Are advanced degrees intimidating or disturbing to women?

[Anonymous]

Are women intimidated or disturbed when men have advanced degrees (JD, Ph. D, MD, Masters, etc) ? I have several advanced degrees and I have found that women are far more willing to go out with me initially and date me when I *don't* mention those things. In fact, since they usually ask about my education, I have taken to lying about it and saying I have an AA or BS degree only, which seems to make things go much better. I really *dislike* lying, and anyone thinking about it would realize that my job requires an advanced degree - so I wind up lying about my job too. As you can probably figure out, all of this turns into a mess eventually and I feel guilty as hell about lying to anyone for any reason. What is a reasonable and effective way to handle this? I am out of ideas.

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+1 y

This is a sincere question and I welcome any constructive comments or opinions. Please don't tell me to only date women with advanced degrees - most of them are unavailable or married, and the ones I do find occasionally only want to discuss work or school. I like to talk about music and art.

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+1 y

The same question was asked regarding educated women and the effect on men. This question is meant in part to simply be the inverse.

[beat-the-rice]

Honestly if I were one of your dates I would be impressed, a man with a good education is always a huge turn-on.
If these women dropped you for some degree it's better like this; you don't have to lie because some women are scared of someone with some advanced degree that might be more intelligent than them, like, I would drop someone who is the opposite of you.
I assure you that if you lie to one of them and she eventually becomes your girlfriend she is definitively gonna find it out.

[Asker]

Thanks. You are right that when they find out (or more likely, I tell them), things do not go well after that. That said, I have had women drop me stating "I feel inferior to you" or words to that effect, which is ridiculous - but they could not be persuaded. The only reason I have those degrees is because I have a good memory, and I know how to take tests. Not exactly all that brilliant by any means.

[beat-the-rice]

Well, it is a "difficult" situation and I wish you luck in finding the right one.
If you will ever meet her she will love you no matter what, so please don't fake it: you have to be accepted for who you are and not what others want you to be, moreover in a relationship no one should be feeling superior or inferior to anyone.
Maybe trying to explain this by saying that some titles or their absence don't define who you are and if you are with her it means that you value her as much or more than you.
If she still want to leave your life let her go: forcing a relatinship is never the best, it usually ends up with conflits and other not-so-good things

[Asker]

Thank you

[thegirlfromthething]

Your dates might think your level of education makes you too intellectual for them, or that you could be snobby. They sound unusual though. Typically women don’t mind or even like it if a guy is well-educated.

[Asker]

I don't think I'm snobby, I try to be careful about the language and words that I use, and I express a lot of interest in her goals and aspirations and her life. I don't talk about myself much at all.

[Avicenna]

Absolutely not. They're proxies for income potential for many people.

[SarahsSummer]

Get it out if your head that your education is in any way disturbing or intimidating and stop lying to your dates.

[Asker]

My experiences are that this will leave me without dates.

[SarahsSummer]

Think of alternative reasons you have difficulties Dating.

[Asker]

I have wracked my brain regarding this issue. I have found that not discussing or answering questions regarding education helps a LOT, and doing the inverse is the end of the nascent relationship. It may very well be something else but I am stumped as to what it might be, thus this question.

[SarahsSummer]

Could it be that you talking about your work and school is boring? Spend more time asking about her life and interests. From there find commonality to further open discussion, communication and bonding.

[Asker]

I ask about HER school and work. I rarely talk about mine.

[Gedaria]

Not that I know of...

[Gedaria]

I am old school but a good education and high qualifications usually are liked by prospective marriage mates as being more secure plus could give them a good standard of living...