Would you date outside your race to prove socially you're not a racist?

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ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

It's impossible to prove you're not racist before an irrational mob that insists on seeing racism in everything it seeks to destroy, as a lame excuse to justify their wanting to destroy it, when they have no better reason.

Instead, simply realize the truth; that all of us living today bear some relation to a DNA Noah, and that love is infinitely more complex than skin.

If she looks like me, great. But its not enough to get along, or care for each other's well-being. You both have to have a common goal, and be willing to pursue it come whatever may. And preferably, without feeling a need to do excessive harm or inconvenience to anyone else.

That's why I couldn't have the gal from China: international politics got ugly, and made it dangerous for her and me to too closely associate. And she wasn't about to abandon her brother and nephew for me anyway. So we had to call it off. If she had left everything behind for me, I would have taken pains to make it worth her while.

There was a gal who was into me in the Philippines, but it didn't feel right. She's with someone else now; and they're pretty much a perfect match. So maybe that was God telling me to get out of the way.

These women raised my self-esteem, which has kept me out of a lot of future bad relationships. I've tried to date several other women... who in the end, didn't give a damn about much of anything.

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

No, that's stupid. I would absolutely date outside my race, but I am not going to try to prove anything with it. Besides which any one who would call you a racist will continue to call you a racist regardless of who you date (and regardless of whether or not you actually are one). I mean they call Milo Yanniapolis a white supremacist who is anti LGBT despite the fact that he dated black men exclusively and is currently married to a black man. They have claimed candace owens, a black woman, is a black white supremacist.

Their is nothing to prove with people like that, they are not interested in facts just control. Also if you are dating them to prove that your not racist, then you were never really interested in them and that isn't fair to them so its immoral on top of being impractical and inefficient.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Heck no. I know girls who date black guys because they have big you-know-whats (I don’t wanna get banned) or because they like mixed kids and all these other weird things. I just don’t care about race as long as their nice and attractive. My boyfriends Mexican and my exes are white and black and it’s not for any other reason than I don’t care. I prefer Latino and European looking people with looks because hispanic/Latino guys are really attractive aswell as blonde haired European guys to me. But all in all it doesn’t really matter besides personality and I’d probably not choose a black guy first, not because I’m racist but because of preference with looks and such.

anniisa · Accepted Answer

... no, those are the ones you have to worry about.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

No, that seems like virtue signaling to me. I wouldn't pick a partner based on race in the first place, and it would definitely not be to prove any point, as I feel that is just using someone in order to virtue signal.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

Don't need to do that to prove I'm not racist, that's stupid.

Avicenna · Answer

No, that is ridiculous. I've already had a number of interracial relationships anyway, and when it was less accepted than now.

Desconhecida · Answer

I'd date anyone from any race if I was in love

EyeAmNiceGirl · Answer

No. That's stupid. Date someone because you are genuinely interested (in a romantic way) in that person. Otherwise, you are misleading the guy, and possibly setting yourself up for additional problems down the road. Nobody likes to be used. OK, maybe a guy wouldn't care as long as he is getting to make out with you, but still, not a good idea. And remember the reality of social stigmas that sometimes come from interracial dating, it's fine to take that on if you truly are into tte guy, but just to be able to prove you aren't racist, when, in fact, if the only reason you date/sleep with a guy is because of his skin color, you actually are a racist.

Smoothing · Answer

Dating someone from a different race doesn't mean some one is not racist. And having relatives from a different race doesn't mean one is not racist either.

Racism has got to do with ones negative view of certain races and majority of the time, it has got to do with the belief that some races are better than others. Even when it is not obvious. This doesn't stop a racist person from dating outside of their race.

There are lots of people who are racist and they don't even realise it.

Wonderer89 · Answer

No. Should I date a woman to prove I’m not homophobic?

grimlochV · Answer

For white men.. it's ok to.. not to prove there not racist.. white women need to stay with white men.. go ask a Jew this question.. they will tell you it's not allowed to date outside there race.. how racist is that.. aside from a few exceptions all races should stick to there own.. why? boyfriend they do anyway.. except black guys want white women only for sticking it to white guys and white girls thinks it's cool to be with black guys which is disgusting.. .. stop promoting this crap don't you know that the Jews I've set out to exterminate the white race well go look it up taking away our women in all these political Muslim refugees on white countries not wanting to assimilate the white race being exterminated when are you allowed to talk about it stop doing this f****** s*** dude every race stick to your own mother f****** black stick with your f****** blacks white stick with your f****** whites

Anonymous · Answer

There are times when I really hate Americans and their inferiority hangup with "race". Thank their slavery background I suppose & the Jim Crow / one drop laws. But in Europe, there is really little care what "race". You're the culture you are hence why Americans are not Irish, British, German, Swedish, Italian or whatever other silly labels they put on themselves.

ineedatan · Answer

I only date if there's an emotional, mental, physical and spiritual connection between the guy and I, and if we're both intrested in one another. I don't date to fool around and prove anything to anyone, that's just dumb. I'd be highly concerned and sad if someone was interested in me or pursued me simply to prove a point to someone.

