Do I find it intimidating as in it makes me feel insecure with myself? No. Money has never been a big part of my life and I am as comfortable in a nice house as I am in a tent in the woods, money means little to me.
Would I be insecure in the relationship because women don't know how to act when they earn more money? Absolutely. Women are hypergamous and always look for a person with more so if she has more, she will demand more from her partner even if they are both well off. They also don't have the same instinct to protect and provide that men do so when a woman has the money it is more likely to go to her head and make her egotistical (I've read more then a few stories about this). It also is statistically shown to increase the odds she will divorce her husband if she makes more and be far less happy in the relationship.
It depends.
In the context of dating; it might be intimidating because a guy might think she won't want to be with him because of their incomes. A lot of women, no matter how successful still want their partner to make more money than them. Guys are raised with the notion that they are supposed to make more money i. e. be the breadwinner.
I guess the intimidating factor is how the girl behaves. There is often a stereotype that wealthy people (both men and women) can be arrogant and/or entitled. Or that their wealth exempts them from certain rules. If she doesn't let her wealth affect the way she treats people, it's not an issue.
I had an ex who was intimidated that i made more than him. I dont want a guy like that. I want one who understands that i worked hard for what i had finally gotten. He was still starting off so I don't know why he was acting intimidated/surprised. Plus i had finished college and he was having to repeat a year due to skipping class, sleeping in, etc
And no problem with your "basic instinct". If the guy is under you is this not making a guy unattractive or undesirable? I am sure that women with an higher income would bother that.
Its a natural rule that woman likes to sleep there way up (means dating, not really in sluty way) and men more women beneath them
Never date a guy who is intimidated by a financially well off educated woman. It usually means he has an immense ego or he isn’t ambitious and have no respect towards education. Usually intelligent educated men respect high achieving woman
Opinion
122Opinion
I think it's not the independent situation that I tomidates but the personality
Well, I have to agree with you. Also, many independent women who happen to be more successful than their partners like to use this against them, not appreciating their accomplishments
No man worth is salt is ever intimidated by any woman. Period.
Well, unless you're literally going to kick his ass. ;)
This whole 'I'm better than you" shtick is a giant fail. No guy is interested in that bullshit. You're either a whole person, independent, quality character, loving individual, or a failure. Your wealth is nearly irrelevant.
What is YOUR level of attraction and desire for HIM? What will YOU do for YOUR man? Or did you think you were some kind of princess and he's going to worship you?
First imma start by saying out loud that long nails are a huge turn off they are just disgusting for me ! Then imma tell you that when my women is rich or has a great job It doesn't scare but it makes me value her more , not because she's rich , but because she actually had the courage to become rich ! If of course she became rich on her own and through a respectful route !
I hate the long nails too its so unnatural looking
I live in LA-there is ALWAYS someone richer or cooler-you reek of being impressed with yourself and that is attractive on no one. Business owner? Ok-dime a dozen. Nurse Practioner-bfd-that's NOT an MD which even that is not that impressive. I am an attorney and a professional school education alone does not make you impressive. You've done ok for someone your age-I suspect you grew up in a lower socioeconomic bracket and worked hard and did well-that is revealed by your flaunting what you think is "bling". That is fine you did so well but grow some humility. No one likes narcissistic crowing which is pretty much what you are doing
The issue isn't that men aren't willing to date successful women; it's that women don't like the fact that they need to "date down." Ironically, "dating down" is a female expression that refers to doing what men have had to put up with doing for years. The only difference is that men don't think of it as dating down.
I read this question as I was in the middle of watching a hysterical video about this exact subject, by Aba and Preach:
No as a matter of fact it is better than someone who doesn't have money.
I generally say that I don't care about a woman's job or salary but if things don't go well I could end up supporting them even after a breakup/divorce. I don't agree with that unless kids are involved you you made a decision together that she stays home with them for their benefit
If she makes more than me then we can part without paying her and without feeling bad for her. A guy who doesn't make much might even get support from her and I'm sure that every man would like to get money from an ex that they aren't with anymore. Who wouldn't
Wouldn't intimidate me at all, but if she was materialistic and had expensive sports cars delivered with ribbons tied round them like a five year old, teams of people to Photoshop her pics and was more concerned with her reflection than her partner, that'd p*ss me off pretty quick! The brains or the pay cheque is neither here nor there, as long as both parties are contributing roughly the same percentage to shared bills etc, so she's not, and doesn't think she's being taken for a ride.
I wouldn't be intimidated. If I end up with a woman who makes more than me, thats her hard work and I will respect that. That does not mean I live off from her money. I have to focus on my career too regardless of whether I make more money than her or not.
