eaters don't see eating animals as wrong. Don't try to immoralise polygyny, or anything else. You're not God.
I'm into females and I get turned on by seeing my man with another woman... But I don't want it going on behind my back I mean I've been open to having an open relationship and I'm not interested in men I just want a woman but yet he's lying to me about him talking to them all I've asked is he not hide it and be honest about it
I think more women should be like you. Not necessarily lesbian but rather open, and desire that their man tell them the truth, rather than to lie. I like that.
@Nik1hil I'm for it. I've always wanted one a girlfriend.. It's a possibility that I need one. Someone to talk n vent with etc, the more none sexual things. Like having a sister that I can fuck Tho...🤣
You're definitely on point with that answer. Except a unicorn 🦄 lol. If that's coded for something u got me.. But my definition of a unicorn is something that doesn't have 4 legs n a horn... 🤣 😂
I'm married, we are open and polyamorous. I have a long term girlfriend. My wife has had BFs. It works when there's a lot of communication, trust and honesty. As a side the comment "I don't like to share" is terribly shellfish and sad. You don't own your partner and especially their emotions. They aren't yours to share.
Why is trust and honesty important if you are literally dating and having sex with other people? Where's the trust and honesty in that? At this point, just end your marriage lol I just don't see the point of an open polyamorous relationship.
I am not against other people doing it, nor do I think it's wrong or anything like that, I just don't feel like I would be comfortable enough to be in a relationship like that.
Majority of Men can have handle one woman and now they want to be with more than one 🤔 these poor women lmfao eh, people can do what they want but that's just not for me.
No, why would you want that? A woman is hardly enough, not many men would be able to be with 2 for long. And i wouldn't want 2 guys for the same reason.
Even if I am bisexual, I don't think I would be into this for any extended period of time. Having a threesome a couple times? Maybe I'd consider it. Have her around full time? Probably not.
It's doesn't give me the satisfaction like monogamous relationship. I lose the motivation for being 'diligent' in bedroom after some time, if I can't build up an emotional connection to someone.
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