Alright these guys don't intimate you and know you can get your way with them, because you DON'T CARE what they think. You are also getting plenty of practice young at faking it in bed too... go figure.
So the longer you spend with this guy the more feels better about himself. He actually feels attractive and confident. He actually feels that he's worth something to women. And last but not least he's been lied to the point he might actually think you have something for him.
So you got a very low tolerance for any mistakes the make and ALL guys will make a mistake at some point. Than you ditch them and they're devastated. They might not even screw up, you might ditch them just because you bored. Then you wonder why there are so many "incels" and angry guys out there. You are perfect reason why but then again feminism says you're the "victim"...
When it comes down to it you are selfish piece of shit. But at least you are a HONEST piece of shit. I bet for every girl like you there are 5 others who think the exact same way but don't admit it. But then again who cares what guys think. They only exist for you ends right? YOU GO GIRL! Be "strong" and exploit them. They don't have emotions, they are dispensable. Just guys, who cares.
You might as well become a hooker if you are this good at being fake. I take that back, hookers are actually better then you. At least a guy knows a hooker's intention and vice versa. Yeah, you are lower than a whore. The only girls who are even lower than you are the ones that don't admit to this.
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No it isn't bad at all and if that's something you want to do then more power to you.
Have you thought though if some guy who might look ugly to you anyway were to maybe be very wealthy and very good at hiding it and then we're only with you until you mess up and then he can find somebody better.
What if your with somebody and they drop you because they don't like the way you talk, thinking they can find somebody better, or dressed better or thinner or anything.
What would you do were you sat in a very exclusive place and told that the guy your with is only with you untill he can find somebody better.
Maybe, and here's a thought then you try to see the person rather than the shallow things you think are important. Maybe if you find out what actually matters to people in a relationship and aim for those things, the things you actually need rather than the shallow shit you think you want.
Maybe if you do that you'll have a much happier dating life than where your currently going
Sounds like you've made a system for yourself not to get hurt. Ask yourself why you're doing this. Has someone hurt you before? Are you just really insecure that you think you don't deserve better? Are you afraid of finding someone you genuinely like and therefore avoid being in a relationship?
Why are your feet not in the dating world?
I feel like you're sabotaging yourself to find an actual relationship. I'm not sure if that's what you're going for, but that's what you're doing.
Maybe you have commitment issues.
In my opinion you shouldn't date someone you don't feel some type of attraction to because both of you will be very unhappy in the end and it's wrong to lead people on. Regardless of how someone looks, they can end up hurting you. I've went for guys who I initially wasn't sure id feel a connection with and did it protect me? No! Not one bit. A guy can still be a jerk low self esteem or not. It's best as a woman to be honest with yourself otherwise, you can't with other people and that'll ruin relationships.
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How would you feel if you knew that the guy you were dating really wasn't attracted to you but was just dating you because you were convenient and not challenging?
Again, I am not surprised that a 20 year-old female would have this kind of mentality.
It is potentially very harmful to the person that you are going out with.
That is not fair for both of you. Wtf? Lose-lose situation
Well your theory might appear to make sense on paper. But to act this out such that it becomes your character, trivializes men. And what this means is that you are undermining what it means to love a human being, and what it means to even be human; because you are further teaching yourself to devalue commitment, and to dispose of benevolent human consciousness. And regardless of whether you are attracted to your partner in the beginning, you are inevitably going to encounter a phase in the monogamous relationship where not only are you not attacted to your partner, but life by their side has also become difficult, requiring you to survive it and stay committed to working issues out.
But your mindset actually isn't uncommon. It's actually a now pervasive tendency to engage in polygamy through sequential relationships. Everyone does it today in the West. But women tend to get away with a lot of the evils they do, because they often operate in moral and social ambiguity. But that's if their evils don't go to the grave. Like for example, it often isn't known to the child until much later, who their real father is, or the irresponsible manner in which they were brought into this world after blaming only the father. Another example is the false notion that women who cheat because they were so emotionally inclined to, are somehow better than men who seem to more impulsively cheat. These social nuaunces are where women are stronger than men; it's in these existential connections between human beings, that few can stand up to their invisible influence, and they have the unique positioning and ability to inflict the deepest wounds. And so I think women have a unique responsibility to demonstrate positive ethics in how the treat, care for and respect others as well as themselves.Thats kinda rude tbh. You may feel better but you are also fueling the hopes of these "unattractive guys" who may be thinking they found someone who likes them.
Id say to change this habit and try your best with someone YOU wpuld like to be with, worst case you get another chance with another person who fits your taste. And then youl both havr a chance of an actual relationship.
Besides, dating is meant to be a kinda 1st hand experience, can't really train for it. I got nervous, anxious and all those things too. But trust me, youl get over it during the date if its someone you can relax and talk with.I'm not sure how you date someone that you genuinely are not attracted to. Many people feel that they make compromises in dating. That might mean dating someone less attractive than your ideal partner. But unless you are asexual, I don't know how you can be in a romantic-type relationship with someone that you don't have any physical attraction to. Although, some people might need to feel an emotional connection first before they find the person they are dating to be attractive. Maybe you should redefine what you mean by "unattractive".
