What unrealistic expectations do men often have about women when it comes to dating?

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Let's flip the script here. If you didn't see my last question I will link it below.  What unrealistic expectations do women often have about men when it comes to dating?

irielion82 · Accepted Answer

That they are as bad as the girl/woman they just left when problems arise. Personally I always ask my gfs to remind me not to make them pay for the crimes of my exes (sometimes I need to hear my own theories thrown back at me) and I need to tell my gfs I am not the their exes so dont make me pay for their shortcomings! Also the expectations for fair judgements and attitudes changes (sometimes drastically) from one girlfriend to the next and appetites (sexual or otherwise) To sum it up its unrealistic to compare a current relationship to a past one and if you do unfairly ITS YOU that's the problem for treating yours mates alm the same or ending up attracting the same types of unhealthy relationships. Also the last vaginas and other places that need attention and can be turn ons can be extremely different but more importantly extremely similar except with the tiniest needs of redirection to please to be the best lover possible! TELL US WHEN WE NEED TO MOVE A LITTLE (OR ALOT) IF YOU WANT ME TO HAVE THE SKILLS TO MAKE YOU CURL UP IN THE CORNER SHIVERING FROM INTENSE ORGASMIC EXPLOSIONS!!!

Evil_Laughter · Accepted Answer

That they won't get nervous or make mistakes, especially on a first date. Maybe that's something both sides expect, but I've realized more recently women are pretty much just as likely to botch a sentence, accidentally fart, or trip and fall on a date as the men are. Maybe that's sort of sexist that I didn't realize that sooner, and I'm not saying it's bad, I think it's actually pretty nice that both sides are fairly even in that regard. But if you go in expecting her to never lose her cool or mess up because she's a lady, that's not a very realistic expectation.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This one was huge in my current relationship. My boyfriend used to place me on a pedestal and never expected me to have human moments. I think he did it subconsciously because he saw me in such a good light & I guess didn't expect me to have any embarrassing moments, show vulnerability, or experience downfalls. That was very unhealthy for our relationship because I couldn't truly be myself around him. It's like I was trying to be "perfect" because that was his expectation of me. I eventually talked to him about it and he apologized for making me feel so much pressure to be perfect. It kind of felt like I was a doll he wanted to show off to his friends. We have evolved so much since then and now we both go to each other for support and a shoulder to cry on. It's amazing to have a soft place to fall after a rough day & to experience life together <3 Sorry for the long response lol

Randomawkwardness · Accepted Answer

For me, it is that I'm supposed to be clingy and text all the time. Believe it or not, I also have a life and some days, I just won't be free the same time you are and we'll just have to work around it. Also, that I'm supposed to love cuddling and hugs and everything. While it's okay at some times, other times it really overwhelms me and it feels like I'll have a panic attack. In general, I think some men think most women are supposed to be either super rude or super agreeable as if there is no in between. Some also make it feel like if you haven't had sex then you're too childish for them but if you have then you're a slut and there is literally no pleasing side to either.

sassygirl13 · Answer

They expect me to have girls drama while in reality all they guys I know had so much drama that I'm secretly laughing.

They expect me to want to gossip but I ready can't care less about other people's lives and have so much other things to do.

They expect me to want to be a housewife and appreciate being taken care of. I want to build my life myself but I like company.

I'm beautiful so maybe I'm not that smart. Nope. I have high IQ and in medical field.

DorkVader · Answer

That women never fart. This fallacy is tearing us apart!

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Lots of dudes are porn addicts and expect women to look and behave like porn performers do.

stardust101 · Answer

Men always expect women to be ready and available for sex whenever the men are. That we’re supposed to put out anytime & anywhere.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Same as some women expect is to pay for their shit, drive them and what not - some men have internalized this "date as transaction" way of thinking amd expect women to "put out" in return for paying for the date. It makes the dating scene very similar to going to a prostitute.

Anonymous · Answer

Is there anything?
Putting "expect" and "unrealistic" together...
I don't think they *expect* anything *unrealistic*...

I think they expect to be like by women more than how much women actually like men.
I suppose that's unrealistic.

I think they expect women to not take a sliver of an idea and mutate it into some fantastical notion. Basically, they expect women to be less crazy in general.

So there's those.

What else is there? It's not like guys expect an education or career or anything like that.

Unit1 · Answer

Look like a 10/10 pornstar (without make up that is) with giant tits and ass (without plastic surgery that is) and have 10 years experience in bed like a pornstar while actually being an innocent virgin all by the time before she's 26 years old.

