Have you ever mistakenly thought someone was attracted to you or hitting on you and you were 100% wrong?

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aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

Maybe. There was this one guy who showed many signs of liking me back in high school, i. e. constantly staring at me, always wanting to be near me and wanting to talk to me, getting shy and quiet when it was just us two, getting very jealous whenever he overheard me talking to another friend about a guy I thought was cute, etc. One of my friends said she was pretty sure he liked me. But, he had gotten a girlfriend while all of this was going on and I knew and liked her as a friend too, so I didn't want to get in the middle of that and only talked to him in a friendly manner, which I assumed he was okay with since he had other female friends and seemed to enjoy talking to me.

Well, one day I saw him on FB and decided to say hi and ask how he was. He ended up blocking me, and I have no clue why. I'm not even sure that it was anything personal since I never did anything to him that I can think of and our last interaction before that was pleasant, but who knows? People can be strange and it could've just been him playing games the whole time he was acting interested.

scotcheggs · Accepted Answer

not necessarily hitting on me but i thought there might have been a possibility they were attracted to me so i shoot my shot cuz i liked them as well. yeah turned out it was one sided 😷

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Not exactly but have been blind to others advances.

At one point I met up with a female friend while my parents went shopping, she said she wished I could go to hers and curl up under the covers with her. I was like "yeah. But I can't keep my parents waiting" and left.

Another time a girl was having relationship troubles and was really into me but every advance e she made I just encouraged her to focus on her relationship. We were facetiming every night til god knows what hour. Hanging out like 4 times a week. We had this creepy friend who was into her and kept making advances like putting his arm round her and asking for a "birthday kiss" and shed say she was curious to how shed react if I did something like that.

wasn't until we went to a party together, she kissed me and told me she wanted to have her way with me in the bathroom that I then clicked that she genuinely wants me. We didn't do that that night, waited til she was single then had a fling but didn't last.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

I think nearly every human on the planet at one point or another has mistakenly thought this about someone in their lives.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Oh yeah... more times than I care to admit :|

I would think a guy is flirting with me or likes me, only to find out he already has a girlfriend/wife, likes someone else, or he just wants to be friends with me. Or worse, they're just natural flirts... y'all know the type: they flirt without even realizing it or it's just their nature.

Which is why I no longer assume anyone likes me unless they point blank tell me, "Hey, I'm interested in you!" No mixed signals or falsely getting my hopes up, lol

GoodManDave · Answer

Maybe?

I usually happen to think back and realize that they may have been flirting, usually hours later... but most of the time, I don't think that way at all.

If I think its happened, and I know her well enough to see her after that, I watch, see how she interacts with others... if it seems like she's still flirting, I might flirt back if the opportunity arises and I think she's cute... I think if it comes up, and she says it WASN'T flirting, it was a really good move for when she wants to legitimately flirt. But some of those times, if it ever comes up, she usually denies it; usually with a repulsed look on her face. Sometimes I'll be like, "ok, my mistake." but sometimes I'm a bit skeptical that it wasn't. Like, if it wasn't... a lot of guys would make that mistake.

I don't assume if it's something that's easily dismissed as "they're just being nice." If she waves at me, or comes up to talk to me, if a woman holds the door open for me, I'm not like, "Damn, she wants me BAD!" But if she crosses the room, with 10 other chairs, squeezes next to me on a long bench (with plenty of space not to be close), says she has a splinter, or she's cold... gives me her hands, and she's in her 20's... I might later think... "hey... maybe she was flirting!"

Usually, she has to be pretty obvious - like I have to have a good sense she's "safe to flirt with" before I flirt with her, because in my experience, most women haven't been safe or fun to flirt with.

Jaded_heart · Answer

yes😂
It happened once. He was teasing me, using my pen, drawing in my book while I was writing, asking me to sit beside him, texting me every day and even calling me love. 😐

I thought he had a thing for me but all this time he was dating someone else AND NEVER TOLD ME OR ANYONE ELSE beside his sister.

