Guy not over ex?

[Anonymous]

When my boyfriend (er not officially) and I were friends, his girlfriend at the time was very jealous and suspicious of us and I don't blame her. Only once did something happen but we were both drunk and regretted it after cause well we felt guilty. His girlfriend was his best friend of 10 years but she liked him the whole time and he was like eh why not give it a try (well this is what he told me). She found out about what happened between the 2 of us and broke up with him over 2 months ago. And he and I started hanging out and dating romantically just recently and everything was okay and great.
He has a habit of shutting down or disappearing when he's going through some stuff (he did for their breakup) and yesterday I was doing some errands and he called. He sounded weird or off and told me to call him when I was done but then my phone died so I did when I got home. Tried to call and text him but his phone was off and he deactivated his Instagram account so I was worried but assumed he just wanted some time alone.
Fast forward to today he reached out to me and said that she called him randomly yesterday as they haven't spoken in weeks and cussed him out about us (the drunken mistake then and now dating) really badly. He said that normally he wouldn't care if someone is upset or cusses him out but when she does is the only time he feels truly awful "because of their history". Is it wrong that I feel uneasy about this? I didn't really think that he was over her but he always made it seem like he was just in the relationship just because she wanted it to work... now I'm not so sure. Note that he still has a picture of them and a gift she gave him (from 5+ years ago) in his living room.

[RuthlessReality]

This is a hard one, dealing with people, especially those fresh off of a relationship is sometimes hard to deal with because there are a lot of emotions coming from every direction. From the way you described it it doesn't seem to me that he's thinking of going back to their ex-girlfriend, but it's obvious that it's something that is negatively impacting him. I'd say if you're really concerned about your relationship and him that you should ask if he needs to talk through everything and try and have a conversation to help quell some of your concerns about your relationship. The most important thing in any relationship is to keep good communication. If he's not up to talk about everything right of the bat, just let him know you're there for him and are willing to listen to whatever he needs to say.
I hope everything works out in the end. Good luck! sorry you have to deal with this.

[Flyawaywithme]

I personally don’t think he is over her and I don’t blame him. Friends forever, had a great relationship, and you are the reason it ended. He may have a bit of anger towards you right now. I would give him space. Do the 3 day rule. Don’t contact him for 3 days, only allow him to contact you. If after 3 days he doesn’t contact you, he isn’t over her. If he acts like nothing is wrong, he just needed a day to himself

[Omar_Attia]

look, most of us just try to show off that we are controlling everything, we are the wanted side of any relationship, it feels good for most of us. he loved her I tell u no guy would keep a gift for 5 years or feel bad when it doesn't matter. if it didn't matter, he would move on immediately and even her cussing out would make no difference to him! So, if u truly love him just be with him until he move on. if u just wasting time let him go and don't make it too much bad for him. if u'd stay don't mention her, just try to make him happy and he'd appreciate this. good luck

[Avicenna]

You should be very worried. She has every incentive to want to break you two up.

[Iron_Man]

Sleep on it and make a decision are you going to continue this or Let It Go