Marilyn Monroe was also severely depressed. It's hard enough dating one man at a time, and you want to multiply those problems by what? 5, 8, 10? No thanks! Absolutely date until you find the right one, but dating so many men at one time is just asking for trouble. For starters you are risking losing one that you really liked or had a deep connection with because people don't like to share. You also run the risk of calling them the wrong name (that is a doosy of a fight) and what if you run into one while you are out on a date with another? Not to mention, how fulfilling of a life would it really be? Waking up with a new man every day? Sure if your sole goal was to prove that you are undeniably desirable then absolutely! You win! But if your long term goal is to find the right guy settle down and have a family than not respecting the people you are seeing is going to have the reverse effect. And let's not confuse facts here, Monroe was so sought after and coveted because she was drop dead gorgeous, but also unattainable. She was not a floozy and was very choosy about who she hung around with and even more so who she dated. It is very easy to cross the line between classy and trashy, and very few woman can do what you are suggesting and remain the former.
It worked for me. But I was honest and up front that I wasn't gonna commit with one guy after giving 15 years to one man.
I wanted to date different people and not just jump in with the first person I met. I wasn't gonna settle. If I was gonna give my heart again it would have to be passionate and a great connection. I wanted to meet someone that my heart couldn't resist. Someone I was physically and emotionally drawn too.
And i knew anyone I was dating also dated others. I didn't have a problem with that. Cuz in the end I wouldn't want them to settle for less than what they want too.
And people can judge all they want saying it's hoeing around. If I met a man that felt that way I wanted to know so I could avoid them at all cost. Too much insecurities with that thinking.
Anyway after dating about 5 men within two years I finally found what I was looking for. The connection we had made me want to just date him. And now we are 5 years into spending our life together.
If you're always jumping from person to person they may never have a chance to and you may end up passing up on one of the best relationship of your life simply cause you jump at the slightest hiccup instead of working through it. I believe too many people in my generation are jumping around too much (it's fun when you're single but long term relationship are definitely superior in my opinion overall). Think the key is to date lots of people when your young until you get a sense of what kinds of things you learn you like/dislike, then as soon as you know, start finding a partner who matches your preferences (and vice versa). There is a lot of variation out there among partners so it's very important to date around and find the best one for you. But when you do, stick with them and enjoy being together to build a great lifestyle together.
Indont know about the marylian part but yeah that's kind of how it seems dating works now, tou try to get to know a group at a time and then when you think you know which one is most compatible go for them
I can't even really talk to TWO guys at once trying to make it lead to a relationship because I feel awful and two-timing, even when we've made no promises to each other or anything. I was hanging out with two guys for a bit in college and it was just lowkey stuff, I'd go to one of their frat's date parties with them or meet up with them at tailgates but I felt so awful like I was leading someone on, and I guess forced myself to decide between them prematurely even though I owed them nothing and loyalty wasn't expected.
I just don't get the idea of dating around and pursuing a relationship with multiple different people and then just dropping the others for the one you like, shows like the bachelor seem so awful to me. I like to choose someone and focus entirely on them, and if it turns out to be a waste of time, that sucks but I'll deal.
That's if you're not dating for a serious relationship. Casual relationship - Yes. Date them all. If you know what you want in a person (Character, etc) and the type of relationship you want to have with the person, you don't need to have several to date to determine that factor. If they don't meet the criteria, you don't make plans or lead one one for a possible follow-up or relationship. It's when you don't know, you fly at the seat of your pants. Dating is to get to know towards a serious relationship and not get to know on false pretense. To me dating should not involve sex or girlfriend or wife duties until both parties are in agreement they want to take the rapport to the next step of a serious relationship. Dating is so blurred these days that it has lost its true purpose "Getting to know" and not "Test drive or rehearse while getting to know".
i do agree with most of what u said, but in my experience, sex is a really important part in Getting To Know process. Let's say if sex only involve in a serious relationship, but unfortunately one party just don't feel the satisfaction even after trying years in that committed relationship, then what's next?
This is my point. We tend not to ask the right questions during the dating process. One of the most important subjects you should talk about is "SEX" How (Likes and dislikes), when (Experience, etc.) What's their mental state (Rape, incest, etc) Social state (Religious beliefs, society labels). All play a role in a person sexuality.
Now, if you're in a relationship you must look at self and not the other person. That's hard to swallow. Most people don't know nothing about sex. Yet, the other is always at fault as to why they are not satisfied. "Well, Amy liked it. My last girlfriend" Or, "The women in my past didn't have a problem."