Then one day when me, the girl (let's call her mary), the guy and the sister were talking, mary went like "he's my boo." My face deadass went like
😐🤨. And she kept going "he's my baby." And he was like "yeah I am." I was cringing but I was also like wtf. Then he said to mary"don't worry, she's (referring to me) like a sister to me. " It was SO AWKWARD AND CRINGEY🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

I then started noticing that he's like this with other girls too. He once went to a fancy fair with a girl, insisted to pay for everything, wiped her lips with his handkerchief and was holding her hand a lot. He did this while he was dating mary.

I don't know why he does this but after that I keep my distance from him.

Anonymous · Answer

Women tend to beat around the bush if they are interested in a guy (or they are too direct... usually when drunk)

More often I have mistakenly thought a girl was not interested in me and just being friendly/nice. This happened when I was younger and retrospect I realize they giving me signals. I remember a hot girl I knew in college for a long time approached me when I was working in a bar. I always thought she wasn’t interested and just saw me as a friend. I didn’t bother asking her out (figured she was the type who would take advantage of nice guys) but I was always friendly chatting with her.

But that evening she looked me right in the eyes and said “you know what I’m really sick of dating assholes guys” and I was like “well good you will be happier that way”. What she was really saying was she interested in dating and hooking up with me because I’m a genuine nice guy. That’s something I thought that never happened and even at the time I thought we were just making conversation. But I found out later from a friend that she was hoping to ask her to go with me home that night. I didn’t because I thought I was friendzoned. But I wasn’t in that moment. So go figure.

Anonymous · Answer

Yep and it turned out to be the worst situation of my life

I saw a girl who I stopped talking to that I used to work with. When we worked together I developed a crush on her and always found reasons to be near her practically everyone in the store knew I liked her. So one day I put my nerves aside and told her how I felt which she replied she didn’t have feelings like that for me that I reminded her too much of her best friend cause he was also biracial. So I just hung my head and tried to avoid her well she ended up going to everyone in the store asking why I was avoiding her and what she did wrong. Eventually we started talking again and she ended up coming over to my house she told me twice that she felt it was meant for her to be in my life. In that moment my heart felt love I kinda wish that she wouldn’t have said that cause that allowed me to let my love for her completely out. But days later she gave me a ride home and told me she wouldn’t date me if I was the last guy on earth. She actually wanted me to give her contact information to another guy we work with and she told me all the things sexually she wanted to do with him. I was extremely hurt and honestly I still haven’t let it go because it’s one of those traumatic events each time I tried to escape she would reel me back in. After she rejected me for the second time I started avoiding her and not talking to her and she goes I’m not gonna leave you alone until you talk to me. So I talked to her and she told all the managers I was harassing her then she proceeded to turn everyone at work against me. I really have been the same since

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

Yes. I jerked off that someone. Afterwards, I thought were cool. When I gave him my phone number days later, he got up, crumbled the peice of paper with my number on it and threw it in the trash and left for home. (We were in school at that time. I was 13 and he was 15. We were on the bus - I handed him a sticky note with my number on it - when he received it, he crumbled it up in his hand - I thought I was finally going to be with him - once his stop came, he got up, threw the sticky note into the trash on the bus and left - I thought he was going to text me when I got home, so I waited - Only realizing that he had threw the sticky note away.)

The next day or so, i heard he got a girlfriend. I gave up completely.

el_Te_de_la_Rosa · Answer

Yes.

A gay who's very protective and seemed like jealous when I said that I found a man handsome.
A boyfriend (of someone else) who remembered the first time we met, trying to get near me to the point everyone knew. I had to declare many times he's not my type.
A husband (of someone else) who keep looking for another wife/new wife whatsoever. Very inappropriate.
A single man who wanted nothing but hookups.

Besdie the gay one, they all are interested... expecting for free milk only.

StephenCF · Answer

Yes, many times 😩 Even into my adulthood, the source of my confidence in asking someone out was the belief that they were interested. I was very observant of the signs such as physical contact, compliments, etc and felt certain that these girls liked me.

