I just accidentally run into a tv show that reminded me of a guy who rejected me and I'm feeling like vomiting. Why can't I move on from heartbreak?

[Anonymous]

I was binge-watching Netflix and run into an episode that I watched with a guy who rejected me. I really didn't know that's the one and I'm shook and feeling like vomiting. The rejection happened more than 18 months ago and I'm so tired of still not being able to move on completely. Am I hurt all the time because of the rejection? No. But when I run into something or someone that reminds me of him I feel so much anxiety and embarrassment.(I did pretty dumb/stupid things to/with him). I've tried everything to move on. Like talking to other guys, deleting everything related to him, finding new hobbies, and I'm still pretty much struggling. I didn't even get to date him. Can someone please help me out?

[lilacmilo]

Everyone heals on their own time. This is just a new obstacle that you have to over come, and that new obstacle is running into certain situations that will remind you of him. It seems like you're still holding onto the past in some shape or form. You need to let it go. I know it's easier said than done, but that's the truth. Instead of trying to cover it up with a bandaid, you need to let the wound breath and heal on its own. Talking to other guys, deleting everything related to him, finding new hobbies can only do so much.

[Zarapeachy]

Same situation... a new movie or book or anything, and his name pops up... it messes me up when it happens because suddenly memories start to come at me. I think with time, you’ll gradually like him less. Not now because it’s new but with time, you’ll still have feels for him but it won’t be strong

[hellacray]

Well boo hoo I've been rejected a bunch of times and so did other guys.

You see the guy on TV and now you get sad? Just get over it.

[Iron_Man]

Talk to a professional counselor if you can't get over it

[apple24]

thats not helpful...

[Iron_Man]

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[Blue_Brady]

The embarrassment never goes away and so does the memory, although you'll start laughing at it after a while, it happens I've had many embarrassing moments in my life but who cares everyone can go dig a grave. You'll move on, he'll move on and we'll all die.

[Anonymous]

im dealing the same.. ages ago he's in my mind non stop. I feel like he put a spell on me but as time pass by and no more keep in touch with him.. I started to forget about about him slowly. let the time heal :)

[Asker]

How long did it take?

[Opinion Owner]

if I'm not mistaken, he rejected me last year in June. now it's May. I started to forget him since I found a new guy that I really like in October. it tooks 4 months to forget him. after I found the guy I really like, I feel like I don't need to talk to him anymore. during 4 months, it was like hell. I couldn't sleep, my face gets worst even more, my anxiety made my stomach hurt non stop and I feel nausea as well, felt tired and got angry easily on stupid things, skipped meals. by the way we were best friends. so yeah I tried my best and did many things to forget him. somehow he is still in my mind but it's only 20% instead 100%. I was thinking that I would find him back when I'm about to get marry, send him my wedding invitation. before I cut him from my life, he mocked my new crush even tho he got a new girlfriend 😂😂😂🤣

[Opinion Owner]

anyway everything what you did, I already done that and one of them is I started to learn to love myself, forgive myself, stop holding sadness about rejection and anger towards him, let the karma slap him when the right time comes (I hope he would feel the pain as what I felt), open my heart and eyes to new guys, and start a new life by doing something different by changing my appearance and my attitude,

[Asker]

Hey sorry for my late response. I'm reading your advice over and over again bc it really hits me and is helpful. Thanks!

[Opinion Owner]

you're welcome. 😁

[apple24]

I think you just have to tell yourself that if he didn't like you for you then he wasn't for you.

[Iron_Man]

How is this Helpful?

[apple24]

@Iron_Man very than you

[Iron_Man]

Lol I dont think so good night

[apple24]

@Iron_Man Don't talk down to me! Thats rude!

[Iron_Man]

I'm sorry Hugs ⚘

[Avicenna]

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