Do fuckboys have a favourite girl?

[Anonymous]

So I fell for another fuckboy...

Met on hinge and at first he was doing all the right things making me feel special, pouring a lot of attention to me, taken me on dates and we’d see each other most of the week.

In the 3 week mark, I asked if he’s seeing other girls and he admitted he is but not like how he’s seeing me, he’d hang out with my friends even and get me gifts etc. I told him I didn’t like that because I’m only seeing him and no one else and he says it’s still early days. I said, ok it’s still early days so I’ll let it go but I’ve made it clear that I don’t want to be wasting my time, it’s either we date for a relationship in the future or I leave and if it gets too much and he can’t keep his dick in his pants I’m leaving.

I finally left after 2 months after finding texts from girls on his phone still and at first he initially said ok, it’s a shame because he does like me but said he decided he’s not looking for a relationship anytime soon and said I deserved someone who wants the same things... but he said in the future in a few years maybe we can pursue further. I said no, fuck that I’m not waiting for you, I know my guy will find me at the right time.

But yes, all his other girls are basically just waiting around for him as he said he’s looking to get into a relationship 2-3years down the line as he’s too busy with work rn and still young- all bullshit.

But he can’t seem to let me go. He’d ring me at crazy hours on the morning saying he wants to see me etc and I said leave me alone or I’d block him.

So, am I naive to think that I’m his favourite even after all the girls he’s talking to?

We spent so much time together though and he’d spend quite a lot on our dates and presents for me that I’m questioning if someone has the money and time to do that to multiple girls? He’s not rich, he’s only a policeman so he doesn’t make that much money..

[SteveSmith1985]

Yes I think that you're being naive.

Now, you may be "his favorite"... that's entirely possible. But if you want a relationship, then being the favorite among several... just doesn't mean anything.

So he's been very clear that he doesn't want a relationship right now. You've been clear that you're not waiting around for years for a "maybe" (I don't blame you).

But given all of that... you're still allowing your relationship to proceed ALONG THE LINES HE"S SET OUT. In other words, he wants to continue seeing you, while also seeing other women. That's not what you want.

Then you say that "he can't seem to let you go".

I don't know how you can expect that he would. He's got things set up exactly how he wants them. He gets to continue to see you, while also seeing other women. So... why would he all-of-a-sudden 'let you go'? You're putting up with it.

It's up to YOU to let HIM go. He's not willing to give you a relationship. You don't wanna share him with other girls. Right now you're sharing him with other girls. He gets everything he wants, you get nothing that you want. He's happy, you're not.

It's got to be you who puts an end to it. You want more. Don't settle for less. (I mean you shouldn't take any comfort from being a "favorite' when you want to be the 'only')

You need to move on. Look for someone who's on the same page as you are. This guy at least is being upfront about everything... that I respect.

[Asker]

I don’t think you read my post properly, I have ended it with him. He was the one that tries to keep contact with me but we’re no longer together.

I’m just wondering if it’s possible for people like him to have a favourites or if it’s all just a game for him

[SteveSmith1985]

Ahh, I apologize for misreading your post! I would say, Both.

Sure, I think it's possible for him to have a favorite. But I also think it's all just a game to him.

So, I guess, my question would be: does it really matter if your his favorite if that's all you can hope to possibly be?

I think you're kinda drawing out your own heart-ache by letting him continue to contact you after you've decided it's over. You're probably better to go your own separate ways.

[ChaoticVortex]

Fuckboys are only in it to sleep around and meet girls. They have no feelings in it. Unless they want to impress. I hate them. Not having your heart in it is bullshit. You won't experience any love situations if you never pursue them and women who fall in that trap I feel bad. They are the ones who end up with that guys kid later and never see him again. But they are the main. Ones who have a decent head and understand life better. You actually may dodged a bullet there. Cause in the end. If he could not put away the others. And only focus on knowing you? He wasn't worth the trouble. At least you got some good stuff out of it. Like the gifts and knowing fuckboys are fuck ups.

[Apope16]

I guess im a fuckboy. I have a favorite girl. Its be a girl I have a sexual chemistry with that is more emotional.

[WhoisIP]

You are not special. To him you're just another girl. Just someone somewhere to put his penis. If that's something you like, good for you. If not, get out of this. It's not gonna change. He's not going to magically care about you. People don't change. Stop living in a fantasy world.

[Asker]

Thanks, I needed this.

I’ve left already but because he’s trying to maintain contact, I foolishly thought maybe he does like me for some reason.

I feel sorry for the other girls though, they seem to think he’ll just pick them

[WhoisIP]

You are welcome. Think about yourself, they'll get out when they realize. Save yourself and heal yourself. Also, get tested for STDs. Who knows where he has been

[ZackBan]

Look fuckboys are creatures born of an ancient spell. That spell is being curved by a girl they were head over heels for and they never got over her. That's why they do what they do to try and fill that void. You are a not special to him nor is any other girl he's sleeping with. The special one is the one he's not sleeping with.

[Optymistyk]

Of course they have favourite girls, it is only natural he's gonna compare you and find out which one he likes the most.

I knew a guy who pretty much bragged to me about having 3 girls, but the other 2 were "just for fun". So I asked him what was the 3rd girl for and he said he's his girlfriend. I asked if she knew about the other 2, he said "of course not, it's just sex anyway".

People like this will always cheat if you give them a chance

[bamesjond0069]

By fucking a fuck boy you ensure that you will only attract fuck boys congratulations!

The act of spreading your legs turns most men into fuck boys. If you simply told him "no and that you dont hookup and he better be seeing only you" there was a chance he would have pursued a relationship with you. Now there is no chance because to him you are just a slut like every other girl he's fucking.

[Vinfet]

Hard to give up his dating addiction, but for now he seems to like you the "mostest". I'd throw that fish back. Bigger and better ones out there that are keepers. Just don't fillet the boys like you would a bass.

[soleil2666]

Gee-whiz that long a writeup on a fuck boy.
Really?
Why do women complain afterwards? Would a guy who isn't a fuck boy get that much attention?
Because it isn't me deciding who you give it to... So at the very least, don't complain.

[Connor-RK800]

Go with the Belle Delphine style. Never fails with the fuckboys.

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Connor-RK800]

I'm gonna plead the fifth.

[MotionMountainn]

Message me? I am old fashioned and I don't know I never got a complaint in any department. I'm genuine and try to be nice as I can. I have a lot of empathy. anyways time for bed ! Later

[OddBeMe]

He sounds like he has authoritative issues. Dump him, never talk to him.