There was even one girl from when I was 16 that I referred to as my girlfriend to many people, even when I hadn’t asked her out yet, because I was so damn sure she would be once I finally got around to it over the phone (you can guess the outcome and embarrassment I faced afterwards with the people I gave misinformation to) 😥💔

Anonymous · Answer

I am not sure. What do u guys think about this: I met him in a store where he works. He flirted with me repeatedly (or so I thought.. I don't know) Every time I’d go to the store he’d flirt with me. one day he even gave me his number. I never asked or hinted that I wanted it which makes what I’m about to say weird. So anyway, few days later I text him hi it’s so and so from xyz. Immediately he seemed.. hmm I don't know.. friendly
(as in “being-cordial-to-an-old-lady-and-not-some-girl -you’ve—been- flirting- with” friendly) very brief and yeah not interested. I felt sooo confused and even felt like I was some crazy chick to even text him even though HE gave his number to ME. Needless to say that was our first and last convo. I never texted him again.

domo0906 · Answer

Yes. At my work there was this really cute ups driver who comes by everyday. When he comes in he’ll stay a while and talk to me and he would help me move boxes around the office even if it’s not ups related. He’ll remind me and ask me if I had any packages going out. He remembers everything I tell him like where to move some of the boxes and he comes back a few days later and help me do the thing without me asking him to do so. I completely fell for him and eventually gave him my number. He doesn’t text me and disappeared from my route. Then comes back a few weeks later and asks me to y’all outside and says he has girlfriend. I felt like he kinda led me on by staying to talk to me or help me move stuff around.

Anonymous · Answer

Yep, 3 times in the same year...
Had a really bad breakup, a couple years back, it was a bad time already so that was the straw that broke the camel's back... went through a few months of bad depression and then finally went to a big social event I was invited to and "fell in love" with the first person who was nice to me...
Got super clingy and took them being nice as they liked me... then after being "in love" with them the moment they rejected me I was fine and all the lovey dovey emotions disappeared... proceed to do this 2 more times...
Cut the cycle with a combo of counselling and 2 of my best mates holding an intervention XD

Espresso-Grande · Answer

No. I always assume guys are just being friendly or they are flirtaceous with every female. I don't assume they're hitting on me. A guy would need to be upfront and tell me he is hitting on me , or I'll assume he's just being friendly

ChiTown33 · Answer

No, because i wouldn't be able to tell if a woman was hitting on me to begin with. Every woman that i thought was has rejected me when i asked them out. So now i just assume no woman is hitting on me. It's just easier. If they have interest they better just say it if they want things to proceed because i'm not playing this game anymore.:)

Anonymous · Answer

I haven’t, but I had a female friend wrongly assume I was in love with her and cut me off, I think she’s heavily influenced by her bully friends that are telling her I was?, and I’ll never understand why people think I did or why she seems to hate me just because she thinks I’m in love with her (again, I’m not)

nopedydoo · Answer

yeah in 8th grade i had this massive crush on a guy and i thought he liked me back. turns out he only saw me as a friend and the entire time i had failed to see that he was just a flirty and charismatic person with everyone he talked to

Anonymous · Answer

Once I thought this guy liked me cause he was staring at me like everyday in class from across the room.. until I realized IIIII was the one staring at HIM everyday and he probably just kept catching me doing it lmao

G3tAClue · Answer

It used to happen to me a lot more and always with guys who already had girlfriends. Is that a thing? Do guys with girlfriends still purposely initiate flirting with other women?

dublin_sexyeyes0 · Answer

Yeah lol... a girl who works in a local shop. Our chats seemed productive whenever i was there. She even gave me her number. Was when i suggested a night out for drink she then said politely, she had a boyfriend... ah well. We still chat when i go in

menina · Answer

That has never happened to me. I know for sure that racists are not attracted to black women. And I'm surrounded by them.

Poppymarie · Answer

My gut feelings are usually right but there have been times where I never found out if there were actually hitting on me or not

hellacray · Answer

Of course. There were times where women seem to show interest then when I ask her out or sometimes even if I just compliment her she say she got a boyfriend.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, this has happened to me in the past , especially when I would have a female friend and I never told her I had a crush and lost contact with her

devilish-cutie · Answer

not really, just some that lied they dont like me but their actions spoke more than their words

Daniel3035 · Answer

No with women it's the case of she hints to you and then says no because she wanted the fake self esteem boost self validation and the thrill of being chased.

