I've provided the context in the text message in the image. We've been talking for a few days, but we've talked so much and I've developed feelings for her, I've made that clear to her and she's responded positively to my desire to advance into a relationship. I know this will come up, sex is quite low on my priority list, love is what I'm after, which I've also made clear to her and she's on board with that. In this context, was her calling me sweet more of a compliment?
Yes its a compliment but I would be careful. She is playing the Victim game and you're Falling Prey to it... You don't know what she is like when she is in a bad state yet you're saying you'll stay by her what if her State of Depression becomes Detrimental to your Well-being? Still going to stick by her? Say her Depression has her become Possessive Untrusting of You, what are you going to do? She only told you a small piece (hard to deal with or ckingy? and then she ends up heartbroken aka Victim... And your response was "I'll be there for you if and when it happens..." A Sane Non-Toxic person would vecome inquisitive about how is she hard to handle; how is she Mentally Unstable; and What does she have to do to get Mentally Stable? Not make Foolish Unknowing Promises...
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I've dealt with people way worse and been there for them, and I wasn't romantic with them. I intent to stay with her through this and a part of the conversation that you didn't see is that she's been doing very well over the past two years
Also, I told her about the condition I have because we were talking about dealbreakers and I thought it was important for her to know who she's potentially becoming partners with.
Anyone can say they've been doing well over a period of time. But that's ok you chose to only put in what you want us to see either to make you look good and you know the rest was going to scream Red Flags with both of you. Good Luck with all of this for Both of you because now I'm thinking you're both on the Victim Playing Spectrum!!!
Did you not read what I said? We were talking about dealbreakers, so the talk about my condition had to come up because if anything is a dealbreaker, it's my condition that cuts my life in half. She's very jolly, for a lack of better terms and happy when I talk to her and I enjoy talking to her. I believe partners should support eachother in sickness and in health which is why I said what I did. You sound a bit jealous
Oh I'm not jealous!!! I just find it manipulative you put her shit out here for all of us to know about but conveniently leave yours out knowing we would probably tell you to leave her be...
I hid her stuff for a reason🙄 and she tells most people about this, it literally says she's a BPD survivor on her public profile. How is your family doing btw?
In this context is seems like tou two are really determined to take care of each other. It might be a bumpy ride from here on out. I think you should talk about how to commit to this mutual care talk about how you're going to act during the depression bumps and stick to it. You might just pull each other out of it or at least pull through.
I don't why but maybe I'm reading the text wrong. Talk this with a grain of salt. She's playing the victim card! You're being 'too nice' by that i mean don't make promises till you experience the bad part yet. I'd suggest you go through those phases with her, see if you can take it and her as well. That'll be fair to you and her.
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The part of the conversation you didn't see is that she's been doing extremely well over the past two years, it's a bipolar disorder and she explained to me that many guys have rejected her due to it
As of now I say she sounds sincere. If she continues to talk to you I would go for it. Don't read to much into it or you might set yourself for failure. Just go with it. I've been told that many of times and it just because they say it's because I said something no one else has ever told them.
Its a compliment for sure, guys usually dont act well face to that kind of opening and statement girls do. They tend to run away. So yes you are a sweet :)
What do you mean borderline girl? Me and her both want a long term partner and I believe that long term partners should stick together through sickness and health, which is why I said what I did.
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