im in my early 20s and I am naturally shy, especially around men. My friend is in her late 20s. We were hanging out with 2 guys who are also in their 20s. I'm not saying names, but I'll just use numbers. Guy #1 had flirted with me before, but he had also been flirting with my friend and he has taken her to a bar before just hanging out with her casually. Guy #2 was texting me the night we all hung out and had practically begged me to come hang out with them all (i wasn't going to because it was late and i had work the next day but he talked me into it) and he was also saying stuff like, "I know you wanna see me ;)"and he had texted me while we were all hanging out and told me to sit by him on the couch, but I kinda felt uncomfortable so I sat in my own chair. (I am shy.) Then my friend sits in the middle of the two guys, and Guy #2 starts touching on her legs and stuff. It was pretty obvious that my friend liked guy #2 because she was heavily flirting with him. My friend asks me to come sit by her so I do and I end up sitting next to Guy #1. My friend and Guy #2 start making out and go into her bedroom to have sex. And me and guy #1 end up alone and we had sex too. After they go home, my friend's phone goes off and Guy #1 had texted her and was very mad and told her to lose his number because she fucked Guy #2. I feel very used and pretty awful about myself. I guess neither guy wanted to fuck me and then both of them just wanted my friend? Lol...
(Please dont shame me. I'll never do this again by the way. I understand that this is dirty behavior. This is one of these live and learn moments.) But I just feel kinda bad about myself now so what happened here? Am I unattractive? Lol
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Without pictures there's not enough based on that to say otherwise. Maybe the fact that you gave it up so easily means you aren't it. Generally that's not what men look for when seeking something serious. If you're able to give it up so nonchalantly probably means you've done it before and/or will be easy in the future. I'm not judging, just giving you male perspective. Don't base one moment and assume you are unattractive. Naive and short sighted, but doesn't say much else in terms of attraction.
I was basically just asking why i was the last choice. My friend slept with the other guy too, so it's not like I was the only slutty one. but it seems like both wanted to have her instead of me. She was more outgoing and flirty that night if that had anything to do with it. But maybe she was just hotter I guess. I don't know. Both guys have flirted with me too tho. But the guy I hooked up with got mad at my friend for hooking up with the other guy lmao
Could be that they thought you weren't as promiscuous as her or you were too shy. Maybe your looks personality or maybe they are morons and choose poorly. There's not enough info. Either way you shouldn't waste time and energy on either of those trash cans.
The guy she hooked up with that night was the one that begged me to hang out with them all, i wasn't originally going to but he talked me into it. And he asked me to sit by him that night but I was shy and sat in my own seat and she ended up sitting in the middle of them both and was flirting with both of them. If he asked me to come, I don't know why he still chose her.
And the guy I hooked up with that night still fucks me regularly. But I don't know why he got mad at her for fucking the other guy.. lol
Because he doesn't care about either of you, just didn't want to share. If either of those guys really cared about either of you, you both would have been treated with more respect.
Both of them just wanted sex. And you enjoyed it too. So stop pretending to be a victim. It was nothing "liking" all wanted sex.