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Ooh I can think of two in particular I see often.
The first is the assumption that once a guy is dating, engaged, married, etc., he will suddenly find all other women unattractive or not as attractive as her (physically that is).
This often comes out when women inadvertently trap theirselves by asking their man “What would you rate me on a scale of 1 to 10?” and then a “What would you rate her on a scale of 1 to 10?” The guy, thinking he’ll be honest, may say “Honey, you’re an 8. I find you really attractive. Regarding that supermodel you mentioned, I’d say she’s a 9. She’s a supermodel— her career is being attractive.” This leads to a pile of insecurity thinking he would leave her for the supermodel if he had a chance. (Honestly, there is no good answer and the guy should just decline to answer and/or should give the “only you’re perfect just for me” response.) Realistically though, he may find the other girl physically attractive, but the love connection isn’t there. He isn’t dating only on looks. The girlfriend may be perfect for him, even if the attractive girl may match his type more.
People think that dating has some magical power to put on blinders, but it simply isn’t true. If a guy’s type is slim 5’8” brunettes, he is going to find slim 5’8” brunettes attractive after dating. Heck, some guys even comment at times mentioning to the girlfriend “oh wow, she was pretty.” Should he have said that? Maybe not. However, saying someone is pretty is not synonymous with “I’d leave you for her.” If it is, there are probably several other issues in the relationship that need to be addressed, and that’s a relationship on the close.
To note, I’m not saying this gives the guy reason or justification to take actions that break the boundaries of a person in a relationship. We are all accountable for the consequences of our actions. I’m merely saying a mental viewpoint of attractiveness does not flip so quickly.
The other unrealistic expectation has to do with women thinking they’ll change the men through dating, marriage, baby, etc., but I feel that has been properly covered by other opinions. Thus, I won’t go into detail with it.
Oh my... this is my segway... LOL
He will 'complete her'
Make her HAPPY
Provide for her
Take care of her
Protect her
buy her stuff
Entertain her
Kiss her ass
Worship her
Do what she says
Forsake all others for her
be her plow horse
Sweep her off her feet
Treat her like the princess she thinks she is
Listen to her
I could go on, but the poor girls have been fed a line of bullshit since they could walk and talk. And feminism is just a giant lie. So with all those unreasonable expectations their romantic life is doomed for failure, for disappointment and frustration.
The vast majority never even once consider what THEY bring to a relationship. Just show up with their golden-vagina and they're, well, golden. LOL
Many actually believe they can FIX a man with their vagina. Like it's some kind of miracle. Like magic.
Good question, Coach. There must be several/so many. First ones that come to my mind are:
Women expect men to keep up with their level of talking. It's never going to happen. Even some men, on their best day, are not going to use as many words or want to talk in such detail, the way that women/girls do. It's too much input. It'll drive them crazy. So shorten it up, give just the highlights/important stuff, and don't expect them to remember it all.
If you tell him about a problem you're having, he's going to expect you want suggestions on how to fix it. He doesn't want to hear the entire story. He wants to give you quick, concise, not always thought-out suggestions. And he'll probably get annoyed later, if you didn't apply them. So if that's not what you want, tell him something like, "Just listen. That's all I need/want right now." That's not as easy or instinctive to him, because men are more used to being indepedent and self-sufficient, but if he cares about you, he will do this.
They need alone time. Maybe more than you do. We all need it. And if he doesn't want to spend every waking free minute with you, don't get dejected and automatically revert to thinking that he doesn't want you, doesn't care about you. Insecurity and neediness will only exacerbate it. He wants you (probably), but he also wants to have just a bit of his own autonomy. So give him that, and don't make a big deal out of it. He'll appreciate it, and respect you for it (even if he doesn't say it.)
That they're faithful, don't lie or cheat, and will make us happy.
... yes, that's "unrealistic" for some of us women, as sad as that sounds.
Looking at some of these other replies, I'm shaking my head in real life.
I don't need a guy to chase me, buy me stuff, give me attention 24/7, or any of that nonsense.
Some of us just want a decent guy to treat us right! It's just finding said unicorn...
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Romance. Too much emphasis on those special occasions when how a man treats a woman on a daily basis is so much more important.
Thinking styles. Took me some time but I realized men just don't think the same about things as women. And that is ok.
Women just have to tell men what they like and want. They aren't always pretending to be clueless sometimes they really are clueless. Passive aggressive responses to this cluelessness doesn't help anyone.
When they get overwhelmed by emotions in a fight and they really do need to be alone to think or relax. They aren't always doing that to piss us off. Better to let them go wander off and think unless they have a bad habit of never dealing with anything then that is a problem.
Even if we are in a feminist age, women still tend to see their partners as prince charming in a white horse who comes to make all problems disappear.
We have many behaviors which can show how much perfection we expect from our men, an example being our belief they have to read our minds when we are upset. We have this annoying habit to kill the communication which is the foundation of any healthy relationship by being childish at times, expecting men to figure things out instead of say what's wrong
That they're the only one he's dating ☺️
Having a specific zodiac sign
being a certain height
having a certain eye color
earning mountains of cash
working out and having muscles like a hulk
having our own place, that we do not rent
driving an upper tier SUV
giving them our passwords (and if we do so, can we have theirs?)
well, half of these things i personally never encountered but on the internet it's often seen around 😀😂 🤔🤷🤷🤷
Note: I understand not all women are like this so dont jump to conclusions, this is based off of a few that I have dated:
That they expect me to know everything, including what they're thinking at all times day and night. That I have to be the one doing most of the work in all things, including sex (believe it or not guys get sore and need a breather too). And the one that I hate most of all, that we need to be "on call" 24/7 and are upset when you hang out with friends, as if they are the only person you can socialize with from then on.
