This is a poll version vs an open ended question post I had earlier
They are funny
They have a good profile picture
You share common interests
They volunteer and like to help others
They are healthy and fit
They are a social drinker
They have a detailed profile
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You know what I find ironic. I am not a social drinker myself but about 50 perfect of profile pictures are taken of people drinking... Yet not one made that an interest on this poll 🤔 very interesting
What is the biggest turn on, on someone's dating profile?
If you use the phrase, "biggest turn on" then technically speaking that would be the photos, how the person looks, and if that appeals to your sensibilities (and I'm not just talking about a shirtless guy who's buff.)
But if you really mean what is most important, or the biggest factor in contacting that person, or the biggest draw to them... it's going to be their personality and if it seems compatible.
What is really, really important to all people (at least, equally to both sexes) is how the person treats the other person/partner. But from profile bios, one cannot gauge that very well. So in the beginning, women base their interest MORE on what the men write in their bios, and men based their interest MORE on the girls' pics. Eventually, these will crossover more, but at the beginning, men are looking at the more superficial exterior, and the girls need much more. (This is proven in eye scans and read rates. It is not subjective.) Some men will say that girls are getting more superficial, focusing more on looks, and in the hookup-centric culture, I am sure that is absolutely true. But historically, and for long term partner searching, both sexes know they must compromise on some things, to get a reasonably balanced partner in the end.
Men: girls spend a lot of time to get those pictures they post. Think hundreds. Friends are involved, filters, you name it. They know it's what you care about. So you need to seriously consider putting more time into getting some good ones, yourself. Girls care less, but they do care. And you can't omit writing about yourself. They're reading that too. They're looking at everything... carefully. (Unless it's Tinder, then you know what the deal is. Everyone's looking for the hottest they can get, and not much else matters.)
A long, detailed profile: because I want to know who I'm dealing with and what his intentions are upfront. Now most people will say long profiles are offputting or no one will read them? No that's just called being lazy. The right person will!
Common interests of course: why date someone that you have nothing in common with? That's a disaster waiting to happen.
And of course a guy that's fit and healthy: that shows he cares about his health, we would have a common interest (see point above), and we could workout together!
A good profile picture helps, but it's not a requirement for me since I know someone take terrible pictures (myself included). As long as it's not some cliche, bathroom or mirror selfie, that's a step in the right direction.
Of course these factors vary by person, that's just what I personally consider.
What the? People actually say long profiles are offputting? I figured the more details the better. It's a thousand times better than having a profile with no information and just pictures.
@93_n_on back when I had a dating profile, it was detailed.
I kid you not, I had several guys admit to me they thought it was too long, they didn't read all of it (why would you admit that to me?), or it was too wordy.
I merely pointed out what I was looking for and some of my hobbies and interests. But if your profile is longer than a paragraph, apparently that repels lazy people that don't want to read.
@93_n_on I will admit I can... ramble at times (see some of my rants on here, lol). But that's only when I'm really passionate about a topic or want to get my point across!
I rather be too detailed than not detailed enough- you know? And you know what's another pet peeve of mine- and I recall seeing this a lot on most dating profiles. People that say, "I'm not sure what to say about myself, just message/ask me..." No! That's shows me they're not even trying- a pretty face isn't enough to impress me: I want effort guys!
I feel you and true about the details. Message? Nah like my tinder says a lot and matches my ig and all like my interest I said here and before. At least the real ones and not the fake ones people made 😒😂
Nothing turns me on about a social media profile. 10-10 the person on social media is not who they portrait to be and people are forever growing/changing. Social media to me is only for connecting with people you know, business purposes or helping other with things. To me it's really weird and inauthentic to meet someone over social media. I wouldn't have met my wife if we were forced to meet on social media. She was blonde and I don't like blondes, I'm very different from her "normal" type. I've asked her if we met on social media would you swipe left or right? She says based off her physical type she would have not wanted to pursue me. Not because I'm a ugly as fuck but because I'm not what she's familiar with. At the end of the day, you want someone whose personality you love. You need to be able to hang out with that person without sex, without partying, without all the bullshit. Social media takes away that organic experience of meeting a person. Fuck social media for dating, meet in person.
My biggest turn on or turn off on a person's dating profile has to be their values. Values are principles that shape the attitude and behaviour of a person. The values a person expresses on their profile can be an indicator of their behaviour including the ones identified in the above pool.
For example, a profile states: "I sometimes dance around naked in my flat". This may indicate a carefree, easygoing, open or fun person.
A profile states: "I work in homelessness/homeless prevention". This could indicate a deeply caring, altruistic, approachable, or easy-to-connect person.
Definitely A, if I don't find them funny and don't share a similar humor with them, then I usually won't connect with them or end up liking them. By the slim chance I try giving it a chance, it doesn't work due to the humor difference, I gotta find them funny and enjoy talking to them.
I think I can relate to this question because I see someone posting about any guy, then I will search for that guy! I know I am coming off as a judgy person but honestly, I will go after the good looks of that person! I am talking about instagram. his profile picture will attract me and I would love to know more about him. I think if you are able to see people's profile, then only you can see how that person actually looks!
Must be a combination. Except... I am looking for a few interests but not describing your personality with words like "funny" since it's for me to decide and also seems weird since it's not attractive if a person is "one" way all of the time.
I am much more affected by turn off factors in a woman's profile: • they smoke • they post pictures of pets (no person) • they post pictures of kids (other than incidental) • they whinge • they complain about "meet me" (because they don't understand that mutual likes are what it is about). • they post pictures without themselves in.
First of all you can out anything on a profile. It doesn't make it true. She could be using photos that's not hers or maybe her photos has been touched up with Photoshop.
You know what would turn me on? If she actually agrees to meet in person.
That was a tough poll. I had a hard time choosing between good profile pic, common interest, volunteering and being helpful, fitness, and having a detailed profile. I chose common interest cause that includes my hobbies as well as the volunteering and fitness choice so I saw it as killing three birds with one stone.
I voted detailed profile. Because that shows me that they care enough to put in the time, meaning they're actually taking it seriously. And it also gives me the opportunity to see a little bit about who they are as a person.
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