Why do black men bother trying to date a woman outside their race?

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why would you date someone whose family is very likely against their daughter dating a black guy? or is most likely not into you either? isn’t it awkward when the girl he’s trying to date mentions that her family is racist? why be in a relationship that would make it more likely that people would commit hate crimes against you and her? there’s also many other psychological and social issues that happen from the relationship and the family. even strangers especially old ones would stare or give dirty looks. what’s the point? #interracial my ass

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

People like you are the ones who often stay single and never married. Your attitude and callous remarks say enough. There is no such thing as race. They were interested in getting to know you and all you care about is what OTHER PEOPLE would think? Really?

"why would you date someone whose family is very likely against their daughter dating a black guy?" First of all, what should matter is what YOU think. I can see it if they were a drug dealer or pimp. But just because he's so-called Black? Talk about being racist, period. Hating on other human beings is also hate for yourself. Where are the other stellar men looking for you? Probably not even interested in you or your family's nasty attitude because they do not want to be associated with that.

"or is most likely not into you either?" Uh, did you even bother to befriend these guys to get to know them? Men are men. If they see one guy turned down, they won't care what 'race' he is. All they will see is that you shot men down, so they will avoid you too.

"isn’t it awkward when the girl he’s trying to date mentions that her family is racist?" At that point, he isn't focusing on the family, he is focusing on you. He will judge you for your actions. Not your family. Your family will only be judged by how they influenced your attitudes. Not just by how they will treat him. Any man who doesn't have his woman's support would rather not have that woman at all. Some may replace her.

"why be in a relationship that would make it more likely that people would commit hate crimes against you and her?" A crime is a crime. Since when are some crimes okay? None is okay. So are you saying you wouldn't defend your family? Then I say your weak and that you only care about yourself. Unless you like being single like me, then, by all means, do what you got to do to protect yourself. But if you expect to have a family you better be on board, doesn't matter what 'race' your spouse and father of your children are.

" there’s also many other psychological and social issues that happen from the relationship and the family. even strangers especially old ones would stare or give dirty looks. what’s the point?" Look, as somebody who always gets that, people will judge and look and give you dirty stares regardless. You will always live and deal with that. It won't go away just because. There are no social or psychological issues by dating another human being or having children. Look, you are entitled to date whoever you please. But you have no right to treat others like garbage just because they are not your 'desired' race. I doubt this is somebody you want to be from how you're sounding. But you also sound unhopeful, bitter, and resentful because maybe, just maybe, those ' black' men are who you desire but your racist family won't accept them. So now you think pleasing them would make everything better. It doesn't. There is no such thing as interracial people. They are just people with unique skin tones or the same. Don't do it because of the 'trend'. Have that because you want to be with that person, and not because of race, skin, or anything on the surface. Now unless they have a culture or habit you are wary about. I think it warrants to at least get to know these guys. Again, you don't have to date.

curiousme33 · Accepted Answer

Black men are very self-hating. So they try to date everyone who does not look like them. Also it feeds their ego because their mindset is still set in white supremacy and the idea that "black is bad, white (or closer to white) is right". Very sad.

ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

Because we can.

And on top of that, this is being openly racist towards black people in general. On top of that it isn't their decision to make. Contrary to what you think, women of other ethnicities can actually like black guys and want them over another race or their own race.

Hate crimes like that are very rare to go with that. Giving a second look of what you are typing here, I am sure you are just a troll.

I am a biracial (half black and half white) guy meaning I am a by product of an interracial couple. And you know what? I am going to date women outside my race because there is nothing stopping me and because I fucking can.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Accepted Answer

When you don't love yourself strong enough nor your people and find beauty in your own people who are a direct reflection of you, you tend to be obsess with people that don't look nothing like you and find beauty in them and desire to be with them because you irrationally feel in your own deluded mind they can somehow bring happiness to your life and make you feel like you don't belong to your own people because you're with them.

CasaNorba · Answer

most of them are very naive, they believe that no women out there can be as bad as black women.

I find it kinda stupid how I've heard a few of them go as far as saying white women love black men more than black women do. not realizing that most white women dont actually "love" them, they instead love the "once you go black you'll never go back" hype they get from being with them. they think that being with a black man makes them HOOD so they have something to brag about. such as making their exes jealous, put fear on other men, make their exes and their other female friends jealous.

this to me is a pathetic, is like they're not realizing how much they're being exploited of the stigma society has put on them

ItalienischeJunge · Answer

I am a white gay male, and in my experience black men have very tentative ties to their own community. I think they desire validation from white men/women and fetishize whiteness. I have, unprompted by me, heard them diss their own people. I have been ardently persued by black men I have no interest in. I have met in my lifetime only 2 black gay males that celebrate and love their own people. I love my own people (I am Italian) and am very attracted to them, so I think the idea that 'black is beautiful' as a catchphrase but their actions of 'white is better/sexier' is a disturbing mindset. I make no bones about it, because I am am gay means I find certain men sexually attractive. It doesn't mean I find all men so just because they have a penis. The number of woke folks that will claim it is bigotry if you will not sleep with someone you have no attraction to is an extremely annoying trend of the times that I do not subscribe to.

scarlett774 · Answer

Maybe they just want to date someone for who they are and who they like instead of just dating someone for the sake of their race. If you love someone if like someone, race shouldn’t be a determining factor, date someone because you like them for who they are not the color of their skin.

DCooper · Answer

Hell, if we could get the various races to all go interracial for a generation or two, people who refuse to take accountability for their own lives would have to find some new excuse to bicker and blame their problems on someone else.

NamerOfStars · Answer

This is why most black men these days don't date in the 1950's. Times have changed. Are they where they should be? Not yet. But they'll never get there if the boundaries never get pushed.

Reign_Interrupted · Answer

Because love wins. My dad and mom are still together despite my Nonna hating my dad. He's black/Puerto Rican and she calls him and me and my brothers and sisters mutts. If it weren't for interracial dating my dad nor myself and siblings would not be here. I'm a mixed bag and I love it!

Jac2424 · Answer

Ha?  People can date whom ever they like.  Why would race be a factor at all?  Weird question...

Just_a_human · Answer

What about for black guys that aren't attracted to black girls? What are they supposed to do then?

OlderThanILook · Answer

Just for the record, nobody in my predominantly white community is racist towards me. Just gonna leave that here.

Jacked_Jones · Answer

You wanna fix that? Turn off your Probaganda machine called TV.

NerdInDenial · Answer

It's because love and desire will always find a way. For some, it's about overcoming the obstacles and the journey and the fight.

blondfrog · Answer

I mean I've seen quite a good amount who found success in it, so why hate?

Agem123 · Answer

Umm, because they want to? Why would someone give a fuck about what other people say if they're happy?

zagor · Answer

If she's not into him, why would she date him? And most families are more open about who their kids date than 70 years ago.

_Just_A_girl_ · Answer

Should tey not bother to. It's not race its skin tone we are the human race!

FishTwixOwO · Answer

People who love each other want to procreate. Relationships aren't always some dark age political scheme.

Anonymous · Answer

They do it a lot if if she really wants to be with him then the family will accept it, I was with a black woman, there was no real issues because they were fine with it and I’m white

007kingifrit · Answer

well its not like he's going to stick around. black men never do commitment anyways lol

AzureGirl · Answer

Because racism shouldn’t exist by now.

magiusX26 · Answer

because he dating her, not her family

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