I think it's part nature, part nurture. There's definitely some truth to the argument that it's an expression of a primal desire for male dominance. However, I think history and social science have shown far too much social conditioning for me to believe nurture (the messages we get in society that praise youth in women and submission and amplify male dominance and leadership) have nothing to do with it. But people prefer easy, simple explanations of "it's all fertility!" Yes and no.
But objective analysis of sexist social orders aside, women are valued for youthful beauty and submission the most. Not only is our media completely obsessed with youth in women and our archetypes of beauty most dominated by young models (this helps reinforce what we believe is beautiful), but younger women are far easier to control, manipulate, and often are naturally more submissive to and look up to older male romantic partners. If one is looking for a "traditional" gender role situation, this gives an inherent advantage, as older men have more money and resources and younger women are also more likely to be moldable and reliant on an older man who has more money and resources. And yes, if you want like 15 biological children, a younger woman has more time to have them safely. However, science has proven that sperm age and deteriorate in quality with age as well and can cause genetic and fertility problems as well, which no one talks about for some *mysterious* reason (see first point about objective reality and sexism).
To be fair, I do understand that the level of maturity and readiness for relationships among younger men can be devastating and annoying af, so older men will also appear more mature and ready for serious relationships. Very young women should be careful with this, as many older men specifically target young women for sexual or casual relationships or may want intimacy without serious commitments like marriage or a child from you. Some men who don't want either are very attracted to young women because of the lack of "pressure" for serious commitment... because they don't want one. This is a lot easier to pull with young, carefree women who will engage in lighthearted, casual relationships for good and bad reasons. A lot of men are chasing youth and freedom in young women. It's exciting, nostalgic, and fun to be with someone so young.
On behalf of all the happily aging old bitches, I just want the young women out there to be careful. Be aware of what you want, honor yourselves and be assertive in relationships, learn about what emotional abuse and manipulation looks and feel like, keep therapists on deck, and don't let any of these motherfuckers run you. If you can do all that, feel free to have all the ddlg sex you want, I dont care lololol. xD
Like, all women should be united. I'm not concerned with older men who specifically want young women, because chances are I'm sooo not the kind of partner they're looking for. 20 year old me and 30 year old me are two completely different women. A dude who prefers 20 yo me ain't looking for today's me. Can't be, impossible. Older men who actively prefer to date young women are most likely not compatible with me and are not looking for me. Enjoy your age gaps and live your best lives :)
Also, older women, don't be afraid to do the same! I feel like I always end up in situations where I have these super young guys getting puppy dog crushes on me. I usually avoid that, but maybe the universe is trying to tell me something, I don't know lmao
I am not sure what you are talking about. I don't find most older men to be better looking than men in their 20s. And for sure there are people over 35 that look good from both genders. It is just that old men have more chances to get with young women vs the opposite because men have less expectations when it comes to financial and social status. If a woman is beautiful and has a nice personality that is usually enough for her, some women have high expectations from men when it comes to money or how high of position they have in their career, and old men are usually in that spot where they have some financial success.
So older women are a bit at a disadvantage when it comes to looks, plus they tend to be the ones having the kids after a divorce. So usually it isn't the man that comes in the same package with kids. Most men under 30 aren't that sure what they want, many aren't prepared to have their own kids, let alone raise someone else's kids. So generally older men fit into young female criteria better than older women fit into young male criteria.
For me it is kinda hot from around 16 ,,17 I babysitter for this lady and some how got hooked up with some of her friends that were in there 40s it wasn't until I was 27 when I went out with a girl my age he was 25 I think but older women were fun they love to do stuff had lots of energy today girls my age are home body's they don't like to even be out side I need fresh air my body moving breathing being alive lol the guys I work with lot of my friends are my age or younger some how through friend I meet younger girls and they like to do things go places they are smart can't. Talk about anything and have energy they are BEAUTIFUL lovers Beautiful people and I can't believe how many younger than me start to flirt out of the blue now that I think about it it is kinda hot but it's only hot to a point I went out with a 21 year old it was great she was great. So smart just down to earth beautiful in so many ways but there came a time where she wanted to drop out of school it's as if she want to be more of a daughter than a girl friend I think that's. Where I have to say no we split but are still good friends but just friends I need to ask her how she sees it i like this question. Can I ask how do to you see it
Younger women are more physically attractive, have more of a window for having kids, typically it correlates with fewer sexual partners as the aesthetic of inexperience, and generally their behaviour and mannerisms are more attractive.
Women want different things and it turns out to lean more toward older guys. The behaviour and mannerisms, the aesthetic of being experienced and capable, Resources I. e financial security, access to his lifestyle.