HartleyB · Answer

Would you date someone of the same gender to prove socially that you are not a homophobe?

Silly way to frame the question and it kinda seems deliberately inflammatory, maybe not though, but as everyone else said which is the obvious conclusion, you date people who you have a connection with and enjoy company of and if sexual attraction is a big thing for you then include that to. That's about it :)

scarlett774 · Answer

If you wanna date someone date them because you like their personality, you like them as a person and you are physically attracted to them. If you don’t wanna date say an Indian girl, but you wanna prove you aren’t racist so you just date her to prove that... that’s a little concerning, you don’t date for race, you date someone because you like them.

Justeenie · Answer

Hell no, that's terrible. Using someone to prove a point to other people is not cool in my opinion. I date people I like for that reason and that reason alone. Because I like them. A boyfriend should not be a status symbol.

Counterclocking · Answer

No, there’s absolutely no reason someone has to date outside his/her race to prove he/she isn’t a racist. Having a racial preference isn’t racist. Preference is just a liking never a hating. As for me, I’m white and I’m only interested in dating white women but not to support white supremacy. It’s just that I only find white women attractive. I don’t care if I’m considered a racist.

MissingAries · Answer

Oh hell no! I love my black man like any other! It's glad I didn't see the point of view of my racist father, or else I wouldn't have ever given the love of my life a chance. The only reason I'm dating my man is because I love him for him and what he does for me and who he is. Not to prove a damn point.

WhiteSteve · Answer

My girlfriend is Latina, Puerto Rican, specifically... but I'm not doing it to prove anything. That feels more racist to do it than to not do it, really, haha, or at least ignorant, if not racist. I just date who I date and don't really worry about what anyone else has to say about it.

imthatsteve · Answer

I think its disgusting to date anyone in order to prove anything. Thats a discpicable thing to do to someone else.

Personally im very attracted to all girls no matter what nationality or race. But I've only ever dated white girls. No i would never date a black girl just because she's black. Being black wouldn't stop me from dating her but id need a better reason to date someone than just "ooh i haven't tried this flavor yet" thats shallow and gross.

Sleevey · Answer

Of course not. That’s ridiculous, if that actually happens how shallow can you get? Talk about virtue signalling. Not to mention that it’s unfair to the other, and somewhat racist is a odd way. But hey, bang away, and hopefully he/she never finds out why you dated them.

JackSmy · Answer

I like who I like, and Date who I choose! FUCK NO! I DON'T HAVE ANYTHING TO PROVE TO ANYONE, and certainly wouldn't date someone I didn't care about to try to "PROVE" some BULLSHIT 'Non-racist' crap to anyone!!
It will NEVER work, if you try to be someone you are not, and date someone you don't really love to prove some bullshit point to some fools that think you should!!

pleasestopthis · Answer

No, and it may sound arrogant but no one should prove nothing to anybody. I'd date someone regardless of race but not to prove anything, who I date is my business and no one else's.

jgokgotit · Answer

Nope. I'll date outside my race if I love the individual woman. Anyone who does not like that can fuck off lol Seriously, race is not really a defining factor in who I date. I date women who conduct themselves according to how Jesus tells us all to act, regardless of her race.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Nope.

Ill date someone that I actually like wether that’s someone white or someone who’s not. But I’m not gonna date to prove I’m not racist.

Besides that kind of defeats the purpose because your using that person to prove a point and aren’t actually with them because you want to be. That’s kind of messed up.

Grond21 · Answer

Heck no. Anyone who requires me to date someone out of my race just to prove I'm not a racist is the racist themselves, because they are assuming I am without proof. My love life is not to be dictated to by anyone. Nor used as leverage or proof of my character

MissDawn7961 · Answer

I have dated out of my race but I did it cause I like dating guys from other countries and cause I like guys with accents too ! I have dated someone from China or Japan and someone from Peru and they all lived in Indiana where I live as well ! thanks

DorkVader · Answer

No. Because fetishizing other races is racism. I have nothing to prove, ergo, I'd date whomever I found attractive and nice.

Porcelaine · Answer

I can't fake a relationship, string someone along, waste time just to prove to prove a point to some idiot. Unless I do something racist, they have no right to accuse me of being one.

EmperorOfRussia · Answer

Only really feeble minded people need to "prove" things like that to others. Were I single, I wouldn't do it and I never dated outside my race.