It would be annoying if she tries to do the "bling" thing, just because that's not a lifestyle I'm interested in. But otherwise not really. Finances are like a "mech suit" and might serve to intimidate strangers, but the moment things get even a little bit intimate she's gotta come out of the thing and reveal herself.
Very unattractive, will she be the one lecturing men how to do everything and over react when he is trying to help with nutrition? Relationships aren’t exactly Fatima or any woman treating their boyfriend like a caged animal that only gets to come out just so her friends can gawk, or laugh while they red ribbon gift themselves a Mercedes. I've dealt with dental hygienists smarter than most Doctors. Titles mean fucking shit If the people only care for fucking over people and only helping themselves. Fatima could simply be humble and thankful she has a job that pays what most people need to live their lives.
Not really. Most jobs pay equal or better than law enforcement. If I do meet a woman I like she probably will make more than me, especially in the first few years of my career. It takes most officers 10+ years (assuming they do not make sergeant, which many do not) to break $70,000. The departments that pay more typically are in areas with high cost of living to make that increase a mute point.
the fact she has money would not be an issue.
what might be an issue is if she has a poor attitude to guys. who might not have as much as she does. since typically woman would rather not be the main earner by a wide margin. so many woman would rather date a guy. who is roughly an equal earner or a better one.
I'd probably be more intimidated of the other guys who would be interested in her. Im like a 4 or 5/10 in the looks department so I probably wouldn't feel too confident/secure being with a girl who would be pursued by guys who are both better looking and wealthier than me.
I also feel like guys who earn less tend to have that thrown in their face or used as emotional manipulation whenever there is an argument or disagreement.
Hell no!! I mean. I’m a dental student about to take over a Family dental chain of practices. My family are super rich. She’s just a nurse which is a shitty profession. You’re forgetting that everyone these days can buy a Mercedes and do all this shit. If anything I think she had poor taste and trashy looks. I’ve grown up with my sisters becoming dentists as well, I would probably only date a dentist. How do you even make good money being a nurse? My dad even said to me once not to date a nurse as they’ll get you no where. I would like to date a ‘successful’ girl only if they don’t feel the need to prove it to people and are willing to work with me in my business/future ventures
Personally I feel I have everything like good looks v tall, big package so I’m unphased I’m dating a successful woman. Most people wouldn’t care. The question is, is the guy insecure? Successful women are like female sport, nobody cares 😂
No offense but why post anonymously if you're so confident.
What difference does it make? Even if I didn’t use it. I’m still effectively anon. You’ll never get to know who I am 🙂
I’m only passing through and leaving
B.
Pic 2 must be old since her lab coat says student on it, implying she may have accumulated some debt.
but I digress - - - -
I've written two books one in Graphic Arts, and one on aromatherapy which is more of a fieldguide to the essential oils. I was a founding therapist of a branch location of a "5-star" spa, and I've had my own office/spa for the last eight years.
I make low 6 figures. I’m not rich but I’m above average. So I can do fine on my own.
What guys worry about is HOW the woman making more than him will feel about him. Will she respect him less? That’s the issue. Most women expect men to be financially successful to a certain extent much much more than vice versa.
So I'm a guy who is happier doing what I want to do, and that doesn't always pan out well if your not a hard worker and dedicated. On the one hand it's 2020 if guys are still intimidated by their girlfriend, fiance or wife because she gets paid more they need to either grow up or move back to the 1920s.
what's with all the woman on this site who use the word "intimidate" when its clearly not what they mean
i'm not going to date a financially independent woman because that implies she has her own career and if that's the case she doesn't have time to raise my kids or be a good wife. no time for me. but i'm not "intimidated" we just don't have common goals
Not only is she well off in life she's also a looker. I see no reason to be intimidated.
Now I might feel unfit to date her but that will only give me the motivation to work harder and push further and not scare me into running away.
Uhum not really... I had such women many times, nothing intimidating money don't build up a character and she is still a woman just maybe one thing less to worry that she may be a gold digger :). Also even a woman with money still needs so fill some standards of being a great representation of her sex in so many other aspects.
I chose C - Depends, but not because I might be intimidated. I think that is mostly a misnomer. It's more a matter of attraction and compatibility. Most ambitious women I have known have not been that attractive to me because of their priorities and life choices. I'm dating to look for a life partner and a mother to my future children and in my experience the lifestyle and priorities of most ambitious women are not compatible with that.
Yea from experience some do
Or just want to date you because you are well off
Nope, good for her, she will have a good life. As long as she doesn’t put a gun to my head, I am not intimidated.
Would I be personally intimidated? No.