@Broken_doll Most of my patients were not involved with incest, but a few had been subjected to sexual abuse when they were younger. Part of the problem was their guilt at being aroused by something that they did not want.
I'm younger my man's older I absolutely love him. for some reason we have so much in common and it's such an age Gap that you wouldn't think this was true but he and I are very compatible
My attraction is more towards the personality and the maturity. I look at some younger men and I think oh my goodness they are hot looking but then I can't stand some of the nonsense they say. I don't like reckless and younger men do tend to do things that are bit reckless
but again every once in awhile you find a younger man who are mature who are not reckless do not speak nonsense and do not sound childish. Just as at times you find older men who are reckless speak nonsense and are irritating.
Now as to why men would want a younger woman. I know my husband enjoys my quirkiness and enthusiasm. I know he enjoys my sex drive But he also finds me mature and he believes me to be responsible and reliable. I think he also sees me as fertile as he has mentioned a few times that he would love to give me a baby.
I'm actually engaged to a guy about 16 years younger than me, so for me it's in reverse. Haha. Ironically, before my fiance I would refuse to date anyone even a little bit younger than me. I thought they'd all be too immature, not willing to commit, he wouldn't be ready for kids, he'd be in too different of a place in life, etc. It actually took a lot for me to go on a first date with my now fiance. However, after I was willing to give it a real try it didn't take too long for me to realize that oftentimes age is just a number. I quickly found my fiance was very mature and totally willing to commit when it came time. There certainly are ways he was in a different stage of life than me (he's finishing his grad school, he has pretty different pop culture references, etc.) However, that ended up not being nearly as big of a deal as I thought it would be. When I told him I couldn't wait to have kids he was 100% on the same page with me (and now I'm pregnant by the way!). I still think I wouldn't have had a good relationship with most younger guys, but I'm glad I was willing to have an open mind with my fiance. Otherwise I would have never met the man who will soon be my forever husband!
Oh man... you opened a can of worms with this one 😅
Honestly I started noticing the strong attraction to girls younger than me when I was in my early 20s. But by mid 20s, those same girls (late teens to early 20s) were even hotter to me. That attraction has only gotten stronger. My age here is wrong too, im in my mid 30s. I still mostly date girls in their late teens and early 20s.
The reason theyre so hot to me is because young girls look physically near perfection. Not to say everyone has to look like a model but everything is sexier when girls are young. I wish it wasn't that way and nature made older women hotter but thats just the way it is. No wrinkles, prettier skin, perkier and bouncier tits, tighter bodies, tighter and wetter pussy, and an overall cuteness and sweetness that drives me crazy. And the feeling when some young little thing calls me daddy? Insanely hot, nothing beats that. These are the reasons a lot of us love young girls. Fertility is huge too, as we get to grow up and mature as men but still get a girl who isn't in a rush to have babies because she has plenty of time to enjoy being with us and letting us lead. And its natural for her to follow an older man which is what most men want.
Im now ready to find my wife and I dont mind her aging once we are married and I love her and I'm building a life together with her. But she has to be really young when we start dating/when we get married. It's a better investment for the guy and the beauty is that she will always be much younger than he is, so that dynamic in the relationship continues. Older men can provide security, maturity, and are more likely to be into serious relationships than young men in their early 20s.
Younger women are more fertile and men of all ages are attracted to fertility. That doesnāt give an excuse for a 45 yr old man to chase a 16 yr old. The vast majority of older guys can control themselves but that impulse is often there.
Older man men are usually more established and have more resources to take care of the woman the baby. Younger women feel an attraction towards that. But that also doesnāt an excuse for women to be worthless freeloaders/gold diggers. But unfortunately that also happens.
But Iāve always seen exceptions to the rule. My long time HS best friend has this weird thing for older women. Heās 39 and his girlfriend is 50. Also there are sugar mommas babysitting f boys out there. Adult HS teachers are willing to risk their entire reputations and lives to sleep with 14 yr boys.
So this is not all cut and dry. But I did pleasantly notice in my late 20s and early 30s I had a lot easier time scoring pretty girls in their early 20s vs when I was their age. Anyway.
How old are we talking? I'm personally not attracted to any guys under 30, which I think is because a relationship I had in my 20s turned really sour and I realised how... naive we were, in a way. People have always pointed out how mature and wise beyond my years I am. And yet... I found my late 20s/early 30s to be the time where I became an adult. So I personally think that guys that are younger than me are likely... Well, lacking some life experience, in a way. That being said, my life has been very eventful as a whole and I always preferred to spend time with people that were older than I am.