SaraSmithishere · Answer

No, but there were a few occasions in college where men who were rude, mean, unattractive but beacause I talked to them one time in class, they seemed to think I wanted to have sex with them.

Hanzyxw · Answer

Yes I used to think my violin teacher loved me and when I confessed he only answered “my name with...”

here2helpuALL · Answer

Yes. Girl in high school and I was certain she was head over heels for me and when I approached her it turned out she was a lesbian

Jaimie2001 · Answer

Yes, a few times. They were either just friendly and not interested or had a SO already (aka girlfriend)

BCA6010 · Answer

Yes, though not recently. Back in my late teens, I did.

Prettysammie · Answer

No. Maybe I’m naive but I always think guys just want to be friends. They almost always end up wanting sex.

OliviaZoey · Answer

Yes once. But he was playing a game with my heart tho

charlesG · Answer

I guess someone, who ever said that. Just what are you talking about. And who are you? What, and whare are you? Are you afraid to face me? When did this happen?

gemgem · Answer

Probably but I never really learned for certain.  More often a girl is interested in me who is not on my radar, then I become interested in her but she has moved on and doesn't like me anymore.

Shuri · Answer

Only once, and it went horribly wrong because I decided to ask him on a date only to discover he was married LOL, I was mortified for like a whole month and couldn't move past it lol

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Nope. More often than not that's a female thing, thinking every tine a guy breathes around them he's trying to. hit on them. Guys usually need something more concrete.

Nonfrivolous · Answer

Every time a cute guy smiles back to me Oh god, here we go again

Avicenna · Answer

Not really. The other way around has definitely happened to me a number of times.

LifeEqualsLove · Answer

Yes and deep down I still think they might have like me lol

AD240pCharlie · Answer

If I'm not interested in another person, the idea of them being interested in me is usually a thought that never even crosses my mind.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

No, but I have been oblivious to being hit on to the point that she finally just sat on my lap to get my attention.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes lol there was this guy i thought he had a thing for me since he was always there and gave me attention but i was wrong he was gay.

NewZion · Answer

Nope. Unless they drop stupidly obvious hints. Then again, they could just be a big flirt.

Anonymous · Answer

I've had my suspicions but never confronted the person about it. Makes things kind of awkward when it's a person you work with, lol.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes.   Which is why I don't even try to play that guessing game anymore. I just always assume it's platonic. Err on the side of caution.

DiegoO · Answer

Hmmmm, no. I don't think even notice if a woman likes me or not because I have more important things to do, like getting a job.

BackAgain602 · Answer

Oh yes; it happens. It's better for me to realize that I am wrong than to be wondering how he feels all the time.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Never... total opposite in fact I've been hit on and not noticed

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

Unfortunately yes I've experienced a situation like that before

Dchrls78104 · Answer

I'm too old and too introverted to worry about it now.

ElDiablo666 · Answer

Some women do this, even when only given a simple compliment.

naomihillariage · Answer

Yep. He was gay but hot. He had that stereotypical gay guy personality though.

userna186858 · Answer

yes , it's sad :/ , but we can't do anything about that😅

YHL6965 · Answer

Not really, I'm more the kind of person that thinks "she's just being friendly"

SuccessfulHornDog · Answer

Yes, and its always surprising to find out that you're wrong

DonCachondo · Answer

Yes, and it pisses me off when girls try to tell you it's obvious when they're interested!

scooogy · Answer

I usually hope they don't, as I rather mind my own business.

tjbyrd39 · Answer

At least five times a day. But only have be rigjt onve a day🧐

Asianguy123 · Answer

a lot of times... I am gay and there is a guy who stare at me in subway and I try to talk after we get off the train he freaks out.

Anonymous · Answer

I can't say for sure. Because it is possible she change her mind. She was just digging the attention and got caught.

Saddamsam · Answer

Maybe not I guess if it had happened then couldn't identify it

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