The ability to read minds.
My girlfriend and I joke about this often. She’s like “you’re the perfect boyfriend, except I wish you could read my mind.” I counter with, “well I don’t see that happening anytime soon, so I guess for now you’ll just have to communicate how you feel!”
1. Be her type. What's her type? ( she's probably not going to tell you right off the bat, so that can be any type of guy, so that doesn't really help ) best guess: Tall, dark & handsome ( That's sort of a broadened perspective, so again that doesn't really help)
2. Need to be a Mr. Universe bodybuilder, actor, pretty boy/ladies man, business man with any where between a 6 figure to a 10 figure income & a monster 13.5 sized cock like the American actor Jonah Falcon & only dedicated to her,... which I'm sure with this type of guy,... she's going to have some serious amount of competition.
3. If he has a good personality & a good guy, but that's all he is,... he's not her type but will be friendzoned.
4. If he comes across as a cool guy but strangely too weird & creepy, she's not going to talk to him at all... period.
5. She'll end up matching with a guy online but as soon as she meets him, her results will most likely be, "Now that's I've met you,... meh".
Thinking back I had some unrealistic expectations which caused me great unnecessary heartache. Here are a few of them.
1. Expecting him too my have eyes for me
2. Put me as his first priority ALL THE TIME
3. Expect him to fight my battles for me when it came to HIS family.
The unrealistic expectation that men will carry the weight of their own emotional baggage. By this, I mean that whatever the ex did won't effect how he treats me. Sometimes they drag all that old shit into the new situation and ruin a good thing
Nothing is unrealistic. It is only unrealistic to the one who cannot meet those standards. A real “woman” which is why she is called a woman will have standards of her own which varies because she is worth the treatment and respect. A male who fails to meet those expectations that she has is not willing to put in the effort.
A man is willing to go above and beyond to make sure he wins the woman’s heart. If it’s about money and nothing that will benefit the both of you in the long run then you know who you’re dealing with. Now ask yourself? Is she a woman or a young minded lady who wants to dry your pockets or have you crawling at her feet without any reciprocation of interest.
I think it is fair to say both genders are guilty of this - It does not really matter what the unrealistic expectations when the reality is that everyone is an individual and will have different approaches to romance and relationships while the people receiving will be individual in their tastes as well.
I suppose best process is muddle along till you find someone who ticks your boxes and you theirs.
Finding a decent guy we are rare and I say that because I know not many out there girls want that bad boy they can't control a challenge a risk, excitement. In front of me is it is as they get older and they look in the mirror and that's Sparkle is starting to lose its luster then they want something that is loyal honest faithful give me a break I've been these things all my life decent guys are out there and decent girls but couples in love that make it over well my aunts and uncles were talking 65 years nowadays couple of years in a relationship it's over better just to stay single. I remember when this one girl broke my heart I asked a supervisor a good friend of mine rest in peace he told me the best advice that I've ever heard."there's no demands for nice guys"
Amazing question.
So many answers.
That we're just human. We have the same desires as you --- food, money, security, housing, etc. We're not that different from women in desire. We want the basics. Beyond that is ambition and more money agendas. Greed and power? Do you know women who don't want those things?
A man who has to be a stoic rock 24/7, not saying there aren't guys like that, but some of us want a woman we can emotionally confide in without being judged as opposed to feeling like we have to keep our pain to ourselves all the time, makes it feel like she cares more about us maintaining a specific image rather than wanting to truly be there for us, we are only human, we have feelings too.
The most common ones I have run into, albeit not frequently, are:
1. Expecting me to be available every minute of every day. Sorry, I have life.
2. Expecting me to buy her things she could never afford herself. Sorry, I am not a bank.
3. Expecting me to budge on my refusal to live together. Sorry, I'm not stupid.
That they're telepathic and know why were upset, angry, confused, etc
That we care more about their achievements more than being treated nice.
No offense but like others said we really couldn't give two shits what degree you have or what you do for work. Successful guys are plenty sick of that in their own lives, the last thing they want is the same in their girlfriend.
In general women rarely care about what men even want in a relationship, instead they impose what they'd like the guy to want on them.
It's absolutely amazing how mediocre girls can pull a guy around just by giving him the attention he wants.
Changing the man? I swear i never i understand why you are with someone you have to change instead of dating a man in your ideals without changing him. Some girls just want a badboy to be a good guy. I dont get these girls hahs
Or some women expect from men to provide them but at the same time they want to be a wanna be independent woman. You can't be both.
Women's unrealistic expectations would be in assuming that men want to marry a 30 year old, career driven, overbearing, headstrong, breadwinner, etc... Men really are attracted to kindness, sincerity, not a career driven, overbearing, dominant, independent woman in her 30s. Men want a feminine, attractive on the inside and out woman in her 20s, fertile, is not appealing if she's had a lot of drama, sexual partners, has kids. Any guy who tells you otherwise is only lying to himself and is a
beta male bitch
Some women have this idea that they can change or "fix" a man as if they were rehabilitation centers.
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