I guess those that perceive this are the same people that perceive blonde and blue eyes represent beauty and that brown skin and curvy is considered fat. 😂
You are a woman with her own mind, just as well all have individual perceptions and thoughts. What works for some, don't necessarily work for others. As long as two people are of legal and consenting ages, to hell what others think. Do what works for you. I personally have always found mature women attractive. Not no f**king cougar bs, cause age does not determine a person level of maturity.
many women are in their physical pick for having kids between 18 and 30/35. sure they can have them afterwards but typically need. medically help or to be in great physical form.
many men start to hit their stride in their 30's as they mature mentally. if they also maintain a good career path and good physical form.
To me, as I am that younger woman with an older man:
older men that can land a younger woman are in good shape, financially stable, know how to be romantic, and have the Skills necessary to make a younger woman want to be with them and how to keep her happy.
Older men are not focused on their needs and wants as much as a younger guy. They realize Selfishness is what ruins relationships.
And an older man that does land a younger woman is usually not fat, lazy or stupid. He exudes sexiness and desirability that all women are looking for in a man.
I think in movies it's like a submissive- dominance thing. Personally I'm almost the exact opposite. When I think about most of my actress crushes I though of in Jr high and some of the girls I'd love to fuck now, most are mid 30's to late 40's. Not sure why but just my go to and I love it. Here are some of my favorite female celebrity crushes:
Cameron Diaz (so hot in bad teacher!!)Angelina JolieMr. & Mrs. Smith (Angelina)
When your a young woman your ignorance has a way of getting you into situations that you would never think about as a mature woman. You are perceived as sexy and beautiful but as a woman you feel sexier and more beautiful within as you age. Men are sexier when they are older because they arenāt driven strictly by the brain in between their legs and they can actually appreciate a good woman. Which is why young women sleep with older men and older women sleep with young men if not interested in a long term relationship.
A lot of traits that men find attractive in women has to do with fertility and youthfulness whereas a lot of traits that women find attention in men has to do with characteristics like stability that tend to come with age and experience.
Also I think we live in a world where kids are pampered for a longer time and people go through extended adolescence, which is why a lot of the desirable traits in men take even longer to develop nowadays.
Quite an interesting question I suppose. The vast stereotype of what is a men and woman is in different agee. Take a good look at what men look like in 20-30. Like overgrown teenagers. What girls do at early teens. Try to look mature and elegant. What woman at 20-30 tend to look like?(my humble appology to the 35% excluded from this stereotype my dear ladies.) Like sex object with chest and thights exposed. Overweight and generally like ruined hipster with bad attitude. From what I've observed in media. Woman after 30ish are (if all life goes right) mother figure. so mothers are not supposed to look hot. and Men remain themselves Gentleman.
Men are valuable for their stability , money , women are for their body... That's how it works.. Girls will tell you it's maturity but it's not cause many young guys are mature too... working hard for future and all but girls will always go for older guy than him calling the first guy immature even if he isn't... Also older guys tend to have more free time and girls love attention so much... Maturity to girls is difficult to actual maturity.. A younger guy who's working hard cannot give a girl full time... but a more older guy can that's more mature to girls... I haven't made the rules but seen it many times in my life or others... Earlier I used to fight it... Now I have accepted it...
i never found older men "so hot." i'm 21 and won't date any men past 30. most of the 50 year old guys who hit on me have beer guts and jiggly asses. i stare wide-eyed at all the 25-year-olds with no luck, and then of course there is some old dude giving me a toothy grin. no amount of money will make up for lack of physical/emotional attraction. sorry
Because with women attraction is purely physical. But with men, it's sort of a mix between physical and societal attractiveness.
If a woman is hot, she's hot. Her career and social standing don't really effect that. But with a man, career and social standing can mean a lot to attractiveness.
Because 30y men tend to be more emotionally mature and further along in their careers, they have a higher social and career standing. And at 30 they generally still haven't quite lost their looks. Some start balding but most men really start hitting a "wall" around 35-40. This is because wrinkles and imperfections are seen as "rugged handsomeness" in men.
Women however only have to care about physical beauty, and with women, physical beauty is heavily based upon a youthful appearance due to peak fertility windows. So women peak physically around 21-23. And the slowly decline from there.
For the younger women it's often because her own father was not who she needed him to be and so she looks for that older man to help guide her in ways her father did not.
Another reason is because younger men are still figuring themselves out and still learning a lot of things and so they often end up doing stupid things. So girls are attracted the maturity, intelligence, and emotional security of an older man.
Because, if you think about it, it is the perfect primal setup. A young fertile women that has her body to offer a experienced man with much more knowledge and experience of life to secure the you AND the child if you get pregnant by him. Itās NOT the money. Itās his knowledge, his sternness, his life experience, his dominance, his dad role that is VERY intriguing for a lot of women cause, again, it is a perfect primal trade off for both him and her. Donāt get mad at it.
