Is it bad to go for guys that are unattractive, so if they mess up, I know I can always find someone much better? (Page 2)

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I have very little experience so until I find my feet in the dating world, i literally strategically go for people I’m not attracted to. my friends are usually highly confused asking me what I see in the guys I choose every time. but it’s like hard wired in my brain now to do that - it also means I’m literally never nervous or intimidated or anxious on dates which is good. I wondered if any other guys or girls did this? And has it worked for you?

Bee-Hatch · Answer

Well that's pretty fucked up that you're dating people you find unattractive. You should be looking for someone you actually want to be with.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

You're just planning for failure. Why do you expect relationships to fail? Answering that will be more enlightening than the current track you're on.

Dxam0nd · Answer

I don't think you should go for them because of their appearance but rather their personality. Just sit down and talk if you guys connect keep talking, get a feel for their vibe. Try to see what type of person your talking to.

R4vedave · Answer

Wow. That's just... Mind blowingly awful behavior. You're a terribly shitty person.

DWornock · Answer

It is easy for a girl to date up for sex but almost impossible to marry up. Therefore, if you want more than a short fling, you should date guys within your league that may appear unattractive.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow. What a sad way to live. It’s no wonder psychiatrists are warning of the millenials being more psychopathic and narcissistic.

anton_dee · Answer

Don't mind me saying but that is kinda funny logic... I think it is just that you want to have a superiority complex around the guy. If you live that way, you missing out on the actual fun part of dating...

YHL6965 · Answer

But if you are not attracted to them, you will never be happy and you will never get experience on how to deal with the stress of dealing with someone you're attracted to. Besides, you're basically using these poor guys.

Anonymous · Answer

That is really messed up don’t play with someone’s heart and feelings that shit hurts and it is very damaging put yourself in that person’s shoes how would you feel if someone were to do that to you

JTB1980 · Answer

You should always have an attraction to the person you are dating. Wether that is just physical or personality as well

Anoniemus · Answer

Lol. Yes. Don’t to that because would you want someone to do that to you?

BagoH · Answer

With that mentality you're gonna end up alone and wonder why.

Shiver · Answer

That's an insanely dumb and cruel reason to go for unattractive guys.

pleasestopthis · Answer

So a more physically attractive man is a "better" person... okay.

girlinthemirror · Answer

the uglier the guy, the worser his personality... from my expiriance

letssee89 · Answer

If that's your reasoning for it, yes, it's bad. You're just wasting his time if you feel there's no real future together.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

Why not go for someone "better" from the get-go? By your own logic, you're still wasting your own time.

Anonymous · Answer

You shouldn't use men in that way, it's just wrong.

Anonymous · Answer

So by your question, you are asking if using someone for the time being is worth it in the long-run? How shallow are you?

Dchrls78104 · Answer

No, because that would make you the unattractive one.

eron5p62 · Answer

I don't known if it's bad but if ur even thinking that you have some phycological problems and are extremely insecure so weird that crossed Ur mind

Chase7777 · Answer

Oh so you're insecure.  I don't know why having an attractive boyfriend makes you unable to get another attractive one at some point. I'm sure it makes sense in your head though.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah thats kind of shitty.. I mean it also leaves you open to, hey i can do better so i am going to cheat.. It also exposes a disgusting truth.. and that is hypergamy..

art84 · Answer

I would go for people I found attractive rather than unattractive people.

Twalli · Answer

How do you know any "better" guy will be willing to date you.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

I only ask out girls I find interesting in some way.

Anonymous · Answer

You're using them, and you know what that makes you.

Anonymous · Answer

If you date a guy knowing you’re not attracted to him, you’re misleading him and wasting his time.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

No but why settle if that not really what you want?

ElvenMr · Answer

Yea, go ahead let's just keep playing with people's emotions. /s

scooogy · Answer

That's like eating trash on your way to a luxurious restaurant

Navarro26 · Answer

Yes.. you should always go for people you are attracted to and have a connection with..

marrylonly · Answer

do you like friendship meetup? tomorrow I'll go your area.. this app i don't know how to live cam video chat.

so_lonely · Answer

No it is not just go with what God tells you to do. God will give you the person you are supposed to be with

Anonymous · Answer

Yes that's not very fair on the guys really is it? If they are attracted to you then please remember one day all guys won't be as an "ugly" guy can mature but a pretty girls beauty can easily fade. If she is nasty inside.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Yeah because you're getting that guys hopes up & leading him on

Chthou95 · Answer

You know it has to be bad if you feel the need to even be asking this question to begin with

Anonymous · Answer

Not really much point to be honest. Also not a great way to get a guy you like.

GayLoner · Answer

thats poor logic, why not go for guys you find attractive

Ripper_E · Answer

That's stupid. You're just using them.

Zweihander · Answer

That's pretty fucked up.

Anonymous · Answer

There is no such thing as attractive or unattractive i mean everyone have a taste and everyone are attractive in their own way

lovedejj_xo · Answer

Seems like you’re the insecure one

Pejtu · Answer

Thats very wrong kind of thinking

BeMuse · Answer

That sounds a bit batty...

FakeName123 · Answer

This is such a stupid idea.

Champagnesupernova87 · Answer

Yes, it is bad. And no I've never done that

fonduegirl · Answer

that's some twisted logic :D

OpenWine · Answer

I suddenly don't wanna be your date ever

CasaNorba · Answer

depends what you mean by "messing up"

Anonymous · Answer

its safer but not as exciting.

cbshaw10 · Answer

Ugghhhh. So u be a player.

ask4any · Answer

No! Never approached it that way!

outside_Toronto · Answer

Looks are subjective. That's a lame reason.

nailu · Answer

yuh girls have all the cards😵

Plitty-Tank · Answer

No. That's a crappy thing to do.

BCRanger10 · Answer

Yes.

PetrovaFire92 · Answer

Yes it's bad !

WanderingEyes · Answer

This question makes me really sad.

TheLimeNan · Answer

That's awful

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