How to meet a girl spontaneously?

[Rocknroll93]

I've never asked a girl out before because I've heard a lot that people meet each other randomly, or out of the blue, or spontaneously. i used to want a girlfriend about 7 years ago, but then I stopped looking and just focused on myself and hobbies and work without even thinking about girls. Sometimes when im out and about doing my own thing girls look at me, and i'd ignore them or something and not look or even talk to them because "stop looking". It has to be spontaneous right? serendipity. Not only that but im socially anxious to even talk to a girl because im worried she'll probably think im "looking" or "chasing". Seriously, what happens when im out and about and i see someone i like? I have no problem smiling at people or girls but I just ignore talking to them. Hence "Stop looking".

[teamvic]

Well that can be spontaneous, you're just out and about and a girl looks at you and y'all talk. Like you never had the intent to go find someone. But you did

We you shouldve but your mindset is it HAS to be when you're not looking. Just live your life , if you see a girl you like the smile at her do SOMETHING. Ignoring her sure won't make her think you're into her

[Rocknroll93]

Should i approach a girl and talk next time I'm out and about?

[teamvic]

Well i mean you can but then your planning it

But its not bad to just approach a girl

If you want then go ahead haha

[Rocknroll93]

I just dont get how "stop looking" makes a girl appear out of the blue

[teamvic]

It means not planning to find a girl will help you find a "good one"

Which can only work so much because if you dont look then maybe that last girl that was smiling could've been your next girl but you were ignoring her so it never happened

[Rocknroll93]

Well there is someone I like who did smile at me and I said hi, but now I'm thinking I'd like to ask this girl out next time I have a conversation with her. I'm just afraid to do anything because I worry that I'm "looking" or coming off desperate

[Rocknroll93]

Not to mention the fear of rejection