When dating should ever ask if everything is okay?

[Qualityfire]

I'm talking to a girl I like and it feels like the responsiveness has dipped. Sadly I'm the type of person that this kind of makes me panic a little. If she's still responding that means she still wants to talk but I'm not sure, part of me wants to ask if everything is alright. I'm always worried in the back of my mind that maybe I messaged too much or I said something that was unappealing and that I lost the momentum and that it will be over soon. I want to say something like that but then I'm not sure if that's going to make me seem unconfident or unattractive, I feel like I have a tendency to mess things up that way. But I'm also unsure of where to draw the line between I have to be me and you're being ridiculous right now.

[Guest25]

A few years ago I was talking to this girl I had met through a dating app, after a couple weeks all of her responses were very short, like one or two words, and she'd rarely ask me a question back. I started thinking she wasn't interested in me anymore, so I sent her a message saying something like, "Sorry I've wasted your time." And something else. She was confused, apparently she wasn't losing interest in me, but doing that messed it up. Women can be complicated. Just don't overthink or over analyze what's going on. Some of the stuff you stated won't just come off as unconfident or unattractive but also as clingy.

[Iron_Man]

Let all your insecurities go because if not you'll drive yourself up a wall and you'll end up acting different and look real awkward doing it

[vanessa312]

Sometimes having worries like that and being insecure is unattractive to people, and they can sense it. I would take a deep breath and just ask her “hey are we good?” But remember you guys are just talking, so she might have just moved on :(

[Qualityfire]

Yeah I guess the thought also is what harm is there if it's basically over anyways

[vanessa312]

Stay hopeful, who knows

[Qualityfire]

I just feel like this should be an easy thing or that it's easy for other people I wish I had a mentor for this kind of stuff I'm always unsure.

[vanessa312]

We all have your weaknesses. Dont feel bad that its kind of harder for you. You’ll get the hang of it someday, im sure!

[Crystal03]

Be honest and ask her what you wanna ask. Some of us girls also want to know if someone truly cares about our well being.

[Anonymous]

You have to be brave to ask a girl that question.

[Qualityfire]

But is it the right thing to do? I'm not the type of person who says eff it they don't like me it kind of stays with me for a while. Im not sure if my thinking is skewed on this topic though.

[Avicenna]

Ask her if SHE'S OK.