In fact, I have no problem with her as long as she doesn't imply that her accomplishments make her any better than me.
Bragging is a huge turn-off.
Not at all. If anything that is just better means less worry about money and could probably spend more time together if her job ain't one were she is busy all the time.
Probably yeah. I grew up around girls that thought guys thay made less money than them were pathetic, so I don't think I'd even bother if she was rich.
dated many women with either more fmily money or more of their own hard earned money than me and its never really been an issue... i certainly was never intimidated by it
No, they don't. But I know that I would not be of interest to them.
Don't really care if it offends anyone, but it doesn't come across that she came to riches through such wholesome ways.
Not in the slightest way, I have standards and goals myself. So I prefer someone with realistic goals that are being put into motion. I am a surgical resident at Emory University in Atlanta, so my time is scarce.
Unless she's wielding a deadly weapon, no woman intimidates me. And if she has money that means she won't be, or shouldn't expect me, to pay for everything. Anyway, I have dated several women who earn more annually than I do.
Not at all. She can teach me a thing or two about getting my finances sky high as well :) :) :)
I am sure she and I would make an unstoppable force to be reckoned with - and I don't mean wanting her money at all!
Not at all but my primary concern in a serious relationship is will she make a good mother. If she's working 50 hours a week and traveling the globe to promote a book i think she won't make that great of a mom and therefore no interest.
@nelly83 exactly
When you mentioned an NP opening up a day spa, my first impression is that she’s a drug dealer for a pill mill. She probably sells oxy to junkies. :/
I'm not really intimidated by it. There is a lot to be said for a person by how they present themselves. This can make it or break it.
No, I just think a woman like that is much more likely to cheat and leave since having a man make more money than them is very important to women.
She just wouldn't be the 'target' for people looking to leverage her because he financial condition isn't strong lol
The problem is not that men are intimidated by independent women, but that women just have trouble feeling attracted to men who are not more successful than they are.
Why would I be intimidated? I'm not going to try to impress her because I already know a wealthy woman would never be interested in an average guy like me. I can't be intimidated by a woman I don't care about.
I just wouldn't be interested.
You can tell a person's character by what they flaunt.
Nope it would only bother me if money was the only thing on her mind and she flaunted her wealth around you know that kind of person.
Not at all. Would love that. Takes off so much pressure.
I probably would acknowledge them as rich and possibly hard working, them get about my merry day.
How bloody dope would dual well controlled income be
No, why would she? What's she gonna do, beat me up or something?
I would feel intimidated because what would I have that she would want?
What she can afford isn't the problem, it's how she acts because she can afford things that matters most. And frivolous spending for the sake of out doing someone else is a turn off.
Nah. I know some very successful people. Dated some. I don't really care about faux status symbols. Yeah, I could buy a Porsche; and I'd be sitting in the same California traffic as I do now.
Nope. But those women are usually extremely demanding.
No not at all! A financially independent woman is a very attractive trait so good on her for creating her own success and wealth 🤗
Intimidate me, no. but if she is someone that flaunts it, i would ignore her on principle.. I have no use for stuck up airheads in my life.
Not intimidated. I just prefer to date women who are in a similar place in life as me.
No, they're not the same.
I find those types of girls pretentious 😂
I like girls who are more simple
I wouldn't be intimidated though
Not at all, my exes were better off than me
N. b. my big concern is if the airbag goes off the CZ's will be a big operation to remove
Good for her she is her own person that she is rich is wonderful. I am my own person happy with my own place in life. Not jealous of hers she earned it I earned mine.
Because poor stays with poor, you can't change that
No. The answer is always no. Man, women are so obsessed with being intimidating, it's weird.
No, the thing is that I would be expecting ego and arrogance.
yup... cuz i feel like i'm expected to be that well off or better to be considered... able to date her
If she married me we would file join taxes and make more money and we would both share out money. Why would I hate that?
Unless she stripped her way through college or has daddies money she's massively in debt i doubt even a best seller would cover that debt
Not at all she has a right to to be financially stable.
So no need for me to be intimidated, BT that would inspire me to work even harder. So that I come on top.
You can also add your opinion below!
Girl's Behavior 
Guy's Behavior 
Flirting 
Dating 
Relationships 
Fashion & Beauty 
Health & Fitness 
Marriage & Weddings 
Shopping & Gifts 
Technology & Internet 
Break Up & Divorce 
Education & Career 
Entertainment & Arts 
Family & Friends 
Food & Beverage 
Hobbies & Leisure 
Other 
Religion & Spirituality 
Society & Politics 
Sports 
Travel 
Trending & News 
Most Helpful Opinions