🙄

womanoflife · Answer

I feel like there are expectations of us where we can’t show much emotion and if we do show some we are labeled as the overly emotional type. It’s one or the other - you’re either considered a super calm woman or an emotional mess. No in between. Makes us scared to express emotion, even normal anxieties everyone gets because we don’t want to be labeled “crazy” or “hormonal”

Zweihander · Answer

Men tend to think women will change for them. She is who she is. If you met her and she was uninterested in you, you're not gonna suddenly wake up to her sucking your dick. I'm guilty of this kind of whishful thinking too, but we should stop being so concerned about women and leave them be.

Anonymous · Answer

Be short and really, really thin with a waist like a wesp but also have huge boobs and butt. Be confident enough to hit on him but be really submissive with him at the same time. Be a kissless virgin but turn into a sex addict when you're with him. Earn enough money so you can pay for yourself but don't you dare to go to work since you're supposed to do all the household duties. Don't waste too much money for clothes and jewelry but look like a fashion model every time when you go on a date.

crazy8000 · Answer

Have noticed some funny ones through life. Can't see any realism in having expectations in general especially how people have to be. they are what they are. if it doesn't work, move on without them.

Hunter7754 · Answer

One unrealistic expectation some men have about dating is when they complain about women taking too long to get ready. Yet when they take a short amount of time to get ready, they complain about how they dont look pretty enough.

If you want your girlfriend to look pretty, don't complain about the amount of time she takes to get ready. She's doing her best and she's doing it for you. Don't be ungrateful when you're with a girl that is putting forth her very best for you.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Wanting the body of a Victoria secret model and the smarts of Marie Curie, especially if they're either stupid or ugly.

SarahsSummer · Answer

It seems to be a fairly prevalent idea (on this site) that women will go on a date with just anyone to get a free meal only to then dis the guy. We are not interested in wasting our time or yours for a free meal.

seniorghostman · Answer

None. Looking for a fictitious person doesn’t seem like the move. You create them in your mind and expect to find them in the wild…Make sense of that to anybody. There are things you will it won’t except and besides a vibe and actual attraction you shouldn’t be trying to get anything else out of a person to mold them or something like that. That’s just crazy.

Lance1965 · Answer

100% loyalty with no exceptions. Life doesn't work that way and it is unfair to expect that from anyone, female or male.

Anonymous · Answer

Be 18, 5'10, blonde with blue eyes and a supermodel's body, feminine and obedient

Marcozo · Answer

To tell her mind directly without expecting me to read her mind

pizzalovershouse · Answer

that they will be what they want them to be which is what they wish a lot of times was how they want to be

Furuok · Answer

All together women are pretty great. Never met a woman who I couldn't handle. Trying to except me as a deaf person who speaks normal? Impossible!

Compassiondude101 · Answer

That all guys think that women go for guys with muscular bodies or lots of money

YHL6965 · Answer

I don't really know if the fits the expectations but I noticed a lot of men don't bother trying to understand women at least slightly.

TheFlak38 · Answer

A faithful traditional woman who loves them and their country. Sweet dreams.

Lightning8 · Answer

The stereotype that she is compassionate and accepting

Anonymous · Answer

We stupidly expect honesty, them to not just want to jump on the first hot guy they see when on a date with us, to not saddle us with her daddy issues and/or her poor looks-based choices

lofii · Answer

If she dont suck better than a black hole, I dont want nothing to do with her

Slim57 · Answer

A loyal, honest, caring, sweet woman, with a nice booty who doesn't look like an ogre is all I ask, but even that's too much I suppose

MDollarBill · Answer

That they will be rational and reasonable when we disagree.

Anonymous · Answer

That they view us as a source of money, and we are suppsed to pay for everything

HelpImDying · Answer

To not be used as an ATM

Zealashton · Answer

Have you seen romance animes enugh said

omarfarra1234 · Answer

sex on the first date..

Rangers · Answer

That they don't lead us on

Snakeyes7 · Answer

That she will like the same things you like.

Malik00 · Answer

To not sleep around when she gets bored

danfarmbiy · Answer

That they can drive and put up with my ugally ass

Anonymous · Answer

That average men are somehow special to them

Hemakutty · Answer

Men demand too much, are kinda selfish.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Blow job..

mikemike7 · Answer

Sex on the 1st date

Johnson12 · Answer

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