Girls says I am everything she needs and wants in a man, but she doesn't know if she has feelings for me. Is this possible?

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I have been dating this girl for 6 weeks now. We have spent hours on a date once every week for six weeks. We message each other throughout the day and speak over the phone for at least an hour right before we go to bed. She has introduced me to her mum who lives closer to me than she does. Yesterday, I went to her town for a date she had planned for us and after the date, I asked her if I could see where she lives. She said no problem and took me to her house. We hanged out for a bit and went out for a meal before I left. Whilst speaking on the phone today, I asked her if she was going to me to her house before I asked her (as I have travelled an hour to her town for the date). She said that I am everything she needs and wants in a man but she doesn’t know if she has feeling for me. Is this normal?

SabinaV · Accepted Answer

It is possible.

Do not look at it negatively. She is only being honest with you, which is a good thing.

She is giving it a try, since she really is not preventing nor giving you a final word.

Your qualities: She can see it.

Attraction: She may not have a strong impact, but you cannot blame her since this depends for every person.

Continue if you are truly interested, but at the same time be open & ready to the possibilities of any outcome later, may it be positive or negative.

Just be open with her, have a talk whenever you feel you like to tell her somethings, do not be afraid to ask. It will help clear the air than wondering. There are those who appreciate if a man goes forward with her.

Hope this helps

sejla · Accepted Answer

She probably thinks you're a nice guy. That's why she gave it some time but she doesn't see now that you both are a good match. It can take awhile to see if any emotional and/or mental attraction is there.

Regmorus · Accepted Answer

Oh, I guess you have the luck (bad or good) to have a girlfriend from a very special kind of people. But if you know, that she had another bf's for whom she had feelings I'm mistaken of course. This kind would be the kind of people, for whom love isn't in feelings, so technically she loves you, because you are all what she needs, but she is not able to feel that she does. That's freaky maybe, but it could be it. You could aks her, whether that could be the case. If yes, then you should definitely build a serious relationship assumed that you too love her (maybe not in this way, but in your way) or want such relationship.

St8ly · Accepted Answer

It is possible to do everything "right" and still not be what this woman wants. If she doesn't feel the same way, move on and date someone else.
Waiting around for her, believing she'll change her mind will cause you a tremendous amount of pain, and hanging around "acting" like you're her friend is dishonest and disrespectful, to the both of you. Leave her be, and go find someone else. If she calls or texts, asking why you're not coming around any more, be honest: you have feelings for her and she's told you she doesn't and you're not interested in a platonic relationship.

Account · Answer

Stop talking to her, you will be wasting your time.

spuitkaas · Answer

You're the type of guy she wants to like and love back, but doesn't feel that spark (yet). I have experienced it. Sometimes it can be caused by not enough romantic action and touching like kissing and maybe sex. Sometimes it's just never there. You could try getting a little step further and otherwise just stop and don't waste your time.

Mickey9999 · Answer

I agree. She’s not getting that spark with you. It’s been weeks because you probably both want it and she’s giving it a try. She’s telling you that in her way by saying you’re just what she wants. And a kiss on the mouth is fine but it’s not that great. If you two were to have a mini make out session I’d say there’s seems to be spark/chemistry. I don’t think she playing you. I think she likes you in every sense but again it’s lacking chemistry which is science not the fault of either of you

slatyb · Answer

"She said that I am everything she needs and wants in a man but she doesn’t know if she has feeling[s] for me."

Pay attention to the second part. Objectively you meet her criteria but she's not really into you. Maybe you're well-mannered and have good prospects, but she's bored. Whatever, don't plan your life around her. She probably won't be part of it.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

It may be the case she has an emotional connection with you, but not a sexual attraction.

(Thats not to say you're unattractive; some people just don't feel that gut level chemistry. I'd be cautious about getting further invested with this girl; you might not see any returns on that investment)

LaureenVO · Answer

Yes it is. You can feel like the person would be perfect for you and is everything you want, but still you don't have any feelings. Someone can be everything you want, but still no attract you in that way. You can't change feelings.

kaylaS91 · Answer

Unfortunately, that’s possible.
You could be everything she wants on paper but that doesn’t mean it’ll translate all that well to reality. You might get along well as friends, but she doesn’t feel like there’s enough chemistry.

peachyknees · Answer

Of course it is possible and she was trying to be polite. You're being friend-zoned. I think what she meant is that you have plenty of qualities, but she is not attracted to you.

Anonymous · Answer

I had few of those in my life. Ended up in friend zone.

One of those I even had a lot of bedroom fun.

Been told I'm ideal man for her, but something is missing...

Then they keep coming back after being dumped by one more... I just moved on from them...

thegirlfromthething · Answer

Yes, it’s possible that you have all the qualities she wants in a man on paper, but there’s still no spark.

Konabeana · Answer

I don’t know if this is normal. Definitely sounds like she has mixed feelings about you. You would be better off taking that as a red-flag and moving on.

Secret6620 · Answer

Yes this is VERY true. Some people just don't want what's good for them. It's weird but true. 😢

IU_092 · Answer

Yeah... I think it's normal. Maybe she isn't attracted to you. Attraction plays a big role.

Mindwipe · Answer

Sounds like this woman has way too many notches on her bed post and therefore can not properly bond with you.

OurManFlint · Answer

Question Lawerence: Have the two of you had sex yet?

pleasestopthis · Answer

Yes it is possible. Especially if she has someone else on her mind.

Anonymous · Answer

Women will  never  be happy no matter what. Be the best or be the worst. It doesn't matter. Just do what makes  you  happy. It's  your  life!

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Jamie05rhs · Answer

Of course it's possible. Women are the most fickle creatures alive.

Anonymous · Answer

Oh, it’s possible. If I had a dollar for every time a woman said those exact words to me, I could have retired years ago.

Girls says I am everything she needs and wants in a man, but she doesn't know if she has feelings for me. Is this possible?

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