So what you are basically saying is that you take advantage and fool guys who are attracted to you, but with whom you don't actually want a relationship, so when you finally find the one you want you can dump them?
How would you feel if you found out that the guy you are dating is only fooling with you to pass his time? It hurts, doesn't it?
The fact that you are not nervous on dates doesn't mean it is a good thing, on the contrary, when you are really and truly interested in someone even a little bit of nervousness is to be expected. Even by the most impassive person.
I never did that, I would never do that. Leading people on for you to pass the time is a big no. Unless that's the person you really want to be. But I must warn you that in the long run it will come back as a boomerang in your face.yeah i did once i dated a beautiful person her standards were a bit high and her tastes were a bit refined and she was always making sure i had the right she's or shirt r some new hair style. beautiful people are so superficial.
me being an ugly guy i can appreciate the predicament you are in but dont you think if you develop feelings it would be easy to do that? dont say it does not happen i seen people get married they were not even intending on getting married and there still together years later.There's nothing wrong with doing this in terms of the possibility presented with discovery of the person who may give you butterflies and all associative perplexities, but the attraction to the person has to exist even minimally in order to build something real and lasting. A big proponent of attraction for me is what's inside, yet the detractors of the rules to attraction exists sans the governing of shallowness. And despite seeing myself as less shallow than ever it could still be perceived as a stubbornness that is imbued with shallow taste. I'm picky to a point only because if I cannot see myself enjoying the sight of who I'd be waking up to, it's unfair to both myself and the prospective partner I choose.
That sounds shallow. You either like someone for who they are or don't. And looks aren't everything. You could date a real asshole and he's hit but if he's chauchy then he's uuuuugly
Find someone who you're attracted to and who's nice
Don't pick someone out like out of a catelogue. Make friends firstYou are just giving less fortunate genetically blessed men false hope. You only care about your own emotions. You could'nt care less about your replacement material. You are also not happy with yourself because you cannot be alone. Your selfimage in pretty low. You can't handle rejection because it would validate your deep rooted self image. By dating ugly guys you always have the control in your relationship and you like the fact that you can feel better than someone else. And they stay with you when YOU mess up. Actually this is pretty sad..
You do not want to get her so you go for guy you find unattractive and will hurt if someone you believe to be better comes along. The next part is what guys will eventually think of you.
You're always searching, searching for a feeling
That it's easy come and easy go
Oh I'm sorry but it's true
You're bringin' on the heartbreak
Takin' all the best of me
Oh can't you see
You got the best of me
Whoa can't you see
You're bringin' on the heartbreak
Seeing that you have been with a criminal who was addicted to drugs just means you have extremely low stands if any at all. On top of that it shows you do not care about yourself. You need to stop dating and work on yourself.What's attractive to some is not attractive to others. My brother and I go back & Fourth on Angelina Jolie vs Gina Gershon regularly (Gina: you da bomb) unless we're talking Hideous folks. I mean like bog witch looking peeps, looks are a crapshoot on how you will be treated. Nobody around you is going to base your stature on how unattractive he is if he treats you like a lady knows how to conduct himself properly, or flashes around lots of cash. If they do you may need to find better friends. Otherwise some dude who would give you the world just to see you smile will get dumped. And you won't reize it till your lonely and you want something you lost cause you didn't value it when it was yours. But if you just hooking up and calling it dating, forget I said anything and keep going mid tier, the guys who don't get the girl as often try a lot harder in bed. Either way, I hope you find what your looking for.
There's no way around it where this doesn't sound bad. How would you feel if you found out the guy you are dating isn't attracted to you? Exactly. I'll admit it's kind of clever the part where you say this way you never feel nervous or intimidated on dates but then where is the fun and excitement of dating someone. Where is the thing that pushes you and excites you to keep dating this person?
If we flip it, and you found out a guy dated you because he thought you were too unnattractive to leave. How would you feel?
I think it means you have some insecurities you need to tackle. You’re kind of using these guys because you feel safe with them since you think they can’t leave. It’s not poorly intentioned but it’s a bit shitty.Of all the cancerous things I've seen on this app so far, this post is probably the most fucked. It's literally people like you that burn a bunch of guys and start a whole new generation of dudes that won't trust in a relationship so thanks for that.
Yes that shows you’re probably a sadistic, narcissistic person and you like to control and manipulate people and feel like you’re above them. It’s actually disgusting.
What if someone does this to you? Imagine someday you found a guy very attractive and all. You asked him out. He said yes. But after some time he broke up with you because from the start he was finding you unattractive. And now that he got an attractive girl, he breaking off with you. Now tell me would you like that?
Yes. If you are dating you need to date to find love, and be prepared to potentially be hurt. By dating people you are not attracted to you are setting yourself up to not find someone you genuinely like. You’re getting all the rejection without the possibility of finding a love that is worth the hassle of dating.
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