Physics-Man · Answer

Fuck no! That's ridiculous! Disgusting image by the way.

scotcheggs · Answer

i don’t need to date outside my race to prove i’m not a racist

Aaron_Stone · Answer

Why do you need to prove something to everyone. What's the point?
No one is gonna remember you for proving that you married to other race. It's your life, You're the one who lives it.
No one cares after you die. just few days of cries is what you get.
So don't waste life on such petty approvals

ThisAndThat · Answer

No that's ludicrous. There is a reason God put the different races here and believing in preserving ones own race isn't racist, it's common sense, but the left doesn't like common sense. I am white and I prefer to be with whites. There is nothing racist about it.

wercik71 · Answer

I wouldn't do that to prove I'm not racist. If I date them, it's because I want to be with that person.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Love me some snow bunnies

I_make_me_anxious · Answer

... you shouldn’t date someone of another race to prove you’re not racist. Don’t date someone unless you’re romantically or physically attracted to them.

Quackthulu · Answer

No, I date outside my race when I find someone outside my race worth dating. I don't have to prove shit to anyone.

Jjpayne · Answer

I've simply preferred my own race but I'm open to dating girls that are closer to my personality or those I at least meet in person first. There are some races I have considered dating based on my interaction with them

Rabbit1o1 · Answer

No because I'm not into lying. I mean if I don't want to date someone I'm not going to act like I want to. I don't like using people and am not going to do it. Not racist tho. I am afraid of them tho..

BCA6010 · Answer

Uh, no. If I date somebody, it's because I am seriously considering the possibility that we could start a family someday; I don't do it just to prove to people who don't matter than I'm not a racist. That's just dumb.

julieanderson · Answer

I'd date outside my race if I liked the guy not to prove anything

Reaperbot666 · Answer

well I typically only date females of the human race. since I don't define skin color or ethnic group as someone's race.

helps if I enjoy her personality. and she is proud of how she looks and feels about herself.

dmvgirl16 · Answer

Yes I would date outside my race and have dated outside my race but not actually to prove im not socially racist but to prove that im open to dating any race

TheAfrikan · Answer

❕ if I do date and marry outside my race, unless when am to marry an alien. Since am from a 😎😎human Race.

But I have no issue to wedd from a human Race. An Asian is okay.. White.. Blue.. Red as long as they love me.#iprovenoshit I just provie my heart what it desires.

mikebeckers · Answer

No, as it doesn't prove shit. Being racist is about having preconceived ideas of someone based on their skin. Those ideas don't just stop existing because you date someone of that skin colour.

slatyb · Answer

No. That would be using another person for my own ends without their knowledge or consent. If you invite someone on a date, the assumption is that you are interested in them as a romantic partner. If you are not, they are entitled to know that.

Walt832 · Answer

I don't need to prove. I would date any female human being. I don't see race or color. We all humans. The only difference is how we are raised on different beliefs of cultures. Just both gotta be open minded.

bannacookies · Answer

Yes. I always have. But not to prove. Its because I liked their personality. I don't see color, only personalities is what I see.

GeneralHunter · Answer

No one needs to prove that they are not racist. They only prove that they are racist.  Also, dating outside your race just because you don't want to seem racist sounds really douchey to me.

TheSimonymous · Answer

Oh boy. The SJW-nonsense is strong in this one. Let's be realistic: If you have to date someone to prove to everyone that you aren't racist, maybe, JUST MAYBE you might be a little bit racist and also very annoying to the one you date...

maadison · Answer

If I know my truth I don't find the need to prove shit to anyone.

mattl338 · Answer

No, because that's virtue signaling. Besides, why should I care what they think? I know for a fact I'm not a racist, I don't need to convince the entire world that I'm not.

DeeToPlay · Answer

That's assinine and shows great weakness and ignorance. I will date who's attractive to me and I have always been just like that I am saying. I have dated a variety of races and found out that they were just simply women in different packages.

Bluemax · Answer

No. I married outside my race because I loved her, not to prove anything to anyone. The rest of the world's opinions about us can go to hell for all I care

gaygod_19 · Answer

No i don’t. I have dated almost all races and that was never to prove a point.

G3tAClue · Answer

Not sure why you need to prove anything through your dating life. You chose who you want, not who society says you should date.

louyaa · Answer

Who cares what others think when it comes to your beliefs lol

jazmiine · Answer

No, Sacrificing love life just to prove something to society is not worth it.

Anonymous · Answer

Just because you date the same race doesn’t make you racist. Just because you don’t , doesn’t make you less racist. That’s a scary thought that you would pretend to love someone so you can make yourself feel better. I’m Hispanic, I would date anyone, it doesn’t matter on the color of their skin and it absolutely shouldn’t. I could marry a Hispanic but I could also marry a white but I could marry anyone. I would be scared of myself if I would only pick a man because of what ethnicity he is.

FreyaRed · Answer

no social signaling isn't a point in my date preferences

Stoner710 · Answer

No I would not date outside my race to prove about racist I would date outside my race If I like the person and they happen to be at a different race than me

WhistleForTheChoir · Answer

No, I ain't got nothing to prove. But I would date "outside my race" just because I don't give a shit. A woman is a woman. But I'm a white guy, and we're not considered that masculine and attractive, so I've barely dated inside my race.

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