Hmm. Well I am not familiar with this philospher or idea but I'll give it a whack.
Correct, compatability is not a necessary precondition of love, but it sure does make things easier and cause much less conflict in the long run. Opposites attract is a compensation and perhaps justification for the friction of difficult situations. It's not the ideal. And no two people can ever be accurately truly labelled as opposites, but if there are enough glaring and obvious differences, sure, we all know what they mean. I think it's a good character trait to be able to appreciate other people for what they possess that is very different from oneself. I can often respect and appreciate people for such a thing. But it's hard to argue that compatability, maybe even the more the better, makes life just so much easier. We should never be exactly the same. First of all, it's not possible, secondly there are significant gender differences, diversity strengthens genes if kids are produced, and basically it's a lot less boring. Nobody needs a mirror of themselves. But a mirror who challenges your biases, broadens your mind, and encourages you to be something more, better than you began before you met them... this is what will aid us all, in the end.
So perhaps the phrase should be something more like 'Respect and appreciation are necessary preconditions to love. Compatability is a desired byproduct of the love that is created.'
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True.
We all know someone who is involved with someone else that is a complete opposite. Be it a friend, relative, neighbor or colleague. They are complete opposites in either upbringing, culture, expectations, education, income, etc.
Only a fool would say it was initial compatibility that brought them together & not actual love to overlook these issues.
False. Love definitely doesn't overcome a lack of compatibility, which is the big lie that the media sells and one of the top reasons for the high divorce rate.
This is why I am constantly telling people to actively investigate your long-term compatibility UP-FRONT with any potential SO, and to think hard about and talk long about the areas where your compatibility is low, because eventually, it will be a big deal, and far more difficult to deal with down the road.
It's the sort of "word byte" that philosophers get known for :). There has to be a certain amount of core things you're compatible about in order to love, at least in relationship love. Maybe you can "love" them in the sense that you're supposed to "love thy neighbor as thyself", but I read that more as "do unto others". It's been said that you can "learn to love anyone", but I don't buy it. I can tolerate, even accept, but love... don't believe so.
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True to the bone, mate. People can be very different and have many arguments to overcome. If both sides really love eachother and they can think logically they will be as compatible as human eyes.
I can't fall for a man I'm not compatible with! we can be different but have to be compatible to click 👌
False. Compatibility has to be there from the get go. It doesn't magically appear out of nowhere.
I don’t understand
@Orangeandturquoise what?False
Compatibility comes first then love starts to bloom.I believe there's a certain level of compatibility that needed for love. More compatibility will develop as time goes on if the couple makes the attempt.
False. Its so easy to fall in love with someone thats compatible.
Way false.
it’s neither.Philosophers are idiots who try to sound smart.
It's both.
Yes you are correct in my opinion
Yup. It's true.
Completely false..
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