It's not about the many positions, toys, freakness, etc. All have its place and should be discuss. Make sure you're on the same page regarding.
1. You must learn what make a person tick. Their sexual make up/chemistry 2. You "MUST" sex the mind or mind f%ck. Sex is mental expressed physically. 3. Intimacy. You gotta be creative here. Hugs, cuddle, wash her hair, shave him, play, etc.
Sex is not just man on top and woman on bottom. It's so much more in a serious relationship. You learn each other. That's the beauty of it.
Casual relationships don't care about the other person. Relationships that fall under casual are selfish in nature. Serious relationships is not about you but the other person. How can I be of service, benefit, add to your life. "LOVE" Love is not selfish. You want what's the best interest in a person and that starts in the dating process.
Attraction alone is not a guarantee that the person will be enjoyable sexually. Casual relationships you can take a chance and play Russian Roulette but a serious relationship you should take the time to get to know a person before bonding with them.
i heard about mind f4ck a few years ago but unable to search it further. i might look into this matter. Thank you for your lengthy explanation. i really appreciate your willingness to help.
Google "How to mind f4ck for sex: or "Sexual mind f4ck a woman". Sexual communication is the key to good sex in a serious relationship. Sex is fast, slow, nasty, romantic, fun, etc. It's not just one thing. Hopefully your partner will take the time to learn you as well. Sex shouldn't be job, but organic. Foreplay with a couple is always ongoing.. what you say and do before sex. I always did something to my partner throughout the day or week. The bedroom or wherever we commence our love lustfest was just the icing on the cake :)
Lol if you fuck them all you will never get a quality man to commit to you. If you think this is just a dick buffet for you and you have to bring nothing to the table you will be severely disappointed in 10 years.
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A quality man as in you? I’ll pass 🤣, dick buffet it will be
Then just cut out the first part of the quote. You're just using it as an excuse. Try and blame your slutiness on guys because women can't take responsibility for anything. Just own it and don't use some quote to hide behind.
thats a bad example because inside she was a very conflicted woman with many personal demons which many would say lead to her untimely death. best thing is to just be honest to yourself and to others and see where it goes.
I 100% disagree. If you don't find someone to be consistent or don't go along with them from the beggining, don't start dating them at all and just move on.
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That’s fine, you have you own opinion. Although, I hope you know many guys do date around. If not most.
No. Dumb plan. Dating them “all” changes the context. These guys won’t be the same guys that would have dated you if you weren’t “farting them all” and none of them will treat you the same as if you were t dating them all.
An analogy would be wanted a dog as a pet, so you go to a farm and hang out with a flock of sheep. Makes no sense.
Uhh.. no. I mean, of course if you find someone with whom there’s mutual interest that is consistent, stay with them. However, dating anyone until then is only going to make it that much harder to settle down when you meet someone worthwhile because of mere exposure. You’ll always be comparing your current conquest to previous ones and thinking of how other people were better at xyz.
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Comparing is good. It makes everything better. Thanks to you I know it’s right now.
‘Grass is greener syndrome’ is a new trend popping up in youth as they become overwhelmed with options, especially in the dating world. Leaving them basically unable to be content with what they have as they always think they could find something better. Which isn’t always the case but if you’re cool with riding the carousel till you’re dead- you do you.
Women are a high risk for everything from false accusations to sexually transmitted diseases. I wouldn't even approach women today much less date or marry one and aside from false accusations and man hating, this is an excellent explanation as to why. Any man that messes with women today in the US or the west is playing Russian Roulette with a fully loaded gun. This soon to be 34 year solid MGTOW Monk isn't going near women, not even where they congregate.
I agree, dating doesn’t mean your sleeping around just getting to know someone. Guys do that bs all the time. So why not, at least your not nasty with it like guys usually are.
That's a vague statement, because you can be consistently good, bad, reliable, unreliable... I can see how one would disagree because of that, but why would you agree if you don't know what they're implying?
Depends on your goals. If you just want to fuck around and have fun sure. If you're looking for long-term commitment then it's probably not a good strategy.
A good guy, who has his life together won't waste hair time if you want to play the field, and the same should go for women. Do you want a relationship or to fuck, make that clear in the beginning.
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You do realize that dating is literally playing the field right? Duh?
Just going on dates? Yeah, that is fine. If you are getting intimate with all of them, though, you will quickly find that the guys will just treat you like a pincushion.