Iāll never understand. First thought in my mind is, oh is that her dad/uncle 🤷āāļø I prefer age gaps of 0-3 years. Anything over 5 is too weird imho
Ok younger women look so great with all the unique characteristics but when they hit 30,40 they loosen up their features that makes them less attractive because they get to have wrinkles and other skin damage. For older men they are ultimately hot, I think men who are older by that time look masculine and all saucy they are just so damn attractive. I am 18 but I am attracted to older guys about 27-30years men💓 they are to die for
Women are at their prime in their 20s while men peek in attractiveness around their 40s. For women it's because of her ability to give birth to children. For men, it's because they got their shit together in their 40s compared to when they are in their 20s.
Younger women are fertile and beautiful, older guys have learned how to succeed in life more and the fact that they're old means they've survived this long which today isn't a huge deal but used to be not guaranteed at all.
These encounters aren't the "first rodeo" for the guys. They know more of what they can expect. They more of what they would like. They can appreciate the attributes of a woman with more patience, understanding and appreciation than the younger guys. Thank you , ladies.
My assumption for the reference men here is men usually with health maintained properly gets tougher as they grow. It's like ripening with a good taste (of sex as well) so this attraction. Where as in girls, they look hot as soon as puberty and even they get hot as days goes by but afterwards due to libido or due to life events gets declining
I do not consider older men to be hot. I think men look best in their mid to late-20's and then they just start looking old. I think women generally look their best in their early to late 20's.
Because it's all about fulfilling that biological need to reproduce. A younger woman is more fertile where as a older man has more resources to provide for a family.
It's pretty simple when you just consider what each sex values most in the opposite sex (by their very nature).
For a man, a woman is about passing on his genes via the most healthy mother who is most likely to also provide good genes and be a good mother to his children. Younger women obviously fulfill that need better than older women.
For a woman, a man is about resources to support her and her children, and older men consistently offer a women more and better resources.
Young women are more fertile and older men are more mature, look and act more masculine and charismatic therefore both are sexy for opposite gender. Young men behave like children and they are less masculine, their faces look childish so they appear less manly. Here you have it. This is the explanation
In most cases, Men age better and have a maturity mixed with that child that never leaves his spirit, also a knowledge that younger men do not... WOMEN, more physically mature and quite shapely at younger ages then guys of the same generation. Men are supposed to have a gruff kinda ragged edge to them that we do not posess untill around out 30s. Women for most part are at thair most sexually appealing in mid 20s to 30s for most guys... at least this is just what i have gathered in my time..
I feel like when it comes to younger women... it has to do with looks and āfreshnessā but when it comes to an older man, itās all about maturity level.
Brcause the older man is seen as this suave and charismatic older bachelor and of course a beautiful woman is a beautifulwoman, so, together, they give off this sexy fantasy
Well, younger women for me even age 30, she can still get pregnant and have a baby together sure the age difference is 23 years older but she would be hot for me
Generally, women look for height, wealth and the ability of the man to protect them, which is more likely to happen in maturity, while genetically men look for young women as they are still able to get pregnant and supply them a child
most older guys are more knowledgable, are more inclined to settle down where as many younger guys (while not all) are more interested in doing their own things, aren't ready to settle or deal with life's issues
I don't think every woman would agree with that. But there are a lot of women who for many different reasons will date and or marry older men. Often because they like the maturity of the older guy and they happen to just match. Some women are interested in money and power, so they go with men who are even older.
There are so many different reasons that no two situations are the same. So I'm only speaking in broadly general terms. But different people like different things.
I wouldn't say they are so hot, but more attractive sure. The psychology behind it is guys want the young because they aren't as "used" and makes them feel more powerful. But an older guy is more stable and experienced which makes them more interesting to younger people.
Some women have aged very well and are very hot even at 50 to 65 years old, but I admit I'm most attracted to perhaps 18 to 28 years old women, even though I'm already 39 years old.
Not especially sure. I do find a lot of older men attractive, but they must be well kept. That's probably it, since a lot of younger guys still don't even shower every other day or brush their teeth regularly.
No idea. Some things just are the way they are and there's no need for science to explain it. It's almost like asking why do electrons or molecules exist.
But in essence young women are beautiful and older men have more money than young men.
It's hypergamy. It's highlighting that what men and women want are different things, and when taken to a extremes old rich men want young pretty women. And vice versa
Younger women are more fertile then older women. This is what attracts men. Older men tend to have more resources and higher social standing, this is what attracts women
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